Topic: NO JUDGEMENTS....BUT
navygirl's photo
Thu 01/10/13 03:24 PM


A guy sent me a friend request...which I usually accept friend requests.
I mean, Who is so rich that they can afford to throw away a friend, Right?

Well, I accepted him but then I noticed he is
" Looking for an Intimate Encounter"

Why did he contact me, Yeah..I have my scatter brain moments but I sure as hell wouldn't have forgotten to say NO Intimate Encounters!

My question.. Shouldn't Intimate Encounter people be MADE to stick with their OWN kind? ok, ok... That does sound judgey but I'm sorry... there is an ICK factor there for me :-(

YES! I totally agree with you. I find it Disgusting when men have that as all they are looking for. Makes me wonder how many people they have slept with & EEWWWW. It is ICK!




Yep; and wondering how many diseases these guys are carrying. shocked

angelvoice88's photo
Thu 01/10/13 08:18 PM


I take putting someone down as a friend as a big deal so I read profiles and watch people over a long time before I accept or decline.


I visit their profile, too. You can never too many friends...but easily can have too many creeps (because even ONE is too many!)


Don't know how to insert rolling smiling faces so....LOL LOL LOL!!!!

Jtevans's photo
Thu 01/10/13 09:33 PM
i wanted to pick "looking to see some boobs" but mingle doesn't have that option ohwell

FearandLoathing's photo
Thu 01/10/13 09:37 PM
Yeah, because no one who put looking for a relationship would have a one night stand with someone just because they were horny.

navygirl's photo
Thu 01/10/13 11:38 PM



I take putting someone down as a friend as a big deal so I read profiles and watch people over a long time before I accept or decline.


I visit their profile, too. You can never too many friends...but easily can have too many creeps (because even ONE is too many!)


Don't know how to insert rolling smiling faces so....LOL LOL LOL!!!!


When you reply; just look to the left side of your screen and see the Add Smiley line; just click on there and then click on the smiley you want.

Goofball73's photo
Fri 01/11/13 09:12 AM
I have a dream....a dream where those who choose to look for intimate encounters shall be looked more favorably upon due to their ethical honesty about who they are. And they shall not be judged or deleted due to the fact that they just want sex and desire no strings to such action. My fellow Minglers....we shall overcome! :tongue: laugh

navygirl's photo
Fri 01/11/13 09:32 AM

I have a dream....a dream where those who choose to look for intimate encounters shall be looked more favorably upon due to their ethical honesty about who they are. And they shall not be judged or deleted due to the fact that they just want sex and desire no strings to such action. My fellow Minglers....we shall overcome! :tongue: laugh


DELETE, DELETE, DELETE. All you nasty intimate encounter freaks. laugh

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Fri 01/11/13 10:51 AM
Edited by singmesweet on Fri 01/11/13 10:53 AM


So, don't accept his friend request? There's nothing that says you have to accept every friend request.




LOL... Of course not darlin'... What I'm saying is... Wouldn't it make for easier encounting session for these guys... if they had their own little section... rather than invading my friendly space!


Why should people be discriminated against and forced to stay in one area if they want sex? You have the ability to say no, or to ignore them. There's nothing that is forcing you to have any contact with them.

no photo
Fri 01/11/13 11:22 AM
Brutal honesty is better than sleight of hand maneuvering. I would rather know what a woman is looking for up front than to have to guess, or be put into an uncomfortable position. No expectations and go with the flow is how I prefer to roll. I read the profile and see if we are looking for similar before I even send the request. Just makes sense to me.

That being said, it also works in reverse. I have on my profile, as well as most other social/dating sites I have been on that, I am looking for friends. Doesn't mean I won't go on a date or date exclusively. Doesn't mean I won't have an intimate encounter. Doesn't mean I won't get remarried. For friendship is start of all that. I respect a woman who says she is only looking for a husband. Nothing wrong with that. But if her timeline is 2 months, I am definitely not the guy for her - she may as well keep on looking and not waste time on me. And I tell her upfront.


navygirl's photo
Fri 01/11/13 12:15 PM



So, don't accept his friend request? There's nothing that says you have to accept every friend request.




LOL... Of course not darlin'... What I'm saying is... Wouldn't it make for easier encounting session for these guys... if they had their own little section... rather than invading my friendly space!


