Topic: Who wears the pants in the relationship?
RoamingOrator's photo
Fri 07/23/10 04:59 PM



Better form of entertainment: http://www.collegehumor.com/

Anyway, why does anyone have to wear pants at all?


Well Fear, I had to check it out. That pic of the week stuff was hillarious!!!laugh laugh

MelodyGirl's photo
Fri 07/23/10 05:00 PM

Please, spare me with all your negative comments. I have had some great women but no matter what, the women all end up being the same in one area. They don't refuse sex for anything other than to attempt to discipline or to get him to do something they want. A lot of the women on this site, although the women will try to disagree, are searching for perfection. Whether it be visual perfection, monetary perfection and or in most cases a combination of both. The women make sad attempts at using big words to sound more educated but most lack one thing that's important, class and empathy. What you women should be doing is accepting flaws and agreeing to disagree because a persons flaws and opinions are what make a person unique as an individual. It's funny how women can't stand when they are called out. Too bad!! The truth hurts. Get over yourselves.


You are missing a HUGE concept. PEOPLE (not just women) and searching for THEIR Mr/Mrs Perfect. People shouldn’t settle and have an “Oh, you’ll do” attitude.

My version of perfect will differ greatly from another women's version of perfect because we have different tastes - as well as different levels of acceptance.

Yes, everyone has flaws. The process is finding compatibility within the range of two personalities.

Perfect to me is not perfect to anyone else - he is perfect (for me) nonetheless.

I will not risk accumulating baggage from useless relationships because I am dating a guy who is not right for me.

What the heck is wrong with a woman who is highly educated? If she can effectively communicate with an extensive vocabulary – why would that bother you?

Can you spare us from your negative comments? Do you expect only a one-way conversation?

msmyka's photo
Fri 07/23/10 05:02 PM
Look Melody, womins have their place and it is not our job to talk back or have an opinion. We should be grateful that ANY guy wants to put up with us and not be so picky about who.

dconexion's photo
Fri 07/23/10 05:02 PM

It's amazing how many women on here discount what I say with poor humor and negative comments. All of you women who responded with negativity and poor use of wording only prove I am right. Women as a general rule try to act like they know it all and will do anything to make the guy feel like he wears the pants with their twisted ways but as a rule women will do anything up to and including refusing sex to get what they want.
Interesting, although I share your critical thinking, and do not defend the following argument, there is such a thing as the law of the people, you are saying out loud what no one wants to hear, of course you will meet violent repression (violent=controlling or demeaning)

I'm just putting my money on the women out there, like I have met many, who are against femini-faschism, who have a profound interest and respect for men, and not just for their material/ physical qualities or as entertaining accessories, and who can basically take out their own garbage.

Now, basic mechanics...after writing this, there will be a slew of outcry and the sophistics begin, it's men that do this, it's men that do that, but don't blame women for this...it's a human thing to put down the other side, we do it too, it's the basest of instincts, us and them.

For women to take their place in society they had to become politicized, and they took their politics to the bedroom (Machiaveli: the state is the only justification the state needs to justify itself.), so of course they hoot and hauler whenever you are the least bit critical, heaven forbid we should question the presumed natural order, they are people like men and you are trying to reason with the mass(this is a generic statement and not directed at the lovely folks on the mingle2 forums

Oh God will this neurosis ever end

MelodyGirl's photo
Fri 07/23/10 05:04 PM

Look Melody, womins have their place and it is not our job to talk back or have an opinion. We should be grateful that ANY guy wants to put up with us and not be so picky about who.


OH! Pardon me. blushing *moves to the back of the bus* laugh

no photo
Fri 07/23/10 05:08 PM
:angel: ... We rotate the skort and kilt between us ...















Commando, babay ... pitchfork

msharmony's photo
Fri 07/23/10 05:08 PM


It's amazing how many women on here discount what I say with poor humor and negative comments. All of you women who responded with negativity and poor use of wording only prove I am right. Women as a general rule try to act like they know it all and will do anything to make the guy feel like he wears the pants with their twisted ways but as a rule women will do anything up to and including refusing sex to get what they want.
Interesting, although I share your critical thinking, and do not defend the following argument, there is such a thing as the law of the people, you are saying out loud what no one wants to hear, of course you will meet violent repression (violent=controlling or demeaning)

I'm just putting my money on the women out there, like I have met many, who are against femini-faschism, who have a profound interest and respect for men, and not just for their material/ physical qualities or as entertaining accessories, and who can basically take out their own garbage.

Now, basic mechanics...after writing this, there will be a slew of outcry and the sophistics begin, it's men that do this, it's men that do that, but don't blame women for this...it's a human thing to put down the other side, we do it too, it's the basest of instincts, us and them.

For women to take their place in society they had to become politicized, and they took their politics to the bedroom (Machiaveli: the state is the only justification the state needs to justify itself.), so of course they hoot and hauler whenever you are the least bit critical, heaven forbid we should question the presumed natural order, they are people like men and you are trying to reason with the mass(this is a generic statement and not directed at the lovely folks on the mingle2 forums

Oh God will this neurosis ever end


I am still not sure what is meant by taking politics to the bedroom, is it still an EXPECTATION that women have sex regardless of how they FEEL to please the man? shouldnt both WANT to have sex? I think I am missing why this should pose a problem....

