My wife and I separated. She told me it was over, being pretty vicious about it "sorry excuse for a husband, father and man". Then started another relationship. Told me wee had no chance as she had feelings already for him. A couple weeks later, she says she wants to talk. Starts asking how Im doing, joking, even sexting. Tells me she is dumping the new guy because her "heart is torn". Supposed to talk about it all tomorrow when I visit our 2 yr old daughter. I love her and still want her. Should I be "thankful" to have another chance or play from a position of indeferance, asking for changes and dropping her if she doesnt agree?

Personally I think you should think twice because you seem to be her yoyo

I'd be wondering how she had a sudden change of heart so quickly? If she really did, that is. That's some pretty harsh things to say to someone that you love, to then turn around and say that 'I'm dumping the guy I have feelings for and left you for, but now I want you back'. Why would you say 'should I be thankful for another chance'? It kind of sounds like a game or something,but that's just my opinion. What if she finds someone else and it happens again?

Thank you. Im thinking about it more than twice. Maybe love, maybe just crazy but I would like to see it work out.

yes ma'am. Id like to know those things too. My heart is pretty f*cked up right now.

You know her better then any of us, so I'd say having that talk with her might be good. I'd just say be cautious when you're having that talk, and use your head. But I kind of agree,it does sound like you're her yo-yo,her fall back on guy. But then again,none of us know her or what's going on, we're just going on the little bit you've told us.

Humm, at times things like this work out and sometimes they do not. It takes two people that are on the same wave length and want the same goal for that to happen.. I understand that with a child involved that is so young gives two even more of a reason to try to make things work out..

All I can say is I wish you both the best in the journey ahead.

It will take a lot of work to regain what you had and repair the trust... May it all work out for you both..

yes ma'am, there is no way to really describe the whole situation. Lots of stress, lots of mistakes on both sides, angry words, hurt feelings, kids involved, a real mess. Just looking for a bit of neutral advice I guess.

thank you ma'am : )

If she's done it to you before, what makes you think she won't again. I'm sure it's tough, but do you really want to go through that again?

She told you you were a dikhead and dumped you for some other dikhead,
and then when she found out the other guy was a real dikhead who wouldn't put up with her chit she wants to come back to you?

Sorry guy, I'd say this relationship is done.

And don't try and keep it going for kids sake either.
Putting a kid through a F'd up relationship is worse for him than
just ending it.

I dont know. My wife left 20 years ago. Ive been out there playing. I get lots of young ladies. But none of them want a relationship. Id think about it hard.

You said you still her love her and want her. Life and love comes with no gurantees but if you think you are happier with her than without her maybe you owe it to yourself to give it another shot.
Whatever you decide to do I hopes it works out for the best.

I know from my own experience that it does not work....for Me.
I cannot allow myself to offer you advice based on MY experience.

Only you know her, or thought you did.
Only you know you......

This is one that will have your head and heart fighting.
What ever you decide.....

I wish you the best.
Its a rock and a hard place to be!!!

Thanks ya'll my thoughts have touched on all the opinions here. Nice to know Im not completely crazy. Just need to decide which direction to take.

dude. i hate women, they are so bloody annoying.

you are never right you have no chance of ever being right or getting aknowlegment from her that you have ever been right or that she has ever been wrong.

you have a child together and you clearly didnt want it to end. its a tough call but i say you cant regret trying, only not trying. she IS a biotch for what shes done but your the onlyone who will miss out if its over. just dont let her know that you know that.

give it everything youve got and at the end of the day you can hold your head up and say "i did all that i could have done" and your daughter will enevitably see that one day too.

In all honesty this is one of those things that your damn if you do and damn if you don't.....

You said yourself that you still love her so until you put yourself out there to find out if it will work or not you will never know...

I tried going back with a ex b/f before did a trial run for a weekend....Found out that was not where I wanted to be so we parted our ways knowing we tried...

But in the end at least I don't wonder now what if??

WOW

i have to say
you dont want to get back
for she going to hurt you again

think of your daughter as well of yourself

her mother still may be in the pic, clear in the back

but saving your butt from a mistake
you will learn... she only coming back
for someone to lean on

dont go for her bull crap

yes i know your a human with feelings
we all are

but you have to think for your self and stay focused on going forward

Be careful, a wife that would do to you what she did to you sounds to me to be a very selfish person. Now that things are not working out so well for her she wants you back. I think I would think long and hard before I let her back in. If you do set some standards and if she breaks them then tell her theres the door.

Seems long winded and already hurts my head reading it. I think its best to think for yourself instead of cater to her needs. She wants you on HER terms, where do you get a say in this? Do you love the good image she gave you OR do you love her? Do you accept her for who she is? Does she truly accept you? A lot of these questions should be up front and center before any drastic decisions are made.