Why should people be discriminated against and forced to stay in one area if they want sex? You have the ability to say no, or to ignore them. There's nothing that is forcing you to have any contact with them.


I may be wrong but I think the Op is just annoyed by these people. It must be frustrating for her as she wants to have a loving relationship with a man not just used for sex. I think right off the bat; they are saying you are nothing more than a one night stand as they clearly have not read your profile when you state "not looking for intimate encounters." As she said; its the ICK factor of some guy that just sleeps around and goodness knows what or how many diseases he has or will pass on. If these guys do somehow slip through the cracks with me; I have no problem of telling them where to go and block them; but I usually catch them and block them before they can email me. So, I don't know I would call what she said discrimination but I think more of an annoyance and I think it does as well waste her time as well as get her hopes up. Mind you; this is just my opinion for what it is worth. :smile:

Goofball73's photo
Fri 01/11/13 12:24 PM


I have a dream....a dream where those who choose to look for intimate encounters shall be looked more favorably upon due to their ethical honesty about who they are. And they shall not be judged or deleted due to the fact that they just want sex and desire no strings to such action. My fellow Minglers....we shall overcome! :tongue: laugh


DELETE, DELETE, DELETE. All you nasty intimate encounter freaks. laugh


I do like it....nice rhymes. laugh

navygirl's photo
Fri 01/11/13 12:27 PM



I have a dream....a dream where those who choose to look for intimate encounters shall be looked more favorably upon due to their ethical honesty about who they are. And they shall not be judged or deleted due to the fact that they just want sex and desire no strings to such action. My fellow Minglers....we shall overcome! :tongue: laugh


DELETE, DELETE, DELETE. All you nasty intimate encounter freaks. laugh


I do like it....nice rhymes. laugh


laugh laugh laugh

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Fri 01/11/13 12:46 PM




So, don't accept his friend request? There's nothing that says you have to accept every friend request.




LOL... Of course not darlin'... What I'm saying is... Wouldn't it make for easier encounting session for these guys... if they had their own little section... rather than invading my friendly space!


Why should people be discriminated against and forced to stay in one area if they want sex? You have the ability to say no, or to ignore them. There's nothing that is forcing you to have any contact with them.


I may be wrong but I think the Op is just annoyed by these people. It must be frustrating for her as she wants to have a loving relationship with a man not just used for sex. I think right off the bat; they are saying you are nothing more than a one night stand as they clearly have not read your profile when you state "not looking for intimate encounters." As she said; its the ICK factor of some guy that just sleeps around and goodness knows what or how many diseases he has or will pass on. If these guys do somehow slip through the cracks with me; I have no problem of telling them where to go and block them; but I usually catch them and block them before they can email me. So, I don't know I would call what she said discrimination but I think more of an annoyance and I think it does as well waste her time as well as get her hopes up. Mind you; this is just my opinion for what it is worth. :smile:


Being annoyed is one thing. Suggesting they have to stay in their own section is another.

There are all different kinds of people on this site. Some want friendship, some want to date, some want a serious relationship, some want sex. If you don't want what someone else wants, say so and move on. Why get angry about it?

navygirl's photo
Fri 01/11/13 12:51 PM
Edited by navygirl on Fri 01/11/13 12:53 PM





So, don't accept his friend request? There's nothing that says you have to accept every friend request.




LOL... Of course not darlin'... What I'm saying is... Wouldn't it make for easier encounting session for these guys... if they had their own little section... rather than invading my friendly space!


Why should people be discriminated against and forced to stay in one area if they want sex? You have the ability to say no, or to ignore them. There's nothing that is forcing you to have any contact with them.


I may be wrong but I think the Op is just annoyed by these people. It must be frustrating for her as she wants to have a loving relationship with a man not just used for sex. I think right off the bat; they are saying you are nothing more than a one night stand as they clearly have not read your profile when you state "not looking for intimate encounters." As she said; its the ICK factor of some guy that just sleeps around and goodness knows what or how many diseases he has or will pass on. If these guys do somehow slip through the cracks with me; I have no problem of telling them where to go and block them; but I usually catch them and block them before they can email me. So, I don't know I would call what she said discrimination but I think more of an annoyance and I think it does as well waste her time as well as get her hopes up. Mind you; this is just my opinion for what it is worth. :smile:


Being annoyed is one thing. Suggesting they have to stay in their own section is another.