RoamingOrator's photo
Fri 07/23/10 05:08 PM
I've got a question:


Should I have my pants on while I'm reading this? blushing

soufiehere's photo
Fri 07/23/10 05:14 PM

I've got a question:
Should I have my pants on while I'm reading this? blushing

No, no.
We are all pantless.
So as not to take sides.


no photo
Fri 07/23/10 05:14 PM

I've got a question:


Should I have my pants on while I'm reading this? blushing


I don't ... shades

msmyka's photo
Fri 07/23/10 05:15 PM
You are SO much nicer than I am Melody.


dconexion's photo
Fri 07/23/10 05:18 PM
Hi thanks for the question.

Taking politics to the bedroom for me means treating your relationship like it was a political forum. As if the relationship itself was a social act rather than an intimate one.

MelodyGirl's photo
Fri 07/23/10 05:20 PM

You are SO much nicer than I am Melody.




Oh, I am biting my tongue big time but I don't want to stoop to a certain level. winking

People with tattoos are far more attractive up here, right Myka? We can look down and see the turbulent cesspool clearly without having to swim in the muck.

Besides, when you see a pig in the mud it's much better not to jump in and argue with him. Pretty soon you'll be just as muddy as the pig and no one can tell you apart from the pig!

rofl rofl rofl rofl

dconexion's photo
Fri 07/23/10 05:25 PM


You are SO much nicer than I am Melody.




Oh, I am biting my tongue big time but I don't want to stoop to a certain level. winking

People with tattoos are far more attractive up here, right Myka? We can look down and see the turbulent cesspool clearly without having to swim in the muck.

Besides, when you see a pig in the mud it's much better not to jump in and argue with him. Pretty soon you'll be just as muddy as the pig and no one can tell you apart from the pig!

rofl rofl rofl rofl

That is SO true,

msmyka's photo
Fri 07/23/10 05:28 PM


You are SO much nicer than I am Melody.




Oh, I am biting my tongue big time but I don't want to stoop to a certain level. winking

People with tattoos are far more attractive up here, right Myka? We can look down and see the turbulent cesspool clearly without having to swim in the muck.

Besides, when you see a pig in the mud it's much better not to jump in and argue with him. Pretty soon you'll be just as muddy as the pig and no one can tell you apart from the pig!

rofl rofl rofl rofl



Yes, but the truth shall set you free! If your woman won't have sex with you it probably means you suck at it. Just sayin.

MelodyGirl's photo
Fri 07/23/10 05:31 PM



You are SO much nicer than I am Melody.




Oh, I am biting my tongue big time but I don't want to stoop to a certain level. winking

People with tattoos are far more attractive up here, right Myka? We can look down and see the turbulent cesspool clearly without having to swim in the muck.

Besides, when you see a pig in the mud it's much better not to jump in and argue with him. Pretty soon you'll be just as muddy as the pig and no one can tell you apart from the pig!

rofl rofl rofl rofl



Yes, but the truth shall set you free! If your woman won't have sex with you it probably means you suck at it. Just sayin.


THIS I agree with completely! :thumbsup:

I'll break up with a dude if he is bad in bed. There is no sense in punishing ME for his lack of skills! laugh

dconexion's photo
Fri 07/23/10 05:47 PM




You are SO much nicer than I am Melody.




Oh, I am biting my tongue big time but I don't want to stoop to a certain level. winking

People with tattoos are far more attractive up here, right Myka? We can look down and see the turbulent cesspool clearly without having to swim in the muck.

Besides, when you see a pig in the mud it's much better not to jump in and argue with him. Pretty soon you'll be just as muddy as the pig and no one can tell you apart from the pig!

rofl rofl rofl rofl



Yes, but the truth shall set you free! If your woman won't have sex with you it probably means you suck at it. Just sayin.


THIS I agree with completely! :thumbsup:

I'll break up with a dude if he is bad in bed. There is no sense in punishing ME for his lack of skills! laugh

Personally I like women who know what to do with a man and don't just wait for things to happen.

MelodyGirl's photo
Fri 07/23/10 05:51 PM





You are SO much nicer than I am Melody.




Oh, I am biting my tongue big time but I don't want to stoop to a certain level. winking

People with tattoos are far more attractive up here, right Myka? We can look down and see the turbulent cesspool clearly without having to swim in the muck.

Besides, when you see a pig in the mud it's much better not to jump in and argue with him. Pretty soon you'll be just as muddy as the pig and no one can tell you apart from the pig!

rofl rofl rofl rofl



Yes, but the truth shall set you free! If your woman won't have sex with you it probably means you suck at it. Just sayin.


THIS I agree with completely! :thumbsup:

I'll break up with a dude if he is bad in bed. There is no sense in punishing ME for his lack of skills! laugh

Personally I like women who know what to do with a man and don't just wait for things to happen.


It’s the responsibility of BOTH people - not just one or the other. winking

A person with skills vs. a person who is not skilled = bad sex. Who cares which person is skilled - the end result is the same; no bueno!

msharmony's photo
Fri 07/23/10 05:54 PM
skills are only RARELY natural,, most skills(including sexual) are learned,,

if everything else in a relationship is going well, communication must be working, if communication is working, we can always LEARN what works for our partner,,,

msharmony's photo
Fri 07/23/10 05:58 PM
what is an fwb partner,,,,,?