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Topic: Why do people cheat?
kidriss's photo
Wed 10/20/10 09:37 AM
There's no point. If you feel like the person you're dating is not the best out there for you why not give them a heads up and tell them " hey this is going to get far". And then people get "caught up in the moment" that is such ******** you know what you're doing just be honest. I think people are terrified to tell people the truth and it's so silly. Half the time these people cheat they choose to do so with people who aren't have as great as the person they're with in the first place. What is the world coming to? Can no one stay committed anymore?

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Wed 10/20/10 09:52 AM
some people think the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. it's like the persuit of the bbd (bigger, better, deal) which is neverending. people that are content don't cheat, but if only one is content, than the relationship goes stale for the other. in any relationship it's the communication that makes or breaks it.

kidriss's photo
Wed 10/20/10 09:55 AM
That's what I mean by telling the truth how come people don't communicate hey I'm bored let's try something new instead of just going out to do it with someone else.

AmandaRJ's photo
Wed 10/20/10 12:14 PM

There's no point. If you feel like the person you're dating is not the best out there for you why not give them a heads up and tell them " hey this is going to get far". And then people get "caught up in the moment" that is such ******** you know what you're doing just be honest. I think people are terrified to tell people the truth and it's so silly. Half the time these people cheat they choose to do so with people who aren't have as great as the person they're with in the first place. What is the world coming to? Can no one stay committed anymore?

Do you tell the truth all the time? Everyone lies, people lie for small things, imagine big ones.
The difference is that there are some areas some of us will be honest, but many won't.

We all believe communication is the key for a good relationship, but do we really talk about everything with our partner?

Some people cheat without any reason. They are not happy with some aspect of the relationship and they don't want to bother to talk about it, just go about screwing some people around in hopes to find someone that will fill the void they have, it will never happen, they will screw half the world and will never find what they are looking for, because those people are not able to have anything profound with anyone. And some of us just get caught up in their mess. For some is just about the sex, the thrill of getting away with cheating. I tell you I met some very professional cheaters. In the end everyone gets caught, and seem all contrite. But one thing I noticed from my experience, cheated once, will cheat again. If they left someone to be with you, will leave you to be with another. Is the thing about liers, they have no guts to face confrontation and be responsible for their choices, they will lie till the end.

venusenvy's photo
Wed 10/20/10 12:21 PM
Cause cheaters are cheaters Babe...the trick is, recognize them and dont let them impact your life. You could spend a life-time on why...dont bother, its a waste of energy. flowerforyou

bastet126's photo
Wed 10/20/10 12:24 PM
after 48 hours straight, it was a stale mate, somebody had to take boardwalk and park place.ohwell

metalwing's photo
Wed 10/20/10 12:26 PM
It's genetic ... and leopards don't change their spots.

flawlessmeans's photo
Wed 10/20/10 02:42 PM
I don't know. I never have chated on anyone and luckely I havent ever been cheated on, That I know of.

Rhearabies's photo
Wed 10/20/10 03:29 PM
Low self-esteem, pure and simple

ronfox's photo
Wed 10/20/10 03:31 PM
I got cheated on about 3 1/2 years ago,From then on my trust was smashed. Relationship was on again/off again What a f--ing coaster ride that was. Haven't dated since then. But I am sloooooowly putting myself back in the mainstream. When the trust is gone...Its OVER. Why do people cheat?????? Knowing why doesn't Matter. Took a while to figure out it wasn't my fault. Sometime other people have issues we know nothing about. And love can be blind.
Have a good day>

IchabodCrane's photo
Wed 10/20/10 04:05 PM
yeah me too ron. happened about the same amount of time ago too. Found out in the worst possible way, too. You know what I mean. That pretty much shot my nerves and since I have had a rough time trusting anyone enough to have the balls to go for another relationship.
Why did she cheat? She was obviously unhappy in the relationship and couldnt bring herself to talk to me about. I think that about sums it up. I can't fathom doing that to someone, all i could think about would be how much it could hurt them.
I guess not everyone has the same conscience.

kidriss's photo
Wed 10/20/10 07:44 PM
I know it happens a lot. It just sucks soooooo bad. I know it probably won't be the last time it just gives me little hope that people actually mean what they say. My parents met when they were 15 and have been together ever since so I know being commited to Simone for the long haul does exist it just seems so hard to find.