There are all different kinds of people on this site. Some want friendship, some want to date, some want a serious relationship, some want sex. If you don't want what someone else wants, say so and move on. Why get angry about it?


Well; it just sounds like she is frustrated but without knowing more about the Op, its hard to say. Sounds like she is just venting.

teebee79's photo
Sun 01/13/13 04:35 AM
Navygirl is correct! Im frustrated and venting! However, with clear mind and no frustration I stand by my statement!
If you want sex...have at it... why drag me into it? And why do I have to be the bigger human and say "no" to these request...or ignore them? How about a person who specifically wants sex...stay in their "dating lane"!!

And for the people who said what's next after separation by intimate encounters..by race..creed ...color?

Personally...I don't care.
Once its clear that they only want the sex ..no relationship... there will be no follow up to see how these people are doing!

To each his own boys and girls....but remember your choice now may effect what you want later!

True or no?

lookin4home's photo
Sun 01/13/13 05:19 AM

A guy sent me a friend request...which I usually accept friend requests.
I mean, Who is so rich that they can afford to throw away a friend, Right?

Well, I accepted him but then I noticed he is
" Looking for an Intimate Encounter"

Why did he contact me, Yeah..I have my scatter brain moments but I sure as hell wouldn't have forgotten to say NO Intimate Encounters!

My question.. Shouldn't Intimate Encounter people be MADE to stick with their OWN kind? ok, ok... That does sound judgey but I'm sorry... there is an ICK factor there for me :-(




What's the air like up there on your high horse?

You don't take the time to look at their profile before accepting but you expect them fully examine yours. I think there is a word for people like that...

I sudgest you: remove the stick, take it as a compliment to your curb appeal, remove the friend, and be more selective about accepting requests from people you've never spoken to.

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Sun 01/13/13 07:14 AM
I would have Never met my Blow up Doll if I hadnt had that as my heading at one time!!! We have been together happily for 5 years now!!!noway :wink: :banana:

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Sun 01/13/13 07:48 AM

Navygirl is correct! Im frustrated and venting! However, with clear mind and no frustration I stand by my statement!
If you want sex...have at it... why drag me into it? And why do I have to be the bigger human and say "no" to these request...or ignore them? How about a person who specifically wants sex...stay in their "dating lane"!!

And for the people who said what's next after separation by intimate encounters..by race..creed ...color?

Personally...I don't care.
Once its clear that they only want the sex ..no relationship... there will be no follow up to see how these people are doing!

To each his own boys and girls....but remember your choice now may effect what you want later!

True or no?


You have to keep in mind that most guys aren't going to read profiles. If they like your picture, you're going to get emails. If you don't want to get emails from guys you're not interested in, perhaps this isn't the best way to meet people for you. Then again, it happens in person, too. So, the easiest thing to do is just ignore the guys you're not interested in and move on.

teebee79's photo
Sun 01/13/13 10:08 AM


My question.. Shouldn't Intimate Encounter people be MADE to stick with their OWN kind? ok, ok... That does sound judgey but I'm sorry... there is an ICK factor there for me :-(




What's the air like up there on your high horse?

You don't take the time to look at their profile before accepting but you expect them fully examine yours. I think there is a word for people like that...

I sudgest you: remove the stick, take it as a compliment to your curb appeal, remove the friend, and be more selective about accepting requests from people you've never spoken to.
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The air is quite clear thanks for asking:smile:
Now.. telling anyone I wanna do you and leave you is not a compliment! Its an insult.. but that's not even the point..
again..people.. do what you wanna do... Stranger to Stranger Strange.. THAT'S. WHAT THE SITE CAN BE CALLED... I don't care. If I contact you..friend or lover... trust.. I will read your profile! You contact me...im thinking you read my profile...like I would have yours!

Still... lets be clear. Its a friend request... not an email. This is one of my filters.

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Sun 01/13/13 10:14 AM
I guess I don't see what the big deal is. If you aren't interested in them, or don't think you'd be friends with them, don't accept the friend request. It's really that simple.