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This girl I was dating just told me she wants to just be friends. :/
We haven't gone out very much, just like 4 dates (two of them were with her group of friends though). She's a little timid about dating, she's only had 3 guys in her life (two married / divorced and one live in bf) all of whom caused her major grief. As a result I didn't really get her phone number until after the second date, even then she preferred I give her mine instead of giving me hers. She didn't want to tell me where she lived either because she didn't know me that well so of course we had to meet everywhere we went (I couldn't pick her up). She was really nice and I liked her a lot, so I didn't want to scare her off by moving too fast considering the way she felt, nor did I want to mess it up. So I took things slow, but maybe too slow. I thought about kissing her at the end of the night of the second date but she said "Well give me a HUG" before I could so I figured she wasn't ready. But after this last outing (the 4th one) she gave me the old "let's be friends" bit. She mentioned she liked how one of the guys she was with was so passionate, and I think I screwed up by not being a little more aggressive. It sucks because I really liked her. /sigh /wrists |
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win some, lose some,
find some more... |
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Really? /wrists because 1 girl out of billions wasn't interested in dating you? You had 4 dates if she was interested and you were a little slow I think she would have given yo another shot. If she said she just wants to be friends then she knew you were thinking more than friends. Buck up champ and find another girl.
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Nah not really, but I am a little bummed.
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I'm sorry this happened.
 It's her loss.
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Edited by
sweetestgirl11
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Mon 11/08/10 09:29 PM
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This girl I was dating just told me she wants to just be friends. :/ We haven't gone out very much, just like 4 dates (two of them were with her group of friends though). She's a little timid about dating, she's only had 3 guys in her life (two married / divorced and one live in bf) all of whom caused her major grief. As a result I didn't really get her phone number until after the second date, even then she preferred I give her mine instead of giving me hers. She didn't want to tell me where she lived either because she didn't know me that well so of course we had to meet everywhere we went (I couldn't pick her up). She was really nice and I liked her a lot, so I didn't want to scare her off by moving too fast considering the way she felt, nor did I want to mess it up. So I took things slow, but maybe too slow. I thought about kissing her at the end of the night of the second date but she said "Well give me a HUG" before I could so I figured she wasn't ready. But after this last outing (the 4th one) she gave me the old "let's be friends" bit. She mentioned she liked how one of the guys she was with was so passionate, and I think I screwed up by not being a little more aggressive. It sucks because I really liked her. /sigh /wrists -swee test
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i dont think you messed up, she did give you signals... i think it was good she was honest with you and let you know instead of playing game! sorry u are a bit bummed!.. its ok not everyone is for everyone. and way too many misleading people these days...
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This girl I was dating just told me she wants to just be friends. :/ We haven't gone out very much, just like 4 dates (two of them were with her group of friends though). She's a little timid about dating, she's only had 3 guys in her life (two married / divorced and one live in bf) all of whom caused her major grief. As a result I didn't really get her phone number until after the second date, even then she preferred I give her mine instead of giving me hers. She didn't want to tell me where she lived either because she didn't know me that well so of course we had to meet everywhere we went (I couldn't pick her up). She was really nice and I liked her a lot, so I didn't want to scare her off by moving too fast considering the way she felt, nor did I want to mess it up. So I took things slow, but maybe too slow. I thought about kissing her at the end of the night of the second date but she said "Well give me a HUG" before I could so I figured she wasn't ready. But after this last outing (the 4th one) she gave me the old "let's be friends" bit. She mentioned she liked how one of the guys she was with was so passionate, and I think I screwed up by not being a little more aggressive. It sucks because I really liked her. /sigh /wrists We must all guard our safety, emotions, and livelihood. Let's be friends can be perceived in many ways, but to know for sure what she really means you must have the courage to ask her. Taken her past experiences with relationships perhaps she doesn't want to jump in so quickly perhaps this may have been the cause of her grief, therefore becoming friends you may find it provides for a better healthier relationship one that she may be searching for. Don't be bummed out demonstrate to her that you are passionate about her. When we hold back what we want to say and do we end up in a loss. |
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This is what dating is about. Going out, getting to know people, making decisions about whether someone is 'right' for you, but its a two way street.
No loss. Don't take it personally, doesn't sound like she is ready for a relationship anyway. |
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i dont think you messed up, she did give you signals... i think it was good she was honest with you and let you know instead of playing game! sorry u are a bit bummed!.. its ok not everyone is for everyone. and way too many misleading people these days... Ditto, at least she was honest with you. Sometimes it is just not there for both. Better they tell you then to lead you on. |
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sounds like she was never really into you in the first place...
eh, more fish... you know the saying... $.02 
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