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Topic: M & W Can't be "Just Friends"
s1owhand Joined Fri 05/18/07 Posts: 29437	Wed 10/24/12 05:00 PM
The study results showed that there was a large difference between how men and women experienced their friendships. They did not agree in the perception of their friendships. Men experienced a sexual attraction in general while the women in the very same relationship did not experience sexual attraction in general. So, the FWB relationship is different. In the FWB friendship both parties decide to have a sexual oomponent to their relationship but decide in advance to try and not let it develop into a romantic relationship because they both perceive each other as not well suited as a long term mate for whatever reason...or at least they talk themselves into believing this in the beginning and the whole thing blows up later when one or both realize that they have been fooling themselves and that romantic feelings are indeed involved.... Anyway for the purpose of the study FWB would not be platonic friendships I suppose...

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Wed 10/24/12 05:14 PM
The study results showed that there was a large difference between how men and women experienced their friendships. They did not agree in the perception of their friendships. Men experienced a sexual attraction in general while the women in the very same relationship did not experience sexual attraction in general. So, the FWB relationship is different. In the FWB friendship both parties decide to have a sexual oomponent to their relationship but decide in advance to try and not let it develop into a romantic relationship because they both perceive each other as not well suited as a long term mate for whatever reason...or at least they talk themselves into believing this in the beginning and the whole thing blows up later when one or both realize that they have been fooling themselves and that romantic feelings are indeed involved.... Anyway for the purpose of the study FWB would not be platonic friendships I suppose... Show off,,,

pennyg281 Joined Thu 11/08/07 Posts: 4348	Wed 10/24/12 05:53 PM
I have several platonic male friends. One of my best friends is a guy. We have been friends for ten years. We even lived together for a short time. But our relationship has always been totally platonic. We have both discussed the more issue. But we both agree we that are better off just being friends.

s1owhand Joined Fri 05/18/07 Posts: 29437	Wed 10/24/12 05:53 PM
The study results showed that there was a large difference between how men and women experienced their friendships. They did not agree in the perception of their friendships. Men experienced a sexual attraction in general while the women in the very same relationship did not experience sexual attraction in general. So, the FWB relationship is different. In the FWB friendship both parties decide to have a sexual oomponent to their relationship but decide in advance to try and not let it develop into a romantic relationship because they both perceive each other as not well suited as a long term mate for whatever reason...or at least they talk themselves into believing this in the beginning and the whole thing blows up later when one or both realize that they have been fooling themselves and that romantic feelings are indeed involved.... Anyway for the purpose of the study FWB would not be platonic friendships I suppose... Show off,,, Let's be friends!

metalwing Joined Fri 11/14/08 Posts: 26218	Wed 10/24/12 05:57 PM
Good thread Slow!

s1owhand Joined Fri 05/18/07 Posts: 29437	Wed 10/24/12 06:04 PM
I have several platonic male friends. One of my best friends is a guy. We have been friends for ten years. We even lived together for a short time. But our relationship has always been totally platonic. We have both discussed the more issue. But we both agree we that are better off just being friends. Translation: He probably wants it to be sexual according to the research and you are perfectly happy with it being platonic and he just says he's ok with it but secretly ...you know...

s1owhand Joined Fri 05/18/07 Posts: 29437	Wed 10/24/12 06:04 PM Edited by s1owhand on Wed 10/24/12 06:05 PM
Good thread Slow! And "911 WAS NOT AN INSIDE JOB"... (just sayin)

metalwing Joined Fri 11/14/08 Posts: 26218	Thu 10/25/12 01:05 PM
So to summarize: Men, being the kind hearted emotional creatures that they are, naturally feel affection for their female friends. Women, being the cold heartless wenches that they are, feel nothing, even in the face of kindness and friendship. This is normal? Is that about it?

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Thu 10/25/12 01:07 PM
So to summarize: Men, being the kind hearted emotional creatures that they are, naturally feel affection for their female friends. Women, being the cold heartless wenches that they are, feel nothing, even in the face of kindness and friendship. This is normal? Is that about it? I stand convicted. I am a cold heartless wench that feels nothing.

