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Topic: I don't understand women
Lpdon's photo
Wed 06/27/12 10:45 PM

flowers


tears

Lpdon's photo
Wed 06/27/12 10:47 PM
Edited by Lpdon on Wed 06/27/12 10:48 PM

Have you sat down and really talked to her about it?

It could be a lot of things. It could be nothing at all. She could be bored, unhappy, depressed, unmotivated, who knows? And I am not speaking about you in that regard, but about life in general. You mentioned the stuff you used to do, and how it has trickled off, but have you tried doing anything new recently? I mean I do not know what all you are talking about, or what interests either one of you has or what all you have done... but have you tried surprising her with tickets to a show she wants to see, or doing something spontaneous like going stargazing late at night somewhere alone, or going on a roadtrip to see someplace new, or writing a love note and sending it with some flowers to her on the job or something? It is real easy to think that just because something starts one way, it will continue going that same way with no changes. And I am not saying you have not been trying anything... but maybe you guys are just in a rut and need to do some new things to get out of it and remind each other why you are together in the first place.


We had plans last Saturday to go play mini golf but I got off work at 7:30pm and she was at her parents and didn't answer her phone or my texts until 11:30pm when she was on her way home from her parents. She said she just figured that because I said I was tired that plans changed.

I also cant send her flowers at work since we work together and we have to keep it low key.

Jtevans's photo
Wed 06/27/12 10:53 PM


the first guy that can understand a woman will win a pulitzer prize smokin

Correction: a Nobel prize



ok your correction was correct :thumbsup:

Christinacospgs's photo
Wed 06/27/12 10:57 PM



the first guy that can understand a woman will win a pulitzer prize smokin

Correction: a Nobel prize



ok your correction was correct :thumbsup:


:wink: true dat

Lpdon's photo
Thu 06/28/12 12:06 AM



the first guy that can understand a woman will win a pulitzer prize smokin

Correction: a Nobel prize



ok your correction was correct :thumbsup:


For a peace prize?

TexasScoundrel's photo
Thu 06/28/12 03:45 AM

if talking about it doesnt seem to work, how about giving her some space...just enough for her to miss you...


YES! Good answer!

Give her the girt of missing you. Be less available to her. Things are likely moving too fast for her, so back it off some. If you keep pushing for her to talk or spend time with you, she'll leave.

no photo
Thu 06/28/12 04:24 AM
Hey Lpdon...Just read through the thread again and I want to add one more thought....I'm thinking because the two of you have been together in what you describe as an intimate, committed relationship for several months, claming up, refusing calls, booking trips and telling you after the fact are all big red flags....Even if she "just" wants a little space, shutting you out is not mature, rational, or fair...She should have enough respect for you and the relationship (and herself) to tell you straight out what gives...Again, I wish you the best....flowerforyou

s1owhand's photo
Thu 06/28/12 06:05 AM
Hey Up - you gotta get out and do some stuff with some of your other
friends. Something is bugging her and you are going to have to let her work it out while you concentrate on getting yourself in a better
place.


no photo
Tue 07/03/12 02:42 AM
I hate to say it,but i am just gonna be blunt and honest as usual(i would hate it if people would try to sugarcoat the truth for me)...anyways,she's just not that into you anymore. Either because there is someone else,or she just got bored with the relationship you guys have,and maybe wants more out of the relationship or just wants something different. Either way,why speculate?? Save yourself the time and the headache of trying to figure her out when she clearly turned a deaf ear to u,and either give her an ultimatum (her telling u what's wrong,and maybe you guys can try and salvage that relationship),or just end the relationship.Either way,why prolong the emotional suffering?!

