Topic: What Are Women Really Looking For?.
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Sun 08/08/10 08:27 PM
Edited by MikeAngel on Sun 08/08/10 08:30 PM





Mike, Welcome to Mingle. I am sure you can find nice women in your area that are not looking for the bad boy. The reason I can say this for sure is because I live in your area!


Batter up Mike...she has just thrown you an easy pitch!!
laugh laugh Not at all!! I just didn't appreciate the insinuation that ladies in my area are not interested in decent guys
If you read the first paragraph, you WILL see I was not "insinuating" anything.
I read it Mike. I am sorry someone took advantage of you and your good nature. It just seemed to me from the post that you have encountered this more than once. I just wanted to let you know that it is not the norm from where I am in the suburbs of the city. Good Luck! There are ladies who would appreciate a decent guy.
I am a no-nonsense type of a guy.

I treat the women I date right. I take them on vacations on "my dime". They don't have to spend a penny when out with me.

The only thing I ask is be treated with respect.

When I see they are taking me for granted or not respecting me, for whatever reason, they get dumped. As easy as that.


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Sun 08/08/10 08:33 PM









What matters is - people like what they like without logic.





This is 100% true. In fact, you simply never know who you will like. You can have a list of traits, or qualifications that you like in a person. But the fact is, when you see someone, or talk to them, you can find yourself liking this person....and it'll blow your mind.


HEY! spock

I resemble that concept! winking :angel:


I can't help it if you have a list that no, mere mortal Earth man will ever live up to!:tongue: laugh


With all of the people on this planet there are a few guys who possess all of the qualities I seek. It's not like I want him to have Super Hero talents (although .... :angel: ). :laughing:

Guys walk around in SoCal in groups like I describe; however, most are dumb as stumps! tears




She said "stumps". laugh laugh



On that note. I believe we should have a moment of silence for Mr. Bobbitt......smokin


"Takes off hat and bows head"


I will tell you one thing. It is cold to cut off someones junk, but then take it for a trip in a car an throw it out the window. That's just cold.......smokin

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Sun 08/08/10 08:38 PM
Edited by dconexion on Sun 08/08/10 08:40 PM
You have a right to say NO to women.

You have to stand up to yourself for your right to happiness.


But don't forget to bend a little.

L'homme est un roseau pensant. -Pascal

(Man is a thinking reed)

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Sun 08/08/10 08:43 PM
Most people, not just women... don't know what they want. They bounce around looking for something that will 'complete' them. When we are able to find peace with ourselves, enjoy our own company and understand who we are, then we know what qualities in another person will bring us happiness.

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Sun 08/08/10 08:47 PM

You have a right to say NO to women.

You have to stand up to yourself for your right to happiness.


But don't forget to bend a little.

L'homme est un roseau pensant. -Pascal

(Man is a thinking reed)
I see nothing wrong with bending for a woman you think is worth it.

But I'll be darned it after treating someone like gold she is going to take me for granted. I won't let it happen.

Even my brother says that I am LOCO for dumping the last woman I was with. For something he says is "minor". Well, it's not "minor" to me, therefore, bye bye and "hasta la vista, baby".

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Sun 08/08/10 08:52 PM


The lazy bum without a job has a big weiner


laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh


Note: This is NOT a reversible statement.

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Sun 08/08/10 08:52 PM
Edited by MikeAngel on Sun 08/08/10 08:59 PM

Most people, not just women... don't know what they want. They bounce around looking for something that will 'complete' them. When we are able to find peace with ourselves, enjoy our own company and understand who we are, then we know what qualities in another person will bring us happiness.
This is my motto:

There's only one person I love more than I love myself: My mother.

That said, I will NEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEVER love a woman more than I love myself.

Perhaps the reason why I can move on so quickly.

But I will always threat them great.

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Sun 08/08/10 08:58 PM


I treat the women I date right. I take them on vacations on "my dime". They don't have to spend a penny when out with me.

The only thing I ask is be treated with respect.

When I see they are taking me for granted or not respecting me, for whatever reason, they get dumped. As easy as that.




While it's nice that you like to spend money on the women you date, it isn't going to ensure they stay with you. Try just being yourself, rather than spending money on them. Buying gifts and paying for their vacations aren't necessarily going to make women want you more.

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Sun 08/08/10 09:04 PM
Edited by MikeAngel on Sun 08/08/10 09:09 PM



I treat the women I date right. I take them on vacations on "my dime". They don't have to spend a penny when out with me.

