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lots of things factor in,,,,
does the 'older' person have children, I wouldnt really want to be stepmom to someone older than me,,,if you get my drift,,lol do we have things in common besides a physical attraction? are we at a common place in life , despite the age difference? is it because they are a slow developer? ,,,,I have done a twenty year age gap and cant personally see doing it again,,,but I dont think it should be JUST about the age once both parties are over 30 |
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To me age is not just a number. I would rather date an immature 50 year old than a mature 30 year old. I have mature 30 year old friends but there are still too many differences from life experiences that we can't share nor would they understand. I understand what you're saying. That's why I say they both have to be on the same level. It's happened with me. The one I dated had a lot of life experience packed into 25 yrs. But to clarify, I've only dated one that caught my attention that way. That's been six yrs ago. I haven't met another one since. Neither have I tried. I'm just saying it's possible. I don't think someone that much older than me would be on the same level. We'd be at different places in life and looking for different things. That's why I think age definitely matters. Yeah; I agree. Goodness knows I am having a hard enough time getting on the same level with guys my age; never mind someone much younger. Personally, I think the most immature thing ever is to not accept who you are at your age. I see young guys trying to act older as well see older guys trying to act younger. We should all be comfortable in our age. When I was 30; I certainly wouldn't date a guy in his 50s as I was smart enough to know we wouldn't be on the same level. Just as now; being 50; I sure as heck wouldn't be on the same level as someone in their 70s. Of course, those who are much older or much younger who say age doesn't matter never seem to be able to start conversations here via email. They never know what to talk about. That just reaffirms what I think about age. |
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To me age is not just a number. I would rather date an immature 50 year old than a mature 30 year old. I have mature 30 year old friends but there are still too many differences from life experiences that we can't share nor would they understand. I understand what you're saying. That's why I say they both have to be on the same level. It's happened with me. The one I dated had a lot of life experience packed into 25 yrs. But to clarify, I've only dated one that caught my attention that way. That's been six yrs ago. I haven't met another one since. Neither have I tried. I'm just saying it's possible. I don't think someone that much older than me would be on the same level. We'd be at different places in life and looking for different things. That's why I think age definitely matters. Yeah; I agree. Goodness knows I am having a hard enough time getting on the same level with guys my age; never mind someone much younger. Personally, I think the most immature thing ever is to not accept who you are at your age. I see young guys trying to act older as well see older guys trying to act younger. We should all be comfortable in our age. When I was 30; I certainly wouldn't date a guy in his 50s as I was smart enough to know we wouldn't be on the same level. Just as now; being 50; I sure as heck wouldn't be on the same level as someone in their 70s. Of course, those who are much older or much younger who say age doesn't matter never seem to be able to start conversations here via email. They never know what to talk about. That just reaffirms what I think about age. Damn; you are spot on with that comment. 
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Ok am all yours for the taking,but know for sure we gonna have kid pandas...and am talking to serious ladies only...
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It can a great expierence, when I was in my late 20s I dated a woman in her early 40s. She thought me a lot about class, converstion , respect that it wasn't only about sex, I learned alot
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age is a factor for me. i don't date younger men because i'm a mother and i feel that would be like have another child. i also don't date men more then 13 years my sir. just a personal choice but to each his own.do what makes you happy i don't judge.
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Edited by
Charles1962150
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Thu 09/27/12 04:22 PM
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The whole purpose of starting a thread on a forum is to post your perspective about whatever the subject is. Then,others come along and post their perspective on the subject. So far there have been something around two pages of other people's perspectives. Including yours. I could say the same thing about your perspective and all the others if I wanted to. But wouldn't that be kinda stupid? Everyone is allowed their perspective. That's the whole point in starting a thread isn't it? If you intend to be accepting of other perspectives perhaps you could avoid using phrases like: people in general turn there noses up to people of certain ages. Why? I'm telling the truth. I can accept other peoples perspectives and still tell the truth as I see it. I hate to say it, But here is another truth. So far it seems "YOU" are the only one having a problem accepting different perspectives. You seem to have a problem with mine. No one else has said a word about accepting different perspectives. Especially mine. Just you. |
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The whole purpose of starting a thread on a forum is to post your perspective about whatever the subject is. Then,others come along and post their perspective on the subject. So far there have been something around two pages of other people's perspectives. Including yours. I could say the same thing about your perspective and all the others if I wanted to. But wouldn't that be kinda stupid? Everyone is allowed their perspective. That's the whole point in starting a thread isn't it? If you intend to be accepting of other perspectives perhaps you could avoid using phrases like: people in general turn there noses up to people of certain ages. Why? I'm telling the truth. I can accept other peoples perspectives and still tell the truth as I see it. I hate to say it, But here is another truth. So far it seems "YOU" are the only one having a problem accepting different perspectives. You seem to have a problem with mine. No one else has said a word about accepting different perspectives. Especially mine. Just you. You're giving your opinion, which may be the truth for some, but it's still your opinion. |
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I don't see any problem dating someone older/younger. As long as the mentality matches the partner, then it's fine.
