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Topic: how seriously............
teadipper Joined Wed 10/19/11 Posts: 2732	Wed 01/11/12 01:01 PM
I don't think any of you are taking this seriously enough. Well Ruth, you hang with my buddy, Jack, who is awesome for real so feel free to take him serious. ; )

eileena9 Joined Fri 04/13/07 Posts: 28211	Wed 01/11/12 01:07 PM
Joined this place just to help a friend....now look what happened....

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45337	Wed 01/11/12 01:10 PM
I don't think any of you are taking this seriously enough. You know what you have to do. SNAP on those latex gloves..

teadipper Joined Wed 10/19/11 Posts: 2732	Wed 01/11/12 01:12 PM
I don't think any of you are taking this seriously enough. You know what you have to do. SNAP on those latex gloves.. Ya well those are required for what one of my play mates is into but I didn't think we were getting personal.........

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Wed 01/11/12 01:16 PM
I don't think any of you are taking this seriously enough. You know what you have to do. SNAP on those latex gloves.. I just bought a new box.

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45337	Wed 01/11/12 01:50 PM
I just bought a new box. Obviously you knew a Boy Scout.

Godiva Joined Tue 12/09/08 Posts: 5330	Wed 01/11/12 02:26 PM
do you take dating on Mingle? I mean I play on here all the time. I go off on what I call "love tangents" which result in bad poetry and such but I have only had one person I was really serious about and you guys know who that was. The first one. The musician/engineer/politician who bailed after we broke up. Otherwise, I have just played. Also, do you date off site? In real life, the majority of my dates are off site. I say I date mostly inside my own religion "nerd". Where do you find your dates? The same as I take it anywhere else. If I meet someone, I treat them with respect and try to get to know them, and let them know me. As I said in another thread, this may be "online", but it is not fantasy to me. Some people tend to treat everything online as somehow not real, and as such they can act any way they want and be however they want. I am a real person, sharing real thoughts, with other real people. I joke and kid with some, discuss music with others, and exchange thoughts with still others. So yes, I do take it seriously. I accept that others may not, and as such am cautious when people talk to me, but I don't let it dissuade me from being who I am. I have dated off site, and have met someone on site before. So for me it does not matter. Everyone has an equal chance to offer something as far as I am concerned. For the most part, it does not matter where you are coming from to me.

Grim14u Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 390	Wed 01/11/12 03:03 PM
There is very little that I take.......... Seriously!!!!

Shy_Emo_chick Joined Fri 04/01/11 Posts: 4393	Thu 01/12/12 04:36 AM
Going through that stuff is not fun at all. My ex-fiance was emotionally abusive almost always. I think I remember him actually say if I leave him he'll make my life a living hell. Which explains why I'm a emotional wreck. I'm glad you got some help, in a lot these situations, most women don't seek any type of asistance readily available to them, in worst cases until its too late. I guess I was afraid too. I try not to be afraid of everybody. Sorry that you had to go through that. At least you're away from that good-for-nothing now. How long did it happen for?

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Thu 01/12/12 05:54 AM
I guess Im fortunate not to have 'shut down'. Shutting down can be a good thing as long as it's not permanent.

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Thu 01/12/12 06:11 AM
I guess Im fortunate not to have 'shut down'. Shutting down can be a good thing as long as it's not permanent. I would rather call that 'taking a break'...sounds more sunny. 'shut down' makes me think: old factory with broken out windows and grass growin through the cracks in the parkin lot. Good point.

pennyg281 Joined Thu 11/08/07 Posts: 4348	Thu 01/12/12 06:17 AM
I dated a guy I met on here back when I first joined we are still friends. I havent dated any in the last couple of years.

irisheyes79 Joined Sat 11/10/07 Posts: 16745	Thu 01/12/12 06:21 AM
the online thing is prolly the worst place to find someone

teadipper Joined Wed 10/19/11 Posts: 2732	Thu 01/12/12 06:33 AM
I just don't believe that people really CAN'T find dates. Maybe they want to date outside their "league" or "own kind" note I am saying quote unquote. I mean guys from temple, my LUGs (Linux User Groups), my comedian friends, etc. ask me out. I get asked out at the comic book store, etc. But I do get asked out. Mind you the range is limited. So ya, I am in a target audience of cerebral nerds who are fasted witted fairly successful and often Jewish. The only REAL variation AGE, I get some really young hot guys and some guys who are older than me. The only real variety comes when somebody wants to set me up with a son or relative which recently, someone is trying to set me up with a relative who owns a chopper shop because he likes sharp sassy cute brunettes. I have put dating on a back burner though until my condo gets repaired.

manOfewwords Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 29908	Thu 01/12/12 06:35 AM
mingletards date

Shy_Emo_chick Joined Fri 04/01/11 Posts: 4393	Thu 01/12/12 07:00 AM
For those who have shut down over their experiences, I hope time will heal that. I hope you will see that if someone treated you badly, it was not your fault, but you can be wary of that sort of person for the next time. Allow it to teach you something to defend yourself. I do use mingle for the forums, and have only met one from this particular site, but Im NOT going to say 'I ONLY use this for the forums' because I am open here, just like Im open anywhere. I can say that this is the only site I use for patter tho. That was really sweet :) :flower: I didn't join to only find a date, as i really don't mind making friends here and conversating. Friends are enough to keep me entertained, is more or less what i'm thinking right now. Love could come around again, or could not. I leave it up to the big man in the sky :) lol

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Thu 01/12/12 07:15 AM
I leave it open - don't get too serious if I meet someone fine - if I don't fine I do want to meet someone I just don't care whether it is here or elsewhere

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Thu 01/12/12 07:21 AM
I was just hoping to meet someone to hang with in Dallas. Looks like I gotta go back to POF for that, they have parties nearly every weekend in Dallas.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Thu 01/12/12 09:36 AM
I just don't believe that people really CAN'T find dates. I thinks its feasible that one can't find dates. Contrary to what anyone thinks; its hard to attract the opposite sex. If you aren't pretty, young, or thin here in Calgary; you think a guy is going to give you the time of day? These boys here are rich in oil and they want some arm candy; not an old average lady so I am not foolish enough to think I can compete with a younger woman. People are particualar in what they want and if you don't meet all their requirements; you don't get dates. So, its believable that not all of us are dateable so to speak.

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Thu 01/12/12 09:42 AM
I just don't believe that people really CAN'T find dates. I thinks its feasible that one can't find dates. Contrary to what anyone thinks; its hard to attract the opposite sex. If you aren't pretty, young, or thin here in Calgary; you think a guy is going to give you the time of day? These boys here are rich in oil and they want some arm candy; not an old average lady so I am not foolish enough to think I can compete with a younger woman. People are particualar in what they want and if you don't meet all their requirements; you don't get dates. So, its believable that not all of us are dateable so to speak. You seem dateable to me, There in Calgary!