Topic: M & W Can't be "Just Friends"
navygirl's photo
Sun 10/28/12 01:52 AM



Well, I have lots of male friends and that is what they are. They are more like brothers to me than anything else and me being a Tomboy; we get along great. So, if you are mature enough; you can be just friends with the opposite sex.


Try asking one of them if they'd have sex with you.


They all said yes. I lose on this one.


I guess the big difference is when you are young and pretty compared to someone that is old an unattractive. I am so jealous.

oldhippie1952's photo
Sun 10/28/12 03:53 AM
I have female friends; many I'd stray into married life with. After all, your partner should be your best friend.

Hikerjohn's photo
Sun 10/28/12 05:48 AM
Edited by Hikerjohn on Sun 10/28/12 06:16 AM



Well, I have lots of male friends and that is what they are. They are more like brothers to me than anything else and me being a Tomboy; we get along great. So, if you are mature enough; you can be just friends with the opposite sex.


Try asking one of them if they'd have sex with you.


They all said yes. I lose on this one.


Well clearly we are not friends cause I don't remember you asking me. frown






:tongue:

Hikerjohn's photo
Sun 10/28/12 06:15 AM
I was surprised to see that no ladies talked about actually being attracted to a friend but not allowing it to go anywhere because you cherish the friendship. I do this.

I have friends I am attracted to that I don't make moves on for various reasons. Some I find it very hard not to be turned on by. Others I can control myself just fine. If she is available and I am attracted, I tend to let it be known.


One gal friend I have been attracted to for years before I met her. I now am great friends with her and she is head over heals with her boyfriend. I would peruse here if she wasn't but I would never attempt to distract her from her boyfriend now because she wants that relationship. Thats me being her friend. Yet we do things together all the time. Weekly. My choice to not act on my attraction doesn't make her less attractive. I value our friendship and desire her to be happy.

I say this alot. It goes back to a choice. Both for ladies and men. If you want to truly have friends, then you chose to respect the other persons wants and desires as much as your own.

So ladies. How many of your friends are you attracted to yet you would not sleep with because you don't want to loose the friendship.





ladyliz1417's photo
Sun 10/28/12 07:12 AM
I have no attraction for any of my male friends....that's why we are friends. I'm even friends with my exes but we have no desire to sleep together.

no photo
Sun 10/28/12 07:27 AM

I was surprised to see that no ladies talked about actually being attracted to a friend but not allowing it to go anywhere because you cherish the friendship. I do this.

I have friends I am attracted to that I don't make moves on for various reasons. Some I find it very hard not to be turned on by. Others I can control myself just fine. If she is available and I am attracted, I tend to let it be known.


One gal friend I have been attracted to for years before I met her. I now am great friends with her and she is head over heals with her boyfriend. I would peruse here if she wasn't but I would never attempt to distract her from her boyfriend now because she wants that relationship. Thats me being her friend. Yet we do things together all the time. Weekly. My choice to not act on my attraction doesn't make her less attractive. I value our friendship and desire her to be happy.

I say this alot. It goes back to a choice. Both for ladies and men. If you want to truly have friends, then you chose to respect the other persons wants and desires as much as your own.

So ladies. How many of your friends are you attracted to yet you would not sleep with because you don't want to loose the friendship.







Maybe there is some truth to the article:wink:

no photo
Sun 10/28/12 08:02 AM

I was surprised to see that no ladies talked about actually being attracted to a friend but not allowing it to go anywhere because you cherish the friendship. I do this.

I have friends I am attracted to that I don't make moves on for various reasons. Some I find it very hard not to be turned on by. Others I can control myself just fine. If she is available and I am attracted, I tend to let it be known.


One gal friend I have been attracted to for years before I met her. I now am great friends with her and she is head over heals with her boyfriend. I would peruse here if she wasn't but I would never attempt to distract her from her boyfriend now because she wants that relationship. Thats me being her friend. Yet we do things together all the time. Weekly. My choice to not act on my attraction doesn't make her less attractive. I value our friendship and desire her to be happy.

I say this alot. It goes back to a choice. Both for ladies and men. If you want to truly have friends, then you chose to respect the other persons wants and desires as much as your own.

So ladies. How many of your friends are you attracted to yet you would not sleep with because you don't want to loose the friendship.





I'm attracted to many different guys. Doesn't mean I'm necessarily going to do anything about it, especially if we're friends. And, it doesn't mean that I cannot be just friends with them.

MariahsFantasy's photo
Sun 10/28/12 04:14 PM




Well, I have lots of male friends and that is what they are. They are more like brothers to me than anything else and me being a Tomboy; we get along great. So, if you are mature enough; you can be just friends with the opposite sex.