SimplicityAtItsBest Joined Mon 09/10/12 Posts: 960	Thu 10/25/12 03:33 PM
It seems men and women will never agree 100% on anything. Perhaps we should we should just stay in our own corners

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Thu 10/25/12 03:54 PM
It seems men and women will never agree 100% on anything. Perhaps we should we should just stay in our own corners Yep. I just find it childish that a grown man can't be friends with a woman and not think of having sex with her. My friends don't see me in that way and just laugh at the thought of it as to them I am just one of the boys.

Rawrr_Girl Joined Sun 10/04/09 Posts: 4431	Thu 10/25/12 06:07 PM
It seems men and women will never agree 100% on anything. Perhaps we should we should just stay in our own corners Yep. I just find it childish that a grown man can't be friends with a woman and not think of having sex with her. My friends don't see me in that way and just laugh at the thought of it as to them I am just one of the boys. I'm thinking exactly what you both typed. Weird how both genders are wired so differently. We might aswell all be gay. It would make more sense.

lionsbrew Joined Tue 08/22/06 Posts: 14232	Fri 10/26/12 07:13 AM
I dunno if this p.c but I'm a firm believer in guys and gals only real difference is we have outies they have innies. After that we are all people and all different. Also this study didn't take into the account how attractive each person was. Because A good looking guy or gal is always more likely to be lusted after. Hence why sex sells products so well.

Bravalady Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 1034	Fri 10/26/12 04:08 PM
First of all, the feelings of college students are not necessarily representative of the whole spectrum of people. Second, what is the point of this study exactly, to discourage intersex friendships? I tend to have better friendships with men than with women, as I seem to have more in common with them intellectually. It's rare for me to find a woman who is intellectually oriented rather than emotionally oriented. Of course the remote possibility that a male friend might eventually feel some actual desire for me is a welcome spice, but all it's ever turned out to be is wishful thinking so I've learned to just ignore it.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Fri 10/26/12 09:36 PM
I dunno if this p.c but I'm a firm believer in guys and gals only real difference is we have outies they have innies. After that we are all people and all different. Also this study didn't take into the account how attractive each person was. Because A good looking guy or gal is always more likely to be lusted after. Hence why sex sells products so well. I agree with your statement about attraction as I am sure looks might play into it. This is why I don't have to worry about guys thinking out me sexually as there is no way they would be attracted to me which is probably why we have such good friendships.

Bravalady Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 1034	Sat 10/27/12 12:14 PM
So to summarize: Men, being the kind hearted emotional creatures that they are, naturally feel affection for their female friends. Women, being the cold heartless wenches that they are, feel nothing, even in the face of kindness and friendship. This is normal? Is that about it? Oh, damn, you figured it out.

josie68 Joined Mon 11/22/10 Posts: 6270	Sat 10/27/12 08:51 PM
My best friends are all men, I dont really have any close women friends, except my mum and daughters

josie68 Joined Mon 11/22/10 Posts: 6270	Sat 10/27/12 08:53 PM Edited by josie68 on Sat 10/27/12 08:54 PM
So to summarize: Men, being the kind hearted emotional creatures that they are, naturally feel affection for their female friends. Women, being the cold heartless wenches that they are, feel nothing, even in the face of kindness and friendship. This is normal? Is that about it? No No No, we love all our male friends, we just dont want them in our pants. A bit like a puppy.

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Sun 10/28/12 12:12 AM
Well, I have lots of male friends and that is what they are. They are more like brothers to me than anything else and me being a Tomboy; we get along great. So, if you are mature enough; you can be just friends with the opposite sex. Try asking one of them if they'd have sex with you. They all said yes. I lose on this one.

s1owhand Joined Fri 05/18/07 Posts: 29437	Sun 10/28/12 01:07 AM
Well, I have lots of male friends and that is what they are. They are more like brothers to me than anything else and me being a Tomboy; we get along great. So, if you are mature enough; you can be just friends with the opposite sex. Try asking one of them if they'd have sex with you. They all said yes. I lose on this one. Well at least you know "You still got it!"