TBRich's photo
Tue 07/03/12 06:57 AM
This reminds me of a poem, I once read:

Sir John Suckling. 1609–1642

327. Why so Pale and Wan?

WHY so pale and wan, fond lover?
Prithee, why so pale?
Will, when looking well can't move her,
Looking ill prevail?
Prithee, why so pale? 5

Why so dull and mute, young sinner?
Prithee, why so mute?
Will, when speaking well can't win her,
Saying nothing do 't?
Prithee, why so mute? 10

Quit, quit for shame! This will not move;
This cannot take her.
If of herself she will not love,
Nothing can make her:
The devil take her! 15

willing2's photo
Tue 07/03/12 07:00 AM

I hate to say it,but i am just gonna be blunt and honest as usual(i would hate it if people would try to sugarcoat the truth for me)...anyways,she's just not that into you anymore. Either because there is someone else,or she just got bored with the relationship you guys have,and maybe wants more out of the relationship or just wants something different. Either way,why speculate?? Save yourself the time and the headache of trying to figure her out when she clearly turned a deaf ear to u,and either give her an ultimatum (her telling u what's wrong,and maybe you guys can try and salvage that relationship),or just end the relationship.Either way,why prolong the emotional suffering?!

Sorry, Don.
I believe this woman is shooting you straight info.
May have to forget her and get on with life.

PS
Add smart to that sexy and sensual, young Sweetheart!flowers :thumbsup:

Goofball73's photo
Tue 07/03/12 08:34 AM
As B.B King once stated...."The thrill is gone". Sorry dude, but reading what you wrote, and all that you have tried to do, she is simply not responding to you because she doens't know how to be mean and tell you it's over. She is probably hoping you will just give up and go away, making it easier for her so she doesn't have to break it off with you.

MariahsFantasy's photo
Tue 07/03/12 10:29 AM

I don't get it. I have been at my job for a few months now where I met my girlfriend (Ya, I know don't date people you work with). We got very close over the time we worked together and now are practically living together.

Over the past week she seems more distant and not talk talkitive (she used to text me like 40 times a day or call me), and when she gets home from work we dont really talk much and either watch a movie or goto sleep :( I try to ask her whats wrong but she keeps saying nothing. We were having so much fun together, messing around and doing things, always holding eachother, talking to eachother etc and that seemed to turn off like a dan light switch.

I hope I am just reading too much into this because I honestly found someone who I have a lot in common with and who I have a lot of fun with.

Any advice or help would be great!


Ask her a direct question. See how she reacts. That should tell you everything. Those "nice" questions aren't going to get you anywhere. Be more upfront and confrontational. If she buckles then I would give her space. If it continues then its over. Sad to say.

no photo
Tue 07/03/12 12:46 PM
If you have tried to initiate communication with her and she is not cooperating, you have to evaluate this situation and decide if this is the type of woman you want to be with. It seems to me she has some issues. Communication is the key to a healthy relationship. If she isn't willing to participate, you are better off moving on.

Chazster's photo
Tue 07/03/12 01:12 PM
This reminds me of a story. A man is walking on a beach in California and comes across a bottle. He opens the bottle and out pops a genie. The man is informed he gets 1 wish. Being an unselfish man he wishes the genie construct a bridge from China to California. The genie tells him that is to difficult and to ask for something else. The man then tells the genie that he wants to understand women. The genie asks "so where did you want the bridge again?"

Kaleijoscope's photo
Wed 07/18/12 06:59 AM

"The genie tells him that is to difficult to build a bridge and to ask for something else. The man then tells the genie that he wants to understand women. The genie asks "so where did you want the bridge again?"

i was just re-reading,and this..made me laugh out loud!!!

Christinacospgs's photo
Wed 07/18/12 09:28 AM

This reminds me of a story. A man is walking on a beach in California and comes across a bottle. He opens the bottle and out pops a genie. The man is informed he gets 1 wish. Being an unselfish man he wishes the genie construct a bridge from China to California. The genie tells him that is to difficult and to ask for something else. The man then tells the genie that he wants to understand women. The genie asks "so where did you want the bridge again?"


rofl rofl rofl
so true...

Sandelwood4's photo
Wed 07/18/12 08:12 PM
Well, look on the bright side. At least you still have your profile up. Maybe you'll meet someone new.

But seriously, I wouldn't consider myself in a relationship with someone who "forgot" to remove his profile. I think you know why she is no longer into you. More than we can ever know.

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