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age is n0t a barrier..if i l0ve him why n0t?
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Before I post this I want everyone to know I'm not talking about me. It's just something that came to mind. I'm curious to what folks in general think. Men and women. You're 35. You're at a party with lots of different people. This person approaches you and starts talking to you. Average, But nice looking. This person is 50. Seems like a good person and very datable. Would you consider dating this person? Or is 50 to old? Or would that even be a factor in whether you dated this person or not? What in the woodo voodo? In a few months I will be fifty and let me tell you something Charlie- you'd be in such a bromance with me, I would be avoiding your calls! PS- I am joking, I'd have my g/f tell you that I am not home right now LOL |
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The whole purpose of starting a thread on a forum is to post your perspective about whatever the subject is. Then,others come along and post their perspective on the subject. So far there have been something around two pages of other people's perspectives. Including yours. I could say the same thing about your perspective and all the others if I wanted to. But wouldn't that be kinda stupid? Everyone is allowed their perspective. That's the whole point in starting a thread isn't it? If you intend to be accepting of other perspectives perhaps you could avoid using phrases like: people in general turn there noses up to people of certain ages. Why? I'm telling the truth. I can accept other peoples perspectives and still tell the truth as I see it. I hate to say it, But here is another truth. So far it seems "YOU" are the only one having a problem accepting different perspectives. You seem to have a problem with mine. No one else has said a word about accepting different perspectives. Especially mine. Just you. You're giving your opinion, which may be the truth for some, but it's still your opinion. Yep, It's my opinion. Right along with the other 2 1/2 pages of others opinions that are just as right or wrong as mine. |
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You just have to realize that not everyone is going to agree with you at all times.
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i dated a45 year old and loved it older women know how to treat u an know how to treat a man............
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largest Age gap for me has been 8 yrs ... but it didn't end badly or anything like that it was just a mutual attraction and then a mutual drift apart ... but i don't want to put a an age limit out there but i would at least enjoy the possibility of kids in the future :P
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Edited by
Charles1962150
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You just have to realize that not everyone is going to agree with you at all times. Apparently some of you are not catching on, I don't care either way. Lets see if I can make this a little more clear. I haven't said not one word against anyone's opinion on this subject. Not once. But so far at least one has been bawking at me about my opinion. So far I have not made one post agreeing or disagreeing with anyone's post or thoughts on this subject. But for whatever reason some are still stuck on my thoughts. It seems to me I'm not the one with the problem. It's the one or ones that keep talking about my opinion. Which makes me feel like some folks can't stand the truth. What I said is the truth. Some folks DO turn up their nose to others based on nothing but age. As far as the way I look at it,You can't do that. By doing that you limit your possibilities. Now, I'm going to stir the pot a little more. I've also noticed how some women get defensive over this subject. They see a older man with a younger woman and it pi$$es them off. I've heard with my own ears, Women bad mouth men that are in their 40 or older with a woman 10 to 20 yrs younger than them. ("What's the matter with him" I've heard them say. "Can't he get one his age?") He's 50 and she is 30. What's the problem? They are both grown. I'm not saying this is the way it is. I'm just saying this is the way it looks. It looks like jealousy. It looks like some don't like it because they think he should be with a woman his age. They don't like it because he was able to attract this younger woman. It makes them feel threatened. They can't compete with someone younger. So, They bad mouth. I'm reasonably sure someone isn't going to like what I said here. I'm not talking out the side of my neck. I've seen this myself. Back in the day when I was 45 and dating the 25 yr old,Women my age bad mouthed her and I. When all the time she was better than them. It was all about age and nothing else. It didn't matter that she was mature beyond her yrs. It didn't matter that we had a lot in common. It was her age that mattered. At least to them. |
