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so of the 3 billion members of the opposite sex, how many do you think can get you off? is this really the crowning achievement of our civilization? is there nothing more gratifying we could be working towards? Self gratification? 
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Edited by
AMGaudio
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Sun 08/01/10 01:28 PM
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see this is how I get so serious. But what happens when your dead? You can't have sex anymore. Does that mean we don't exist anymore?
See, instead of self-gratification, the essence of my being is gratification of others. But in my experience of trying to gratify everyone, just a few people, and individuals in the wrong method, I have realized that you can't try and gratify everyone. I'm sure there's probably one billion people on earth that I could have earth-shattering sex with. Seriously here, I think I'm pretty good. And if that is the benchmark that we are measuring against, we will all have a grand ol' time measuring up. However, this is unprofitable for YOU. I'm sure the other people you're working to gratify will be satisfied (we are real good at this after all, we have enough practice), but who is going to satisfy you? This is the issue at hand. If you truly seek to take someone else's needs, wants, and desires as your own, there is no room for anything else. The only way to truly be gratified is to seek another's as your own. But this is totally unsustainable in any situation excepting a monogamous relationship, because you're only one person and there's only 24 hours in a day. And I will make the argument for marriage at this point. And really we should be seeking to gratify God's purposes in our lifes, not our own or anyone elses. That's why this is the model for the marriage relationship. |
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A girlfriend and I were dissecting the pros and cons of relationship/cohabitating, the dance of dating thingo the other day.... and I decided to ask... why do I put on war paint, shoes and a frock.....just so I can hook a man and do a his washing, and feed him...? ....and of course, the answer would be .... for the MAN-datory GREAT sex. When I do it, its mostly to feel good about myself, to put some effort and time into myself is not something I get to do alot of as a single mother. As to the rest, if I 'hook' one, any washing and feeding I do will be for US and not him, just as his income will no longer be his but 'ours'. |
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see this is how I get so serious. But what happens when your dead? You can't have sex anymore. Does that mean we don't exist anymore? See, instead of self-gratification, the essence of my being is gratification of others. But in my experience of trying to gratify everyone, just a few people, and individuals in the wrong method, I have realized that you can't try and gratify everyone. I'm sure there's probably one billion people on earth that I could have earth-shattering sex with. Seriously here, I think I'm pretty good. And if that is the benchmark that we are measuring against, we will all have a grand ol' time measuring up. However, this is unprofitable for YOU. I'm sure the other people you're working to gratify will be satisfied (we are real good at this after all, we have enough practice), but who is going to satisfy you? This is the issue at hand. If you truly seek to take someone else's needs, wants, and desires as your own, there is no room for anything else. The only way to truly be gratified is to seek another's as your own. But this is totally unsustainable in any situation excepting a monogamous relationship, because you're only one person and there's only 24 hours in a day. And I will make the argument for marriage at this point. And really we should be seeking to gratify God's purposes in our lifes, not our own or anyone elses. That's why this is the model for the marriage relationship. Well, since I really do believe that when you're dead, you're dead, then that's not a problem. So are you going to become abstinent for the rest of your life, even if you get married again? After a divorce, since it says you're separated. If you want to take it religious, God gave us sex as a way to bond, to gratify each other and whatever higher spiritual being one comes in touch with. Or rather, whatever other non Judeo-Christian-Muslim spiritual being, anyways. The others religions tend to be a little more open-minded and honoring the effects of sex, sensuality, and sexuality we humans have, and the co-mingling of the sacred and the profane. Generally, that means more then a quick boink, but for some even that might work. Sex can be physical and spiritually involved, and there's certainly nothing wasteful about that. |
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Could you live without sex if everything else in a relationship is great? I'm not asking because I don't want to have it.... just so you know.... : 0 no, why bother with the relationship then? if my girlfriend doesn't want to give me any, she's not gunna be my GF then. that's what friends are for. |
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Nope...been there...done that...had the sexual frustration to prove it!
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yeah when i'm 80 years old  me too well maybe!
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yeah when i'm 80 years old me too well maybe!  theres always viagra
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see this is how I get so serious. But what happens when your dead? You can't have sex anymore. Does that mean we don't exist anymore? See, instead of self-gratification, the essence of my being is gratification of others. But in my experience of trying to gratify everyone, just a few people, and individuals in the wrong method, I have realized that you can't try and gratify everyone. I'm sure there's probably one billion people on earth that I could have earth-shattering sex with. Seriously here, I think I'm pretty good. And if that is the benchmark that we are measuring against, we will all have a grand ol' time measuring up. However, this is unprofitable for YOU. I'm sure the other people you're working to gratify will be satisfied (we are real good at this after all, we have enough practice), but who is going to satisfy you? This is the issue at hand. If you truly seek to take someone else's needs, wants, and desires as your own, there is no room for anything else. The only way to truly be gratified is to seek another's as your own. But this is totally unsustainable in any situation excepting a monogamous relationship, because you're only one person and there's only 24 hours in a day. And I will make the argument for marriage at this point. And really we should be seeking to gratify God's purposes in our lifes, not our own or anyone elses. That's why this is the model for the marriage relationship. EEEEEEEEEEKKKKKKKKKKKK!!!!!!!!!!!!!   