The only thing I ask is be treated with respect.

When I see they are taking me for granted or not respecting me, for whatever reason, they get dumped. As easy as that.




While it's nice that you like to spend money on the women you date, it isn't going to ensure they stay with you. Try just being yourself, rather than spending money on them. Buying gifts and paying for their vacations aren't necessarily going to make women want you more.
You are missing the point.

I don't take them on vacations, nor do I buy them things for them to want me, I do it because they are already with me.

Are you willing to tell me that if your boyfriend tells you he is going on vacation and he wants you to oome along, at his expense, that you will say no?.

If you say yes you are lying.

So what's a man to do?. Go on vacation and not invite the woman he has been dating?.

If he doesn't, who will stop her from nagging, bitching, whining, crying and complaining that he didn't ask?. laugh laugh laugh


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Sun 08/08/10 09:13 PM


Are you willing to tell me that if your boyfriend tells you he is going on vacation and he wants you to oome along, at his expense, that you will say no?.



I have my own money and I would pay my own way. :thumbsup:

I don't allow anyone to manipulate me because of money.

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Sun 08/08/10 09:14 PM
Love, trust and respect have to be mutual and earned. If you give all of these things blindly to someone with out making them earn it, why should they even try?

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Sun 08/08/10 09:17 PM

So what is it that women want, a decent man who will treat them great or a lazy bad boy who treats them like a door mat?.


In my experience, they want booze, babies, and a guy who either has no brain or who is OK with turning it off permanently.


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Sun 08/08/10 09:20 PM



Are you willing to tell me that if your boyfriend tells you he is going on vacation and he wants you to oome along, at his expense, that you will say no?.



I have my own money and I would pay my own way. :thumbsup:

I don't allow anyone to manipulate me because of money.
Oh pleeeeeeeeeeeease.

There's no way that if you are in love with someone and that someone wants to take you on vacation you will say "no, I'll pay my own way", even if you have more money than God.


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Sun 08/08/10 09:22 PM

Love, trust and respect have to be mutual and earned. If you give all of these things blindly to someone with out making them earn it, why should they even try?
Hey, at times they do earn it.

The problem starts when they start taking it for granted.

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Sun 08/08/10 09:24 PM




Are you willing to tell me that if your boyfriend tells you he is going on vacation and he wants you to oome along, at his expense, that you will say no?.



I have my own money and I would pay my own way. :thumbsup:

I don't allow anyone to manipulate me because of money.
Oh pleeeeeeeeeeeease.

There's no way that if you are in love with someone and that someone wants to take you on vacation you will say "no, I'll pay my own way", even if you have more money than God.




In all of my dating years I've never allowed a guy to pay my way on vacation. I don't care whether you believe it or not. This is how I choose to conduct my dating style.

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Sun 08/08/10 09:25 PM
Edited by MikeAngel on Sun 08/08/10 09:26 PM


So what is it that women want, a decent man who will treat them great or a lazy bad boy who treats them like a door mat?.


In my experience, they want booze, babies, and a guy who either has no brain or who is OK with turning it off permanently.


The weakest, the better, to some, I gather.

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Sun 08/08/10 09:26 PM
It seems to me that most people give out their love, trust and respect a little too prematurely... even more so when they are very lonely. I'm pretty sure you probably see warning signs and push them back into your subconscious because you'd rather have their company than be alone.

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Sun 08/08/10 09:27 PM

It seems to me that most people give out their love, trust and respect a little too prematurely... even more so when they are very lonely. I'm pretty sure you probably see warning signs and push them back into your subconscious because you'd rather have their company than be alone.


Yes something about falling in love after the first week of knowing someone seems crazy too me.

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Sun 08/08/10 09:28 PM

It seems to me that most people give out their love, trust and respect a little too prematurely... even more so when they are very lonely. I'm pretty sure you probably see warning signs and push them back into your subconscious because you'd rather have their company than be alone.
You have a point.

But there are many guys out there, like me, that don't mind being alone, every now and then.

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Sun 08/08/10 09:29 PM


It seems to me that most people give out their love, trust and respect a little too prematurely... even more so when they are very lonely. I'm pretty sure you probably see warning signs and push them back into your subconscious because you'd rather have their company than be alone.


Yes something about falling in love after the first week of knowing someone seems crazy too me.
If a woman tells me she has fallen in love with me after 1 week, I'll run to the hills, as if my butt was on fire!.