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You just have to realize that not everyone is going to agree with you at all times. Apparently some of you are not catching on, I don't care either way. Lets see if I can make this a little more clear. I haven't said not one word against anyone's opinion on this subject. Not once. But so far at least one has been bawking at me about my opinion. So far I have not made one post agreeing or disagreeing with anyone's post or thoughts on this subject. But for whatever reason some are still stuck on my thoughts. It seems to me I'm not the one with the problem. It's the one or ones that keep talking about my opinion. Which makes me feel like some folks can't stand the truth. What I said is the truth. Some folks DO turn up their nose to others based on nothing but age. As far as the way I look at it,You can't do that. By doing that you limit your possibilities. Now, I'm going to stir the pot a little more. I've also noticed how some women get defensive over this subject. They see a older man with a younger woman and it pi$$es them off. I've heard with my own ears, Women bad mouth men that are in their 40 or older with a woman 10 to 20 yrs younger than them. ("What's the matter with him" I've heard them say. "Can't he get one his age?") He's 50 and she is 30. What's the problem? They are both grown. I'm not saying this is the way it is. I'm just saying this is the way it looks. It looks like jealousy. It looks like some don't like it because they think he should be with a woman his age. They don't like it because he was able to attract this younger woman. It makes them feel threatened. They can't compete with someone younger. So, They bad mouth. I'm reasonably sure someone isn't going to like what I said here. I'm not talking out the side of my neck. I've seen this myself. Back in the day when I was 45 and dating the 25 yr old,Women my age bad mouthed her and I. When all the time she was better than them. It was all about age and nothing else. It didn't matter that she was mature beyond her yrs. It didn't matter that we had a lot in common. It was her age that mattered. At least to them. When you say something like: "What I said is the truth. Some folks DO turn up their nose to others based on nothing but age. As far as the way I look at it,You can't do that. By doing that you limit your possibilities." It does seem like you have a problem with those who do that. You're free to date whoever you like, but of course people can decide not to date someone based on age. Yes, that's your opinion, but you make it sound like you're trying to tell people what they cannot do, which shouldn't be the case. |
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I have always gone for men older than me. It's just what I'm attracted too. Some people like older, some people want someone their age, and some people like younger. Just depends on what you like, and your preferences.
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You just have to realize that not everyone is going to agree with you at all times. Apparently some of you are not catching on, I don't care either way. Lets see if I can make this a little more clear. I haven't said not one word against anyone's opinion on this subject. Not once. But so far at least one has been bawking at me about my opinion. So far I have not made one post agreeing or disagreeing with anyone's post or thoughts on this subject. But for whatever reason some are still stuck on my thoughts. It seems to me I'm not the one with the problem. It's the one or ones that keep talking about my opinion. Which makes me feel like some folks can't stand the truth. What I said is the truth. Some folks DO turn up their nose to others based on nothing but age. As far as the way I look at it,You can't do that. By doing that you limit your possibilities. Now, I'm going to stir the pot a little more. I've also noticed how some women get defensive over this subject. They see a older man with a younger woman and it pi$$es them off. I've heard with my own ears, Women bad mouth men that are in their 40 or older with a woman 10 to 20 yrs younger than them. ("What's the matter with him" I've heard them say. "Can't he get one his age?") He's 50 and she is 30. What's the problem? They are both grown. I'm not saying this is the way it is. I'm just saying this is the way it looks. It looks like jealousy. It looks like some don't like it because they think he should be with a woman his age. They don't like it because he was able to attract this younger woman. It makes them feel threatened. They can't compete with someone younger. So, They bad mouth. I'm reasonably sure someone isn't going to like what I said here. I'm not talking out the side of my neck. I've seen this myself. Back in the day when I was 45 and dating the 25 yr old,Women my age bad mouthed her and I. When all the time she was better than them. It was all about age and nothing else. It didn't matter that she was mature beyond her yrs. It didn't matter that we had a lot in common. It was her age that mattered. At least to them. I certainly wouldn't be jealous of an older man dating a younger woman as that is his choice but by the same token; I don't see why the guy getting pissed off when someone mistakens you for father and daughter; rather than lovers. Don't kid yourself; us older women can get younger guys too so its an even playing field. I get hit on by younger guys but it doesn't interest me as I have no wish to be a mommy figure or be used by them. Men are just as harsh when women date younger; calling them cougars. I find that insulting personally. So, is it safe to say that men are equally jealous of an older woman dating a younger guy? I guess its your opinion that we are limiting our possibilities but for me personally; I don't see it. I have met lots of younger guys and although mature for their age; they still don't do it for me. I find nothing attractive or luring about a younger man. I always think of the long term affects of dating someone younger although I am sure most would say live for the day. Its to each their own and its not a matter of turning up my nose at someone younger; it simply is a preference; much like someone without pets, or younger children, or a certain height, or a non-smoker. |
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