Ruth34611's photo
Wed 10/20/10 07:47 PM
Ultimately, it doesn't matter why they cheat.

talldude80's photo
Wed 10/20/10 07:49 PM
not exactly sure why. never really crossed my mind. some people are just dirtbags if u ask me. NEVER tolerate a cheater. Dump them and dont look back. that's how i see it. :-)

kidriss's photo
Wed 10/20/10 08:14 PM

not exactly sure why. never really crossed my mind. some people are just dirtbags if u ask me. NEVER tolerate a cheater. Dump them and dont look back. that's how i see it. :-)



You know I thought it would be harder than it was. Around November of last yr she started to act so strange and this guy "her best friend" was always at our house but he was so kind I didn't mind at all well my grandmother fell I'll so I rushed to the hospital to be with her she passed away and I got home around 11 that evening she didn't come home until 6 am. I was really hurt that she wasn't there when I needed her most. Well after Xmas things got better and around February she started acting weird again and one night she came home super late and she smelled really weird. I know that's gross but when you share the same bed with someone for 3 yrs you know when they smell like a man lol. So when she fell asleep I went through her phone I know I shouldn't have but I had to know and all the times I asked her she denied everything. Well not only did I see her testing what she had dine but I also saw pictures I thought I would die. But I packed all my stuff while she was asleep woke her up to ask what she' d done she continued to lie so I left.

Goofball73's photo
Wed 10/20/10 08:14 PM
I blame the Teletubbies. They messed up everyone. And shrinks love it! :tongue: laugh

Ruth34611's photo
Wed 10/20/10 08:16 PM

I blame the Teletubbies. They messed up everyone. And shrinks love it! :tongue: laugh


Those poor Teletubbies take the fall for everything. :cry:

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Wed 10/20/10 08:23 PM


not exactly sure why. never really crossed my mind. some people are just dirtbags if u ask me. NEVER tolerate a cheater. Dump them and dont look back. that's how i see it. :-)



You know I thought it would be harder than it was. Around November of last yr she started to act so strange and this guy "her best friend" was always at our house but he was so kind I didn't mind at all well my grandmother fell I'll so I rushed to the hospital to be with her she passed away and I got home around 11 that evening she didn't come home until 6 am. I was really hurt that she wasn't there when I needed her most. Well after Xmas things got better and around February she started acting weird again and one night she came home super late and she smelled really weird. I know that's gross but when you share the same bed with someone for 3 yrs you know when they smell like a man lol. So when she fell asleep I went through her phone I know I shouldn't have but I had to know and all the times I asked her she denied everything. Well not only did I see her testing what she had dine but I also saw pictures I thought I would die. But I packed all my stuff while she was asleep woke her up to ask what she' d done she continued to lie so I left.

aw dude, that is so harsh. my hats off to you for not fowarding those pics to her mom. that is crazy. you are one cool cat, i am amazed that you have such self control.

kidriss's photo
Wed 10/20/10 08:31 PM



not exactly sure why. never really crossed my mind. some people are just dirtbags if u ask me. NEVER tolerate a cheater. Dump them and dont look back. that's how i see it. :-)



You know I thought it would be harder than it was. Around November of last yr she started to act so strange and this guy "her best friend" was always at our house but he was so kind I didn't mind at all well my grandmother fell I'll so I rushed to the hospital to be with her she passed away and I got home around 11 that evening she didn't come home until 6 am. I was really hurt that she wasn't there when I needed her most. Well after Xmas things got better and around February she started acting weird again and one night she came home super late and she smelled really weird. I know that's gross but when you share the same bed with someone for 3 yrs you know when they smell like a man lol. So when she fell asleep I went through her phone I know I shouldn't have but I had to know and all the times I asked her she denied everything. Well not only did I see her testing what she had dine but I also saw pictures I thought I would die. But I packed all my stuff while she was asleep woke her up to ask what she' d done she continued to lie so I left.

aw dude, that is so harsh. my hats off to you for not fowarding those pics to her mom. that is crazy. you are one

cool cat, i am amazed that you have such self control.




No lol I could of never done that but I seriously thought I might choke her to death lol just joking I thought I would be so angry but I guess because I already had a feeling that I mentally prepared myself I actually slept on the couch for about a week before I found out because I just knew. But it turns out the guy she cheated with is also gay? I kind of hated him for a long time because he was always overly nice but in the end I guess he did me a favor. But I get really weird with this new girl I'm dating now because when her old guy friends come around I sort of give her grief even though she's never given me a reason not to trust her.

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Wed 10/20/10 08:37 PM
seriously dude, that is some kind of self control that you carry around. if you are ever in san antonio, i'm buying. and keep going with your gut, little girls are the devil.

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