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Topic: Many Relationships, No Relationships
papatom360 Joined Tue 03/13/12 Posts: 2	Sat 01/26/13 08:42 PM
I joined this site about six months ago and I have browsed through these forums on numerous occasions. I feel that people who post and respond on here get some good information on their topics/issues. So one of my questions is how important or unimportant are someone's past relationships? What I mean is would you prefer to date someone who has had little to none (0-3) relationships or someone who has had many more (5+)? I'll start off by saying that I have only had one serious relationship and that was about 4 years ago.

proudmomof4 Joined Sat 11/13/10 Posts: 25	Sat 01/26/13 08:48 PM
I believe that your past is your past and your future is what needs to be focused on. However I don't think I'd ever date a man that's had many relationships. Then again if I had strong feelings for him you kinda forget about their past :) hope this helps

katelin0210 Joined Sat 12/08/12 Posts: 104	Sat 01/26/13 09:01 PM
It's a tough one. I do think that for me its not so much as the number of relationships but the reasons why they ended. As in numbers of relationships might differ depends on the age of the person.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Sat 01/26/13 09:53 PM Edited by navygirl on Sat 01/26/13 09:54 PM
It never mattered to me as there are lots of reasons why people haven't been in long or serious relationships and honestly I feel its none of my business as its their past and I have no wish to invade their privacy. I am a prime example of not being able to have a long relationship due to my military career so I would be the last one to judge a man that has had lots of relationships.

jacktrades Joined Tue 09/11/12 Posts: 4395	Sat 01/26/13 10:17 PM
As long as they do not compare me to their past relationships it would not matter to me. Its how they are treating me right now thats important.

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76360	Sun 01/27/13 07:05 AM
Humm at my age I expect them to have a past if not that is when I start to worry~~~~~ As long as they are not hung up in the past then the past is the past...I'm only worried how they treat me in the here and now~~

teebee79 Joined Wed 11/07/12 Posts: 2179	Sun 01/27/13 07:14 AM
I wouldn't ask. if you and I are getting to know each other. Why bring them up? You and I are working on our own relationship.

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Sun 01/27/13 08:20 AM
I joined this site about six months ago and I have browsed through these forums on numerous occasions. I feel that people who post and respond on here get some good information on their topics/issues. So one of my questions is how important or unimportant are someone's past relationships? What I mean is would you prefer to date someone who has had little to none (0-3) relationships or someone who has had many more (5+)? I'll start off by saying that I have only had one serious relationship and that was about 4 years ago. generally, I dont focus on a persons past so much as I do their present although, I would consider patterns, (like a lot of very short relationshipa and no long term by a certain age,,,,) I prefer someone with some long term relationship experience, because I am in my forties and Im not interested at this point in the responsibility of being a 'first' for anyone,,, otherwise, the circumstances of past breakups is more significant to me than the number of relationships,,,

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Sun 01/27/13 08:33 AM
I live in the now.

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Wed 01/30/13 12:36 AM
I don't really care so much. Even if we want to know it makes no difference.