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Topic: WHAT DO I DO? HELP!!
GIRLYCHIC's photo
Mon 07/16/07 05:21 PM
OKAY WELL IM NEW HERE AND JUST STARTING TO POST FOURMS: SO HERES THE QUESTION:
Ive been talking this guy on here for about 5days, weve been having very intense emails like 2-4 pages long.... weve gotten to know eachother really well so how long do i wait until i ask for a number, or better yet how do i go about asking him to the next step. I mean Im really good at realtionships but Ive never talked to someone through so many emails usually it goes from a couple emails to a phone number and then from there!! So any ideas on when I can ask him to the next step is greatly appericated thanks so much~ CodyAnn

Dayv's photo
Mon 07/16/07 05:21 PM
I would play the field some more.

Stanne's photo
Mon 07/16/07 05:22 PM
ummmm are you sure he's single ??

GIRLYCHIC's photo
Mon 07/16/07 05:24 PM
You know Stanne I was asking myself the same question. Im pretty sure he is, well im hoping cause Id hate to get my heart broke again. thanks for the comment though every little bit helps

TxsGal3333's photo
Mon 07/16/07 05:26 PM
Hummm kinda surprise me he has not already asked for a number if the e-mails are that long. But then only way is point blank as him for his number tell him you want to talk to him on the phone see what he says maybe he is a bit shy don't know what all ya talk about in e-mail. But only sure way is just ask.bigsmile

whispertoascream's photo
Mon 07/16/07 05:26 PM
I would wait for at least a month. But that is just me. I like to take it slow.

GIRLYCHIC's photo
Mon 07/16/07 05:28 PM
thanks txs gal and whisper and i know i like to take it slow too but how long to do you take it that slow i mean 2-3 pages emails everyday is alot writing that I must say i enjoy I could so just say this stuff on the phone and such but thanks very much.

sandylou2456's photo
Mon 07/16/07 05:29 PM


Just tell him that you would like to talk to him on the phone. That you just can't wait to hear his voice. That'll get him moving....laugh

Stanne's photo
Mon 07/16/07 05:29 PM
just that happened to me be careful girl !!

eaglewoods's photo
Mon 07/16/07 05:52 PM
whisper can i please have my finger back:::::::pleasesad

Rapunzel's photo
Mon 07/16/07 06:24 PM
Well Dear Girl,
My suggestion would be to just take it easy, I guess.
I think that the other ladies brought up suggestions
that sound like very possible scenerios....
He could have other things going on
that he doesn't want you to know about,
and then again, he could be just shy...

Maybe you could just say you would like to hear his voice and see what he says to that...
Take it slow even though you might want to kick things up another notch, { like Emeril, ;-) }but be patient
and let him take some initiative too...

Don't guys want to be the hunter anymore these days?
I know some do, I read it on these profiles and in the community forums...
So, let them do a little bit of hunting...
Just don't be easy prey...Most good men like a challenge...
Being somewhat unavailable & aloof is always
more desirable, than being an easy catch.
But a balance in life is needed in all things...

My suggestion only...You have to do what's right for you...


daleray1606's photo
Mon 07/16/07 06:27 PM
All very good suggestions...

alexiateigra's photo
Mon 07/16/07 06:30 PM
Take it slow, but just talking on a phone is okay in my book.

Tomokun's photo
Mon 07/16/07 06:41 PM
Well, might as well put my two cents in...if you want the number, just ask for the number. In my opinion, more than 2 emails later and you still like talking to the person...*shrug* you might as well talk to the person.

Unless you are like me and HATE talking on the phone.grumble

I really hate the phone.:angry:

SheNerd's photo
Tue 07/17/07 12:01 AM
Ask for the number ASAP before you get emotionally involved with him. If he refuses to give it to you, there is probably a reason for it, (like he's married or living with someone or has unsavory habits he doesn't want to share with anyone).

Been there, done that, got the monkey, threw up on the T shirt.

no photo
Tue 07/17/07 12:15 AM
No phone!!! nononononooooooooooo!!! You don't know this person!!!! He could be in prison geeeeeez!!!!

Try talking on skype, teamspeak, yahoo messenger first!!!

Belushi's photo
Tue 07/17/07 12:16 AM
If you both have broadband, then use Skype to chat.

Its free, and very secure. Then you dont have to give any personal details away.

Skype dot com

Download it, get a headset (& a cam if you want) then chat.

Its great. Alex and I have been chatting for over a year on it.

We are even on it now. Breakfast together every morning, but 500 miles apart.

purplecat's photo
Tue 07/17/07 12:17 AM
BE CAREFUL !!!!!!!!

oh ,,,I cant watch......noway

no photo
Tue 07/17/07 12:21 AM
I'm a little torn on this one b/c I personally don't think 5 days is that long. but if you are ready to take it to the next level, just ask him. He could be waiting on you. If he flat out refuses to give you his number then I may be a little suspicious. but then again he might be a little shy and communicating through email might be easier. I would bring it up to him and see what he says.

SheNerd's photo
Tue 07/17/07 12:22 AM
Hey, it's the toilet duck! Can I get your autograph??? You're my hero... happy

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