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Topic: How do you handle rejection?
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Sun 04/24/11 08:29 AM
How do you handle rejection, whether from a initial contact with a potential interest or a relationship?


What's the best approach?

soufiehere's photo
Sun 04/24/11 08:39 AM
Edited by soufiehere on Sun 04/24/11 08:39 AM
If you do not need validation from
another human being, methinks there
is not such a big problem.

Not everyone is going to like you.
And vice versa.
Life is too short to worry it.

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Sun 04/24/11 08:39 AM
It usually involves the use of a Death Ray.

fireflysgirl's photo
Sun 04/24/11 08:43 AM

If you do not need validation from
another human being, methinks there
is not such a big problem.

Not everyone is going to like you.
And vice versa.
Life is too short to worry it.


words of wisdom there!

Totage's photo
Sun 04/24/11 08:51 AM

How do you handle rejection, whether from a initial contact with a potential interest or a relationship?


What's the best approach?


From an inital contact, for me it requires no handling, I just move on, there's no issue there. In a relationship, I guess it depends, I may get hurt, but I will just regroup and heal, then move on.

I do try to learn things along the way, but more importantly I don't let it get to me and stop me from moving on and trying.

longhorn_blues's photo
Sun 04/24/11 09:20 AM
Just embrace the change and move on they obviously cant see what a good person you are, anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to feel it.

scttggry81's photo
Sun 04/24/11 09:46 AM
I find that the feeling of rejection is a multitude better than the feeling of never trying. "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take." - Wayne Gretsky.

AndyBgood's photo
Sun 04/24/11 09:56 AM
I dismiss them by royal decree!

misswright's photo
Sun 04/24/11 10:00 AM

How do you handle rejection, whether from a initial contact with a potential interest or a relationship?


What's the best approach?


Apparently for me avoidance works best! shades

But seriously, I don't sweat the small stuff. Not everyone will like me...that's a fact!! If you don't, so be it. If you do, cool. It's pretty much that simple for me.

If I do get rejected, usually a pint of Ben & Jerry's works to ease the initial sting, and then I'm fine! :thumbsup:

navygirl's photo
Sun 04/24/11 10:25 AM

How do you handle rejection, whether from a initial contact with a potential interest or a relationship?


What's the best approach?


I just accept and move on. No point getting upset. You get used to after a while and it really doesn't bother you.

Shy_Emo_chick's photo
Sun 04/24/11 10:31 AM
I just think it's there choice. If they truly care, they'll stay in contact, if they were just a waste of air, they won't.

wux's photo
Sun 04/24/11 03:33 PM
Edited by wux on Sun 04/24/11 03:39 PM
I feel worthless and ashamed at first. I really do depend on others for my sense of self-worth. Some say very smartly, it's not worth worrying about, but I do, because I CAN'T do anything else after a rejection.

I agree with firefly there very much, because I also think that was smart what soufie said there. How you handle rejection depends on your disposition, which disposition is not actually a function of what advice others give you.

wux's photo
Sun 04/24/11 03:38 PM
Most times I do the self-Heimlich maneouvre when I ask someone out.

This is how it goes:

"I would like to ask you out, so please consider I am asking you out, but I am short, fat, and broke, so I am sure you will absolutely reject me, so please don't even bother answering my letter."

This usually works.

Jess642's photo
Sun 04/24/11 03:42 PM
I'm an acquired taste, and often a bitter pill to swallow....so it's a rare day in hell that someone even approaches me with interest.

pitchfork

Totage's photo
Sun 04/24/11 03:44 PM

I'm an acquired taste, and often a bitter pill to swallow....so it's a rare day in hell that someone even approaches me with interest.

pitchfork


If we lived close enough, I would.

Jess642's photo
Sun 04/24/11 03:47 PM


I'm an acquired taste, and often a bitter pill to swallow....so it's a rare day in hell that someone even approaches me with interest.

pitchfork


If we lived close enough, I would.


yeah....I think Totage, those that have learnt me....either absolutely detest me....or like me...

and I could see a friendship with you would be easy.flowerforyou

BettyB's photo
Sun 04/24/11 03:47 PM
I just pull all the wires out of my computer,throw it out the window and smash it to a million pieces and then jump out after it...nothing major!laugh

Seriously,Ijust move on to someone with better taste and more brains.:tongue:

wux's photo
Sun 04/24/11 03:52 PM


I'm an acquired taste, and often a bitter pill to swallow....so it's a rare day in hell that someone even approaches me with interest.

pitchfork


If we lived close enough, I would.


Ha!! Excuses, excuses.

There is a fair maid, and she is need of you. Hop on that bus, Guss, and fly over.

I think this babe is worth it. If a man can do it, he ought not to stop himself, and in today's world distance, jobs, family, or even already having a wife ought to be no excuse.

Jess642's photo
Sun 04/24/11 03:57 PM



I'm an acquired taste, and often a bitter pill to swallow....so it's a rare day in hell that someone even approaches me with interest.

pitchfork


If we lived close enough, I would.


Ha!! Excuses, excuses.

There is a fair maid, and she is need of you. Hop on that bus, Guss, and fly over.

I think this babe is worth it. If a man can do it, he ought not to stop himself, and in today's world distance, jobs, family, or even already having a wife ought to be no excuse.



laugh laugh laugh


Errr...it ain't that simple....Mister...

Firstly....you best be EXACTLY who you represent yourself to be...or the rather rude awakening might hurt...

Secondly...who says I am in need of anything?

...and wife ditching is NOT going to win anyone ANY favours!grumble

Beachfarmer's photo
Sun 04/24/11 04:11 PM
I've been bitter since 1981

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