I am sure there are postings on this topic somewhere within the forum, but I thought I'd start a thread anyway. My dealbreakers are the following: drugs, excessive drinking, kids (I have no problem with children per se, but I am looking for a relationship, not to raise someone else's kids. Also, in many cases, children from a broken home often resent whoever their mother dates or marries), involvement in religious cults, criminal activities, being married or engaged, and living too far away (I am comfortable staying where I am and would never relocate. I wouldn't expect anyone to relocate on my behalf either).

I only have 3 --

No kids, no alcohol, no drugs. Everything else is more or less negotiable, although the distance issue is always a problem.

Or it would be, if it ever got that far. The problem is that 112% of women on dating sites have kids, and 147% of women on dating sites drink, so there's not much of a pool of "eligible candidates" at this point!

no childless , no drunk(those who use drink as entertainment), no drug using, no effeminate, no vulgar, no perpetually unemployed and uneducated, no condescending, no anti religion, no anti Obama/politically paranoid

men

I only date girls with purple hair.

My deal breakers are: hard drugs like meth, Children from another man, A BMI over 30 and nagging.

No kids, if he dislikes animals, no drugs.

drugs, all-tho weed is ok, liars, glams (anyone the feels they need an inch layer of make-up) and clingers...

i can deal with just about anything else...

cant dislike animals either, almost forgot...

My deal breaker is,
dresses like a woman and feels like a man.

I'm pleased with the responses so far! I thought about the issue of dealbreakers a bit more and came up with a few others: poor choice of friends (hanging out with people who use drugs and/or engage in criminal activities, gangs, etc.), really extreme political views (either way), bisexuality (I am not prejudiced against people of other orientations, but dating is different), bad temper or attitude, extremely poor hygiene, and psychosis.
The following, which may be dealbreakers to some, are not problems for me: excess weight (not to the point of debilitation), smoking (cigarettes, maybe cigars, but nothing else), tattoos (provided they are not satanic or hateful), piercings, unusual hairstyles, lack of education, religion different from my own (nothing extreme, though), political philosophy different from my own (again, nothing extreme), temporary unemployment, and weak English speaking (I can help with this).

I am really appreciative of the responses received! Let's keep this thread going!

i do wanna say this... just because a woman has kids doesn't mean there is something wrong with her... i think that the guys that won't date a woman with kids could be missing out on something that could be wonderful... but to each their own, just more for me

Arrogance, narcissism, lack compassion for others, abuse of ANY kind i.e. verbal, physical, etc..., and drug addiction.

1. Tells me, right up front, that she would have a threesome with me and another woman, but as soon as we become exclusive, she up and changes her mind.

2. Smelly feet

3. No respect for football days...which are Saturday and Sunday.

That'd be cool if the woman has a grown daughter. Be a chance for a mother/daughter thang.

Another deal breaker is if she's full blown Lesbean.

It's ok if, she is bi and shares!!

Unemployed,living with thier mom and never have been married in thier forties or fifties somthing is wrong with that picture lol. Bad hygine, guys that think they are GOds gift to woman.guys that want to tell me what to wear and what to do. guys with a temper.no drugs

My main deal breaker is not having your shlt together... whether that be because of drugs, laziness, no job, etc. Time to be a freakin grown up!

Well, I wouldn't be so adamant about it had I not been involved in that kind of scenario so many times in the past. But I've been there often enough to know that it simply isn't for me.

And I really don't think there's anything "wrong" with a woman, just because she has kids -- it's just that it shows she and I have an irreconcilable difference in our value systems.

Dealbreakers: Alcohol and/or drug abuse

Everyone has different values...nothing wrong with that
seems sad that someone might miss their soul-mate because of something like that, but then again, if they had kids by someone else, they weren't destined to be your soul-mate... almost a paradox

i agree i dont want a smoker either since i have enough trouble with cravings

my dealbreaker; if I dont like them.