I disagree that a DUI means you need AA or are an alcoholic.

I used to drink heavily & do drugs. Drove drunk many times never getting caught. Then I got busted for something else & arrested. Did some time in the pen & then did 22 months in a 6 month rehab & 2 years probation. During that time after getting sobered up & off the drugs I was horrified at the idea I'd drove drunk. I have started back drinking & only do it in the evenings after all my errands have been done. I don't drink & drive now. Maybe I didn't completely recover from my addictions but I have learned some things in the rehab, AA, NA. I also don't lay drunk like I did before leaving me to make better choices as far as staying home to drink, etc. Nobodies perfect!!

It's one of those questions that are really hard to answer. As previously stated it would cause serious red flags. However, any individual can and will make mistakes. The laws are incredibly strict now and people handle alcohol differently. Many DUI's are not the result of poor driving, but periodic road blocks or in 1 case I know about, being hit by someone else.

For me, it would depend on the individual involved.

Anyone I would consider dating would be in an age range that they should know better than to drive if their drunk, so um no!

I am with you there Ruth. He actually was ordered treatment as a normal protocol of the court and they only did an evaluation and set him free of the treatment because he didn't need it. He's definitely NOT an alcoholic. Just made a really bad decision.

I see your point....and I considered that thought as well. I also considered that there have been times in my own life where I made bad choices due to stressors/circumstances. Kind of depends on what you do to fix what you've already done.

It happens. It's a big red flag so just keep your eyes open and see if any other flags come up. The very fact that you recognize it as a possible problem says you're handling it right. Good luck.

Not really fond of drinking.....have a couple of drinks every once in a while

I agree with Krupa. Everyone of us has done dump stuff we are not proud of. Why? Cause we are human. I can understand why people would see red flags if a person was an alcoholic. But if the person was someone who got drunk one night, decided to drive, and got caught? Well, if that is the case, then when I see that, I see a person who did it and made a mistake. Yeah. A dumb one. But in this little thing we called life, we all make dumb choices.

It would depend largely on whether or not they were still drinking. History is history, after all, and you can't change it; and I will not get involved with anyone who drinks. But if that's all in the past, I'd be OK with it. Nobody's perfect.

More importantly....

You need to like the person for who they are or what they offer....cause if you are basing a relationship off of a legal record...I would screw you over big time.

I have gotten away with sooooo much crap that I will NEVER be caught for....stuff that you will never have a clue about....stuff that only God himself can pop me for.....(I am smarter and sneakier than I will ever let on)

But, legally...I am clean.....

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this is something you should really think about cause there are some really smart people out there and most of em aint here.

I hear ya. I'm not wanting to make a harsh judgment on anyone...
point is men I date are 40 and up and if their getting dui's in their 40's or 50's, well seems to me there may be a problem with drinking...and alcohol is the most dangerous drug out there in my opinion.

Sure why not?...we all make mistakes...

All depends. Anyone can make a mistake and be stupid. If it's repeat, that's completely different. My ex used to work with a guy who had 3 of them, and complained it was the cop's fault that he had them, not his own! Someone like that...no way. But someone who made a poor choice and is paying for it and hasn't repeated it, yeah I would. We've all made poor decisions that we have gotten second and more chances from....the key is learning from them and not repeating them.

Yeah um, I think we've all done things that we know better not to do but we've done them anyway!!

I only date alchoholics and/or crackheads

She's such a pretty pink one though. Glad to see she's kept you around.

Yes.

Everyone has done something in their past they regret. It's not who they were before, it's who they are now that matters.

no because anyone with a dui likely is a retard or they have a drinking problem trust me im in a marriage with an alcoholic run away fast or your life will suck like mine

sooooo...how is it that the drunk is the retard?