ok so me and this guy have been messin around for like 4 months and he has a gf in another location.... i knew this to begin with... and told my self i wouldnt let my heart get involved... but like most girls my heart chose a differant path for me lol....we continue to get closer everyday but i know that he doesnt have any intentions of havin a relationship unless they broke up or something.... how do i stop my feelings dead in their track..i like him ALOT and would almost say that im fallin in love but icant do that. i need help please!

You look like a very sweet woman.

Where there is sex, the heart usually follows.

As painful as it may be, you probably need to stop seeing this guy unless you can be the only one in his life.

People willing to settle for second best,
are most likely to get it.

look sweety, just follow your heart.. and if you really like this guy... perhaps you can get this guy! but take the heart ache and have fun and don't expect any thing more but enjoy his company...some men take a lot of time desiding what they really want..but don't go more than a year you are young you have a lot of time..and you will find some one that will fall madly in love with you...And don't ruin it by talking of the other girl let her be and remember you get more flies with honey than with vinagar

Polly I mean no disrespect to you whats so ever, but I think that terrible advice.
I do agree with what Soufie and KLC said .I think they hit the nail right on the head.

I think you should walk away...

if he's willing to betray this girl, he will be willing to betray you too... its not a good start to a relationship... They never leave who they are with for "the other woman"

Tell him that you like him as friend and stop communicating with him the way you use to be for that 4months........ I am a love doctor ,i do councelling for many broken relationship to stand back ,feel free to count on me for anything .i waite your reply

true n that goes both ways too

I have been in your shoes and the only way to stop yourself from getting hurt is to walk away as many here recommended. You're probably already hurt but you can stop it from getting worst. Don't even worry about what or how you're going to tell him. What's important is that YOU decide and you're clear on what to do next.

It sounds like you already know what you want and how you feel, so now you just have to take the bull by its horns and do what it is you already know you need to do.

What helped me when I was in your situation is to watch a lot of empowering movies related to the direction you're wanting to go towards. It really helped. And music... If you're in to music, find songs that empowers you and keep playing it over and over again.

Be strong!

You deserve better than to be someones "girl on the side" Stop seeing him before you get even more emotionally involved. Give your self time to heal and then try again. You will find a guy who only wants to be with you.

Face the truth. You thought you could, "win him away" from this other girl. Now that you know you aren't going to it hurts to lose.

Like most here, I think you should walk away. I have a close friend in a similar situation and I tell her every day that she needs to move on. She of course knows this, but he's just a constant factor. Doesn't help that she works with the guy. He's ALWAYS around! If only that he's obviously not feeling you as much as you are feeling for him. Or he'd be with you. Simple as that. You owe it to yourself to expect more from someone-- and show him that you KNOW you deserve more. Good luck!

Cut him off, start seeing other dudes, and watch as he comes begging for some sex from you. But don't give in. You both had your fun, and now it's time for you to find a dude who will want to make your priority one.

cold turkey

no contact

sleep with me it will help you forget all about him

Sometimes you can't help it. I have been on both sides. I have been the heart breaker of those relationships and have had my heart broken with those relationships. You never really know which side you will be on.

therefore best not to go there - just my opinion but it's a non negotiable - he MUST be completely single....

Oh how we delude ourselves. I just need sex. No strings attached. Friends with benefits. What a crock of s!@# And I speak from experience. Allowing someone into your body is the most intimate thing you can do. Even if you think it's a one night stand, you never feel good after the euphoria of sex has worn off.

It's time to end it and you know it. Being alone really is better than being less than you are.

Good luck.

Just give up dating. Thats the only soution

LOL great advice, Ash!