Even when I was single after my divorce, I wouldn't go to a bar alone, and when I do go with friends I will not be the first one thru the door...

I do however, travel alot by myself.. Down to N.Carolina (11hrs) and I have driven across country (6,000 miles)alone.. My kids made me call home every night while on the road..

I do eat out, go to movies and shop alone a lot of times.. At my age alot of friends are still married or if single, don't have the extra money to do things..

I am sorry for your isolation, your condition is little known about and mis - understood often. I hope you are getting the right help and are able to move forward in over coming this terrible condition. I wish you only the very best.


As for me I live alone so very often eat alone etc etc etc. I do have my folks very close by so on my days off we share a meal, how nice is it to have someone else put a plate of food in front of me? VERY nice! Lucky for me I have never been shy so I can eat out or go to a movie/event alone, don't always like going alone but glad to have seen the movie or whatever the event was.

Used to do the bar scene, had a lot of fun too but too tired most of the time and to expensive!!

Excellent question. I have been sticking with friends. I have a fishing pole that hasn't been used that I have had for years. Been building up quite a friends network. Been here since 2004 and have ventured out just a little. Last time I did a long trip I just wanted to keep on going till I decided I was homesick and came back. It just seems to be more fun doing things with friends or at least with one friend.

I remember being agoraphobic and claustrophobic at the same time. It really sucked. Things got better though when I got past that phase.

I enjoy being alone for the most part.
Most times when I do something it is alone and I've become
quite confortable with that.
When I have a need for interaction I have interaction.
If I didn't go do things because I don't want to do it alone I
would probably never do anything.

I'm a loner, I enjoy doing most everything alone, or alone without human company. I prefer bookstores alone, I try and hit a movie once a week, and that's usually alone. I do on occasion go with friends, but find myself more irritated with the couple of friends I do go with because they tend to whine about why they aren't dating. Takes the pleasure out of going with someone.

I am a very social person and have no problem talking to people so i will go out by myself

Do things on my own all the time.

For me its half and half. I can go to the local bar by myself because there is always someone there I know (the benefits of a small town), but to go to the movies I always go with someone else. When I go to pick up my kid I usually go alone, but I usually go shopping with someone else. I am shy so to go to a bar in another town or concert alone I wouldn't be able to. I could meet friends there, that would be OK.

I go movies and dinner and festivals on my own :) Just don't go to bars/clubs and it wouldn't be a preference if I had a date either. If there is any activity in my area I'd have no problem going alone, however.... my area is just one heroin overdose from dead.

Depends on the venue. I'll go to dinner alone, no problem. I'll probably forgo movies/concerts alone though. I like having people with me, but can appreciate my alone time as well...

If I want to do anything and no one wants to come with me; I will do it alone. I remember my first vacation to Hawaii. My friend canceled our panned dates three times so the fourth; I set it in stone and went alone. Except for two vacations; in over 30 years I have taken my vacations alone. I had a better time going alone that going with people. I have gone to the symphony many times on my own, gone to movies, happy hour, or dinners on my own. I also have a good time as I meet great people to chat with. Life is too short to miss out on fun things just because you don't have a date or friend to accompany you.

I went to India a couple years ago. The first week I was there with coworkers. The second week, I was there alone. I went sight seeing all over the place on my own and had a great time.

I used to do quite a bit on my own, but as I grew older, I began to tire of being a loner. Now there are many things I feel uncomfortable doing by myself. I used to take vacations and weekend trips by myself - I was that independent. Now I can only stomach going to a restaurant or movie alone. I don't even feel right going to a bar when certain people aren't there....even if half the people in the bar are acquaintances of mine.

It doesn't help that most people I hang out with now are stuck-in-the-muds. And those that aren't just have really busy work schedules.

Some would chalk my discomfort up to ADD. Though it is a factor, I believe that assumption would be wrong. I was a loner for most of my childhood. I was a loner in college. After college, I had plenty of friends who I spent time with, but I was also independent. Then most of those friends moved out of state. So it was back to being a loner and independent again....and I just didn't enjoy it as much as I used to. In fact, I developed a few bad habits while finding ways to do stuff independently but gain social interaction at the same time. It all has to change. I'm tired of doing stuff alone. It's not that I can't, but just that there's too much I would rather share with someone I know. At this point, it would even provide a change of pace.

i hate doing things on my own, not that I cant amuse myself, just that i like having someone there to laugh with.
I cannot remember when I last went somewhere by myself, even if i just go shopping at least one of my children comes with me,

It's interesting to see what people will do and won't do on their own. Thanks for the responses!

I also think it has alot to do with up bringing, for instance I'm the youngest of six, I could not wait to get out of my mom and dads house but I made sure I got preg. first...better to have the company of my child and for the longest time my oldest was my constant company which kept me out of trouble and made me make responsible choices...realy the only reason I'm even looking for a best friend now is because my kids are slowly moving out and they don't do things with me anymore.....On the other had I have a God sis that was an only child and she prefers to be alone only with a plus one but, her excuse is that she wasn't socailized correctly so she doesn't like ppl in general. (Weird Right?) And if you really think about it and your parts are 65 and older like mine most ppl are pre-conditioned to go out in groups, or to let someone know where we are going. The strange part about that is when I was growing up the only way I could go out was in a group and now when my kids ask me can they go somewhere I'm saying "how many ppl?, oh naw thats too many you can't go." I think we as generations growing up in the 60's, 70's, and 80's, were more mature because we had more struggles, so learning to travel in groups were more for protection and peace of mind. I think younger people feel fearless and go out on there own more often and some older people do it because they feel they earned that right not to need the protection of a group. The weird part is everytime I see someone missing or murdered because they were a victim of oppertunity I always think "Why in the Heck did they go out alone?"

Like I said a couple of pages ago in this thread, for me it's a way of life, and I've learned not to mind it.

No it's not a recommendation for teen pregnancy, I was just saying even though, I thought I wanted to be alone and away from a household of eight people I could not change something that I had been raised with from birth which as a need to have some family around me even it I had to make it myself. And yes I am a rare case I was a single mother who bought her own house at 24 but my mom and dad were strict and if you did'nt work mom and dad wont helping wit jack.

I can swing either way with ease.

I liked hitting Artwalk solo. Mingle around, chit chat, show people my work in the galleries and pick up the occasional skank. Same with hitting bars or clubs....I would just take an art pad and sit alone with a drink and before the night is done, end up sitting with people who wanted to see my drawings.

I LOVE hitting the zoo alone with my camera. Really relaxing.

Socially, I can (and do) jump into any conversation and make friends or at least pleasant aquaintances....don't matter if they are gangstah hood rats or neo-nazi white trash. I get along with pretty much everyone.