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not gonna worry about that now!
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see this is how I get so serious. But what happens when your dead? You can't have sex anymore. Does that mean we don't exist anymore? See, instead of self-gratification, the essence of my being is gratification of others. But in my experience of trying to gratify everyone, just a few people, and individuals in the wrong method, I have realized that you can't try and gratify everyone. I'm sure there's probably one billion people on earth that I could have earth-shattering sex with. Seriously here, I think I'm pretty good. And if that is the benchmark that we are measuring against, we will all have a grand ol' time measuring up. However, this is unprofitable for YOU. I'm sure the other people you're working to gratify will be satisfied (we are real good at this after all, we have enough practice), but who is going to satisfy you? This is the issue at hand. If you truly seek to take someone else's needs, wants, and desires as your own, there is no room for anything else. The only way to truly be gratified is to seek another's as your own. But this is totally unsustainable in any situation excepting a monogamous relationship, because you're only one person and there's only 24 hours in a day. And I will make the argument for marriage at this point. And really we should be seeking to gratify God's purposes in our lifes, not our own or anyone elses. That's why this is the model for the marriage relationship. agreed, but everyone finds their own happiness,,,,, sex as the goal was never a source of happiness in any relationship for me either |
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I can't win.... when I was married I didn't want it and now 10 years later I do.... women in their 40s should date men in their 20s.... that's all I got to say.... oh no, here come the emails....   AMEN! Preach on, sister! You know I love you cougars! 
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see this is how I get so serious. But what happens when your dead? You can't have sex anymore. Does that mean we don't exist anymore? See, instead of self-gratification, the essence of my being is gratification of others. But in my experience of trying to gratify everyone, just a few people, and individuals in the wrong method, I have realized that you can't try and gratify everyone. I'm sure there's probably one billion people on earth that I could have earth-shattering sex with. Seriously here, I think I'm pretty good. And if that is the benchmark that we are measuring against, we will all have a grand ol' time measuring up. However, this is unprofitable for YOU. I'm sure the other people you're working to gratify will be satisfied (we are real good at this after all, we have enough practice), but who is going to satisfy you? This is the issue at hand. If you truly seek to take someone else's needs, wants, and desires as your own, there is no room for anything else. The only way to truly be gratified is to seek another's as your own. But this is totally unsustainable in any situation excepting a monogamous relationship, because you're only one person and there's only 24 hours in a day. And I will make the argument for marriage at this point. And really we should be seeking to gratify God's purposes in our lifes, not our own or anyone elses. That's why this is the model for the marriage relationship. agreed, but everyone finds their own happiness,,,,, sex as the goal was never a source of happiness in any relationship for me either |
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see this is how I get so serious. But what happens when your dead? You can't have sex anymore. Does that mean we don't exist anymore? See, instead of self-gratification, the essence of my being is gratification of others. But in my experience of trying to gratify everyone, just a few people, and individuals in the wrong method, I have realized that you can't try and gratify everyone. I'm sure there's probably one billion people on earth that I could have earth-shattering sex with. Seriously here, I think I'm pretty good. And if that is the benchmark that we are measuring against, we will all have a grand ol' time measuring up. However, this is unprofitable for YOU. I'm sure the other people you're working to gratify will be satisfied (we are real good at this after all, we have enough practice), but who is going to satisfy you? This is the issue at hand. If you truly seek to take someone else's needs, wants, and desires as your own, there is no room for anything else. The only way to truly be gratified is to seek another's as your own. But this is totally unsustainable in any situation excepting a monogamous relationship, because you're only one person and there's only 24 hours in a day. And I will make the argument for marriage at this point. And really we should be seeking to gratify God's purposes in our lifes, not our own or anyone elses. That's why this is the model for the marriage relationship. The problem with that argument is that originally, marriages (even Christian ones) were polygamous. You seem to argue that the monogamous marriage is "God's model", but few bible characters use it. |
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Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh Helllllllllllll Noooooooooo!
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Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh Helllllllllllll Noooooooooo! It's almost toooo scary to think about.
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Nope....
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Could you live without sex if everything else in a relationship is great? I'm not asking because I don't want to have it.... just so you know.... : 0 no way!
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Sex is a definite plus!
But not a absolute requirement if you find the person who fits your heart. I've said it before, I'll say it again. If the tongue ain't paralyzed..we're good!   
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Sex is a definite plus! But not a absolute requirement if you find the person who fits your heart. I've said it before, I'll say it again. If the tongue ain't paralyzed..we're good! You said it baby
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