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Topic: Against "open relationships."
DTHRomeo Joined Wed 06/20/07 Posts: 43387	Sun 10/07/12 05:15 PM
Why an open relationship? ... Just still single then , less BS and drama

iAdam94 Joined Fri 09/07/12 Posts: 23	Sun 10/07/12 05:16 PM
Personally i wouldn't want one, but if people feel it will spice up their relationship i say go for it, i wouldn't be in one of them though that's for sure!

willing2 Joined Sun 06/08/08 Posts: 20221	Sun 10/07/12 05:24 PM
I'm a polygamistic pimp.

mssilverfox Joined Sat 12/08/07 Posts: 10529	Sun 10/07/12 06:53 PM
Why an open relationship? ... Just still single then , less BS and drama I agree with Romeo....why be in a relationship if you just want to sleep around.. not for me..

Jtevans Joined Fri 08/10/07 Posts: 30654	Sun 10/07/12 07:02 PM
Who else is opposed to this load of croc??? an open relationship is nothing more than a FWB.i'm against them but if some other couple is in one,who am i to judge?

willing2 Joined Sun 06/08/08 Posts: 20221	Sun 10/07/12 07:04 PM
I wouldn't just sleep around. I'd make them all feel special. How you, Mssilverfox? Doing well, I hope. Later, ya'll. Have a great rest of the night!

PacificStar48 Joined Tue 10/02/07 Posts: 13764	Sun 10/07/12 07:10 PM
I see it as a rip off and dangerous behavior that sooner or later a lot of people get dragged into paying for because the related fall out. But I don't want anyone analyzing and dictateing my life to me so if everyone is consenting it's their deal. I just tell those that think I am going to bail them out if this kind of behavior ends in disaster don't come crying to me. I have cleaned up enough of my own messes without knowingly supporting something that has "S-T-U-P-I-D U-S-E-R" Relationship written all over it.

markc48 Joined Wed 05/07/08 Posts: 5536	Sun 10/07/12 07:15 PM
It is a trap. How can I find the one. When I already have 5 And it's a lot of work sometimes.

pyxxie13 Joined Wed 09/28/11 Posts: 3835	Sun 10/07/12 10:35 PM
I'm selfish!

jacktrades Joined Tue 09/11/12 Posts: 4395	Sun 10/07/12 10:52 PM
Does that include hookers on the side?

Duttoneer Joined Sun 07/01/12 Posts: 4686	Mon 10/08/12 02:42 AM
I have always thought these are the result of a failed marriage, the people stay together in an "Open Relationship" because it's another option to separation/divorce, and may be only temporary before finally breaking up. There can be a variety of reasons behind their choice, each to their own as they say, but it's not for me I would find it intolerable.

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Mon 10/08/12 10:29 AM
A man should be allowed as many women who can afford to take good care of him. Bravo! Cause we men need many women to take care of us, tell us what to do, when to do it....and to give all that responsibility to just one woman is asking for so much. We can't throw all that on just one lady. It would be mean of us men to do that.

becca777 Joined Tue 08/05/08 Posts: 2161	Mon 10/08/12 10:35 AM
I think it depends on so many various degrees. The degree of seriousness you want to be in with your 'significant other'. The degree of open relationship status you are both willing to take. There are a lot of people out there who can handle being more open than others. I think security and jealousy have a lot to do with it. I also think that there has to be an understanding and a belief that sex does not equal love. Are you the type of person who believes that the 2 go hand in hand, or are you the type who can completely disconnect them from each other?

becca777 Joined Tue 08/05/08 Posts: 2161	Mon 10/08/12 10:36 AM
covers her head and waits for the thrashing to begin

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Mon 10/08/12 10:45 AM
I think it depends on so many various degrees. The degree of seriousness you want to be in with your 'significant other'. The degree of open relationship status you are both willing to take. There are a lot of people out there who can handle being more open than others. I think security and jealousy have a lot to do with it. I also think that there has to be an understanding and a belief that sex does not equal love. Are you the type of person who believes that the 2 go hand in hand, or are you the type who can completely disconnect them from each other? I didn't realize that "openness" (did I spell that right, lol) had different degrees to it. Hmmmmmmm. I should ask my next gf how her openness level is. Seriously though....I actually agree with you. Sex does not equal love. Now, sex is enhanced when you are in love with someone. Has a different feeling to it. What an open relationship comes down to is can you and your partner handle it? Can the both of you deal with your partner engaging in sex (which can be intimate or can be just about getting your rocks off) with another person? Most people wanna believe they can handle it. And some can. But it takes an awful lot to do so.

Loy822 Joined Mon 07/26/10 Posts: 7174	Mon 10/08/12 10:59 AM
It's not for me, but who's to say what works for someone else. If my partner suggested it, I would be looking for new partner, but that's just me.

Torgo70 Joined Fri 06/27/08 Posts: 27387	Mon 10/08/12 12:01 PM
Are open relationships anything like open faced sandwiches?

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 10/08/12 12:08 PM
A slut is a slut no matter how you put it. So you just made this thread to be judgmental toward people you disagree with. If you don't want an open relationship, don't have one. It's as simple as that. They work for some and don't work for others.

msmyka Joined Sat 03/22/08 Posts: 17079	Mon 10/08/12 03:26 PM
I can't wrap my head around the concept of it but that's just my personal opinion. Why be in a relationship if you really want to be single?

wux Joined Wed 07/29/09 Posts: 7426	Mon 10/08/12 04:01 PM
I'm a polygamistic pimp. What a surprise, Billing2!! And there I was, thinking that you are just one simple, honest, run-of-the-mill polymysogynist of the many. (Well, and coming up with a real word that has three Y-s in it is no little feat, either! And I don't mind saying so myself. After all, I should know best of all people exaclty how big or small a feat it is -- since I am the first to have done the job.)