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Topic: Always too far!
Suzanne20's photo
Mon 07/04/11 08:16 PM
***Not looking for validation or anything, just an observation***


So I finally meet someone that I have made a small connection with, and would like to get to know better. One small catch. They live in Georgia and I am in Texas! Just my luck!grumble

fireflysgirl's photo
Mon 07/04/11 08:20 PM
I know the feeling girl! flowerforyou

Shayna1978's photo
Mon 07/04/11 08:23 PM
ROAD TRIP!!

Suzanne20's photo
Mon 07/04/11 08:23 PM
They need to speed up the development of teleportation devices so this doesn't happen to good people like uslaugh

Suzanne20's photo
Mon 07/04/11 08:24 PM
Would if I could drive Shaynalaugh

He said he might come by one day when we have been talking longer. But right now he can't drive either...it's only temporary tho.

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Mon 07/04/11 08:40 PM

They need to speed up the development of teleportation devices so this doesn't happen to good people like uslaugh


:thumbsup:

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Mon 07/04/11 09:03 PM
I think this is predestined. Anyone I ever find interesting or even semi-compatible in any way whatsoever is necessarily 897,000 miles away. And I don't think it's a coincidence.


SunsetRose's photo
Mon 07/04/11 09:10 PM
If its worth having it would be worth traveling for Good luck hun

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Mon 07/04/11 10:21 PM
My ex lived 4700 miles away when I met him. I ended up moving there (Sweden); we were together for 10 years. I have no regrets.

If it's meant to be, you both will work it out somehow.

Simonedemidova's photo
Mon 07/04/11 11:16 PM
welcome to the EVERY MAN LIVES IS BFE CLUB

ujGearhead's photo
Tue 07/05/11 01:44 AM
This somehow sounds SOOOOOOOOOOOO familiar........frustrated frustrated frustrated frustrated frustrated frustrated

axl_rose40's photo
Tue 07/05/11 09:20 AM
On the brighter side, it only proves that the world is never too small for any opportunity... but then it is sometimes too big a distance for one great opportunity happy

Kidding aside, they say love can move mountains... who knows? The small connection might turn out to be one which can move mountains. Good luck to you, Suzanne20 flowerforyou

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Tue 07/05/11 09:25 AM
Distance works for some and not for others. I've tried the long distance thing and it just isn't for me. If I can't drive to see them easily, it's just not going to work.

Beachfarmer's photo
Tue 07/05/11 09:32 AM
indifferent oh the distance thing

....and I was going to let the gay amish southern monkey with turrets "one" fly

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Tue 07/05/11 09:57 AM

If its worth having it would be worth traveling for Good luck hun
Agreed, although someone may eventually have to move. To resolve the distance issue. (all the best)shadesflowerforyou

Ladylid2012's photo
Tue 07/05/11 09:58 AM

I think this is predestined. Anyone I ever find interesting or even semi-compatible in any way whatsoever is necessarily 897,000 miles away. And I don't think it's a coincidence.




it's not

TxsGal3333's photo
Tue 07/05/11 10:19 AM

Distance works for some and not for others. I've tried the long distance thing and it just isn't for me. If I can't drive to see them easily, it's just not going to work.


Ditto..............

actionlynx's photo
Tue 07/05/11 10:31 AM
Edited by actionlynx on Tue 07/05/11 10:31 AM
As someone who as been through LDRs, including one with a 9 hour time difference, I must disagree with the optimists out there.

The reality is that many of us lack the financial resources to carry out an LDR in some circumstances, no matter how good the person seems to be. For instance, to visit Israel for a week might cost you $1500 to $2000. But to visit the Philippines for a week, it will cost you almost that much just for the airfare. You can expect to pay $3000 to $3500 to spend a week there.

Often, your partner (in this far away place) will lack the resources to move and be with you. So, you figure you will move to be with them, right? Well, countries like the Philippines are so job poor, that they have an employment registry. The purpose is to find job placement for as many Filipino citizens as possible. A foreigner is not allowed to gain employment since he would be taking a job away from a native. So, unless you have connections to a foreign company with holdings in the Philippines who might hire you as a "consultant", you will not be able to survive there. This means your only option is to pay your partner's way for the move instead....which opens up a possible whole other can of worms.

I'm not trying to pick on Filipinas here. Actually, I have a number of Filipina friends, at least 4 of them. They opened my eyes to some of the problems faced there. Many of the "good" Filipinas will actually tell you about the lies and deception the "bad" ones will use. They will actually pester you to protect yourself. They actually resent that the bad ones give the good ones a poor reputation.

As for myself, I actually had an LDR with someone in Israel who was Filipina-born, and one with someone in the Caribbean.

Economics is a huge hurdle, and the longer you have to put a visit "on hold", the tougher that relationship becomes to maintain. You cannot enter into such a relationship being optimistic or being pessimistic. It actually requires you to be balanced and realistic.

Many have thought it was meant to be, found a way to make it happen, only to find they were abandoned as soon they got married (fast track to citizenship and permanent visa). Others actually were divorced within a year or two, with the immigrant spouse gaining half of the native spouse's belongings. Others stole money from joint bank accounts, sending it to an account back home. They knew the marriage was illegal because they had a spouse back home. So they try to steal all they can before they are discovered. This all has to be taken in consideration. You have to protect yourself while giving your partner the benefit of a doubt. That can be a tough thing to balance.

sanelunasea's photo
Tue 07/05/11 11:40 AM
On a global scale, Texas and Georgia really aren't that far apart. You should consider yourself lucky to at least be on the same landmass, or in the same country.

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Tue 07/05/11 11:47 AM

On a global scale, Texas and Georgia really aren't that far apart. You should consider yourself lucky to at least be on the same landmass, or in the same country.


Why is it considered lucky that they're in the same country?

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