Whilst I don't drink and I am a non-alcoholic, I have been known to enjoy a well made drink once in a while on special occasions. I know my limits.

People think I hate or that I think I better that people who drink. I don't feel that way at all, its just lots of fun to play joke on drunk people.

Try hanging out with mormons... Even the ones that DO drink will never try to coerce you.

Well its not my friend who are trying to get me to drink, its all the new people I meet. My friends gave up a long time a go.

Be you. Make true friends that will accept you for who you are and respect your lifestyle. I have one true friend who has been my friend when I used to drink and do drugs. When I stopped, he still remained my friend while everyone else disappeared. I don't miss them either. He still does his thing, but we don't try to change each other, we accept each for who we are.

you dont have to do anything to pls anybody!
if you dont want to drink, it is your chioce. be happy with it.

It's a social thing. I was ousted from a normal, decent, mild social club because I did not drink.

I kept going to the pub events for the company. They were surprised why I go to a pub and not drink; then they made jokes about me, then they made nasty jokes about me coz I did not drink, then I became the laughing stock at other events of he club because I was known by then as an odd one.

Eventually I got ousted because I felt and resented the lack of respect, and became angry with them.

So... I saw this movie, "Grand Torino", and a cop goes to a bar with a Korean vet, and the cop orders a non-alcoholic beer, and the vet says, "you're a in a bar, order a drink."

That's about the size of it. People go to bars and pubs to drink, and if someone does not, they automatically single him out and try to oust him first with social gestures, then with stronger social gestures.

The long and short of it is that you go to the beach to sunbathe and to swim, you go to a restaurant to eat, you go to a brothel to f, and you go to a bar to drink.

If you don't, they'll hate you, big time. Nothing you can do about it.

Abandon your company in bars. Go to bars alone, if you don't drink. Don't talk to anyone.

You say your friends have accepted like this. It's new acquaintances who want to convince you to drink. What's the situation? You make new friends in bars? Well, don't. Just sit there, far from the madding bar crowds, and don't drink.

Or maybe you are a bouncer. In that case beat up those who make fun of you or are becoming too much for you.

Or you are a bartender. tell them that you only drink after your shift is over. If you don't want to lie, tell them that your shift is virtually never over.

Whatever. My advice is for you to go out but not to bars. If you go to a bar, then, like good ole' Clint said, pull your breaches up and drink, for chissake.

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Edit: if you are the janitor in the bar, then take those who make fun of you or show other signs they don't respect you or don't accept you as a person, coz you don't drink. Take these men and women, one at a time, and push their heads into the bucket full of dirtwater you just used to wash the floor with. Keep their heads fully immersed and scream at them, kick them and bite them, until they say they accept you as you are.

I think this is the cleanest and most honest and straightforward way of dealing with the situation you are immersed in.

No pun intended with "cleanest".

You are comparing apples to oranges.

You are a good-looking woman. You get away with murder.

A short fat guy like me or a big black man like the OP has to pedal, and pedal hard, to gain acceptance.

Plus you are muslim, which automatically makes people accept that you don't drink. In fact, you'd look strange as a Muslima with a keg in your arms.

U said this in response to someone suggesting that you say you're a designated driver.

It doesn't fing matter how close or far THEY live to the bar. The thing is how close or far YOU are from the bar. If you drive, it has no bearing how long they live to the bar.

Get some brains, man. Don't bull us. We are not stupid here.

You know what? I beleive you. I don't know why they don't. You are natural at not being bettre than people who drink.

For instance:

in your first sentence:

You use the verb "hate" which is a transitive verb, in an intransitive way -- nono by those people who are better, they never do that.

I think better that peopel who drink -- should be "than", not "that".

Second sentence: its -- shoudl be it's

its just lots of fun to play joke on drunk people. == should be "it's just it's lots of fun..." because the first "it" refers to an antecedent of general existence, and the second "it" refers to an antecedent of the noun that is the action itself.

You could open a cathedra in a better university and teach to people how to be not better than anyone else. These drinking buddies who hate you becuase you appear as better than them must be a totally sorry lot to look at.

To play joke -- should be "play a joke" or "play jokes"

To play jokes on drunk people is asking for it. If you don't have that much insight, then include this in your curriculum when you teach the subject "how to be not better than anyone else 402", as you are so good at it that you must be the subject of a fourth-year course in a programme of study in sociology.

In conclusion, at the bar where you go and don't drink, you say you make fun of them and they say you ought to drink yourself.

You all should stay away from humanity and women, and not make children. That's my best advice for you.

I think it would have been funnier if you said in response to:
"you will drink one day", "Only if a gun has gone to my head."

keep the goodluck and dont drink if you dont want to okey!

It could be because i'm delirious with a cold, borderline flu which compells me to share the following, but tis all relevant.

My stepfather died from alcoholism. My mother married him knowing he was an alcoholic, and for a very long time i resented her for having put us in that situation. However, i have come to understand that she was lonely, and he was too drunk to care that she came with 4 young kids. He wasn't an abusive drunk, in fact he was quite the opposite when he was intoxicated, and much more tolerable to be around than when he didn't have a beer in his hand. It became normal for my brothers and i to grow up where the alcohol flowed freely and constant. Sometimes there was violence, but not all the time, and the drinking would continue when it all calmed down. Eventually though after many, many years of my mother taking care of him....she had enough and divorced him. He literally disappeared and became somewhat of a drifter...popping up here and there at unexpected times, and usually because he had nowhere to live. I'd put him up for a few days, and then he'd disappear again. He never wanted help with his alcoholism, even though i, and i'm sure there were others along the way tried to help him.

Fast forward to last year, when i get a phone call from the hospital where my stepfather was dying. He was alone, with nobody but myself to be with him when he passed on. I was the last thing he saw when he closed his eyes for the last time, and i hope that gave him some comfort that at least somebody cared, despite the fact that he didn't care for himself. My thought at the time was "what a waste of life"...but after much pondering, i've come to the conclusion that his alcoholism wasn't such a waste of space after all, because it taught me how not to abuse alcohol or any form of substance, whilst growing up.

I've taken that lesson and am now applying it to teach my kids how to drink responsibly...because let's face it, they are going to find themselves in situations where drinking will be expected. Yes, i do drink in front of them with friends who are also responsible drinkers, but only on occasion, and never to the stage where i let it control me. They are at the age now where they can comprehend the consequences of substance abuse. So, ensuring they're well informed of these things is paramount to their survival, because i'm not going to be around all the time to keep an eye on them.

I hope that is enough to teach them that they don't need to be under the influence of any kind of substance to know how to have a good time. It sounds as if you know this willn1k...my hat is off to you. Well done!

Whyee doo poeple alwers asks mee wyhee......whens I'ma Drunkkk???

More kudos to the ones who don't bow down to letting others force them into drinking. When you see people falling out of bars and throwing up in the street, it makes you glad you're not that person. More fool the one who ends up deathly ill, because who really wants to be ill like that every weekend? Waking up needing to throw up all day. Not that appealing.

Because they are foolish.

That don't sound like fun to me

I'm not much of a drinker but I find it rather annoying to be around drunks and not be drunk too or at least tipsy. One of those times I just go for the flow and you don't have to drink yourself stupid. Drink those wobbly pops in moderation and you might just have a good time.

You might try going on dates with like minded people. Do you really want to be on dates where she is drinking and your not?