I have discovered lately that after 10 years of being single, I am ready to date again. Yet, I still have a few things to work out within myself. Does that mean I am NOT ready to date?

Nope. It just means that you need to take it slow. Besides by not dating you are depriving some great guy of meeting a wonderful woman

((tami)) just take it slow gf an u will know when ur ready u will feel it in your heart

Try it, see how it goes.. Get ur toes wet.. And the best of luck to u!

I am kinda in the same boat. It has been 6 years on the 13th of January that I have been single. I think we will always have personal issues to deal with all our lives so waiting for that point will lead to no dating. I too am going to be dating with more effort now that I have worked through some issues. The issues I had were trust issues with men and being able to open myself up. Which did impede my progress with the men who were interested. I now feel ready to trust again and share the real me with the men.

Ok, the whole story. I have tried it and though I have been honest, none are willing to stick around to "help" me solve the little issues I can't solve alone. Any ideas?

Try not to focus on ur issues. And don't share them with him till u r very comfy with him.. Try different things. To get ur mind off ur issues. And before u know it it would be days before u thought about it.


But i am not good at giving advice, so what do i know. I am just a good listener

But maybe you are good at advice, just not good at following through?

Been there!

We will always have things we need to work out personally, just a fact of life...or so everyone says. Regardless, as long as you feel ready and the weight of said issue isn't going to unjustly fall upon the other person, jump in. Depending on the issue, people are different and in that will act differently to the issue, respect their decision.

Continue to work on the issues as best you can personally, don't include other people into the issue unless they are a bigger part of it then say...a shoulder. Meditate perhaps? Dunno, seems to be working well for me.

Thanks D for your input. FINALLY a man's point of view on a woman's perspective!

Edit, your advice means a lot!!!!

i think it means your confused...

I disagree. I am not confused, I have just discovered a few things that I can only see while dating. Does that make sense at all? Am I just wanting someone to guide me as they always have in my life? Wow, this is opening up a whole new world now!

Really though, look into meditation. It centers the mind and body, calms you down, and all around helps figure out issues on our own time. I've been doing it for about a week now and it has helped immensely.

I may try that D. Anything to get over this whole "thing" whatever it may be!

I always find that when I decide not to date, I meet someone who makes me re-think my choice. So, I have decided to just go with the flow. If I meet someone interesting enough to take a chance on, then I go for it. I'm not perfect, nor is my life that way. But that doesn't mean that I can't meet someone awesome. So I think you should go for it Tami.

So where are we meeting Charles?

Are you asking me out?

Perhaps you've just been single for so long you're kinda scared to start dating again, even though you may be ready to start again?

I think I might be Charles.


Totage, you may be correct! Sadly