Try asking one of them if they'd have sex with you.


They all said yes. I lose on this one.


Well at least you know "You still got it!"

drinker

flowerforyou

laugh



If only this line worked on me IRL. Maybe I gotta move to England. I am attracted to accents.

MariahsFantasy's photo
Sun 10/28/12 04:17 PM




Well, I have lots of male friends and that is what they are. They are more like brothers to me than anything else and me being a Tomboy; we get along great. So, if you are mature enough; you can be just friends with the opposite sex.


Try asking one of them if they'd have sex with you.


They all said yes. I lose on this one.


I guess the big difference is when you are young and pretty compared to someone that is old an unattractive. I am so jealous.


Bah, "young" and "pretty" are just terms. I am actually more jealous of the knowledge we get as we ripen. That's what you have. Its like a fine wine. For now I'll just settle with being hot and smart, bleh. laugh Good news is its only good for Halloween, dress slutty and crash all the partays Mod Squad style. smokin

no photo
Sun 10/28/12 04:27 PM

I guess the big difference is when you are young and pretty compared to someone that is old an unattractive. I am so jealous.


the young and pretty thing isn't necessarily true.
not that i'm calling myself pretty.
o.O
but i know guys who would not have sex with me.

navygirl's photo
Sun 10/28/12 04:52 PM


I guess the big difference is when you are young and pretty compared to someone that is old an unattractive. I am so jealous.


the young and pretty thing isn't necessarily true.
not that i'm calling myself pretty.
o.O
but i know guys who would not have sex with me.



I know what you are saying but overall as you age; your looks diminish so men aren't going to be attracted to you. Why else do men's heads turn when a young and pretty woman walks by?

no photo
Sun 10/28/12 04:54 PM

I know what you are saying but overall as you age; your looks diminish so men aren't going to be attracted to you. Why else do men's heads turn when a young and pretty woman walks by?


oh...
well i'm so excited to grow old now.

navygirl's photo
Sun 10/28/12 04:57 PM


I know what you are saying but overall as you age; your looks diminish so men aren't going to be attracted to you. Why else do men's heads turn when a young and pretty woman walks by?


oh...
well i'm so excited to grow old now.



You are too funny.

Whywherewhenwho's photo
Tue 10/30/12 10:24 AM
Nonsense. Real friendship has actually more potential between a man and a woman. Platonic as well as a solid basis for a love relationship.


navygirl's photo
Tue 10/30/12 01:37 PM
I think we also forgot those of us who have gay male/female friends so yes men and women can just be friends. bigsmile

no photo
Tue 10/30/12 03:01 PM
I was taught that being friends means always being just that. I never fall in love easily. I also don't get attracted all that easily to anyone. They have to have a certain charm to do that. Not talking about that fake charm some put on. There has to be something about them, to get me attracted. Just like how 'There's something about Mary'. I will admit I'm attracted to one of my malw friends, but yet again, something about him that draws me in. Something I can't put my finger on.

lionsbrew's photo
Tue 10/30/12 03:52 PM
There is no escape from the friend zone for any man. Thats why it got its own name lol. Its like the twilight zone.laugh laugh

navygirl's photo
Tue 10/30/12 04:20 PM

There is no escape from the friend zone for any man. Thats why it got its own name lol. Its like the twilight zone.laugh laugh


Just so you know there is equal opportunity in the friend zone for women too. bigsmile

MariahsFantasy's photo
Tue 10/30/12 07:42 PM




Well, I have lots of male friends and that is what they are. They are more like brothers to me than anything else and me being a Tomboy; we get along great. So, if you are mature enough; you can be just friends with the opposite sex.


Try asking one of them if they'd have sex with you.


They all said yes. I lose on this one.


Well clearly we are not friends cause I don't remember you asking me. frown



:tongue:


I only pull this out every 5 years or so...WILL you please with cherries on top have sex with me?

Don't worry, VD only comes with Jessica Alba, I'm careful with natural selection.

Hikerjohn's photo
Wed 10/31/12 12:56 AM





Well, I have lots of male friends and that is what they are. They are more like brothers to me than anything else and me being a Tomboy; we get along great. So, if you are mature enough; you can be just friends with the opposite sex.


Try asking one of them if they'd have sex with you.


They all said yes. I lose on this one.


Well clearly we are not friends cause I don't remember you asking me. frown



:tongue:


I only pull this out every 5 years or so...WILL you please with cherries on top have sex with me?

Don't worry, VD only comes with Jessica Alba, I'm careful with natural selection.



Wellll. I was hoping we could just be friends. drinks