It is usually the first in what will become a long exhausting list of "musts-have or /and must must do's. Some women see pets and kids as things that men must or should love, besides herself, of course. That list will cover foods, certain makes and model cars he simply must drive; a certain job or position,i.e. 'within senior management' etc. My favourite was that the fool prospect must be a senior executive; the type of business was never specified. It used yo make me wonder if these women are looking to be kept by their imaginary 'Sugar Daddy'. Real Life doesn't usually tolerate 'shopping lists' from airheads. Eventually they tend to 'wake up' or they become cranky old and soured spinsters roaming their room muttering to themselves something about "nasty men"...as if it were the fault of men that she was unfit to live with; and ,for sure, it also works
both ways.

Why do many women indicate in profile an interest in dating and friendship (with or without mention of long term relationship) and insist that a man "love animals?" Does she intend to bring pets along on a date or activity? Do pet or animal topics dominate her interest or her conversational topics? Does she think that loving animals indicates that a man is "better" than one who is not an animal lover?

If one is truthfully seeking friends or activity partners it seems irrational to require that they "love animals" unless the only friendships or activities MUST involve animals.

Men are the same when they are animal lovers. I dated one guy and told him I might have cancer; he didn't even listen to me when I told him at least three times (via phone and email) but got real upset when his dog threw up. After that I would never date a pet owner again.

Men are the same when they are animal lovers. I dated one guy and told him I might have cancer; he didn't even listen to me when I told him at least three times (via phone and email) but got real upset when his dog threw up. After that I would never date a pet owner again.

Wow, this reminds me of a Canadian guy on another site that took a dislike to me when he found out that I was British because a British person had once said something insensitive to him.

Why do many women indicate in profile an interest in dating and friendship (with or without mention of long term relationship) and insist that a man "love animals?"

Does she intend to bring pets along on a date or activity?

Do pet or animal topics dominate her interest or her conversational topics?

Does she think that loving animals indicates that a man is "better" than one who is not an animal lover?

If one is truthfully seeking friends or activity partners it seems irrational to require that they "love animals" unless the only friendships or activities MUST involve animals.

Nope; not the same thing. I doubt you were dating him for one and two I am comparing a sick animal to a person who was facing a life threatening disease. I should correct myself and say this was the last straw as many times men have put their pets before me. This guy even ruined our vacation together as we couldn't go to a lot of places because he didn't put the dog in a kennel. When he put the dog's life over mine; that was too much to take.

For people who actually love animals ...no explanation is needed.

For people who don't love animals ....no explanation will ever make them understand.

I will give it a shot though.

For pet lover's...pets are a real part of the family. I may not take my dog on a date...my girl don't take her cats on our dates....but....they are each a deep source of pure love, comfort and stability to the family unit.

The thing non animal lover's just don't get is that the best they can hope for is to be an equal with the pets.

Pets aren't a nuisance or an inconvenience to be tolerated just to score some @$$.

They actually mean something to your lover that ya cant compete with.

The pet was being loved before you came along and will be loved long after you are gone. (Just saying "you "in a general way)

Animal lover's and non animal lover's got no business dating...cause before long....the non animal lover will resent the FACT that they don't out rank a cat or dog.

Kind of hard to tell from what you say here if you are a demanding sort of woman that can't take boyfriends also having pets that they love or what but I would say that the guy that you do talk about here is hardly typical of pet owners and he was just an idiot. I wouldn't be too keen on putting my dog in a kennel either but if a girlfriend wanted to go on holiday there are people that would look after my dog for me while I was away.

Like I said, I had a girlfriend that didn't want me bringing my dog when we went out together but she didn't actually dislike my dog and she had one herself. She just liked to spend time with me without the dog demanding attention. Fair enough. The first time I took my dog to her house he tried to eat a chew toy that belonged to her dog and he was sick on the floor. He also peed in her house as a territorial thing I guess because her dog was female. I left my dog at home after that and I didn't insist on taking him along on dates. I did think that she was being unreasonable though that day when we were planning to go to the beach. What happened was that she saw me putting the dog's harness on and said that he wasn't coming. I just said, "Poor Sam" while I was taking his harness off again and that's when she lost her temper and stormed out. It was just part of the drama that I had to put up from her.

But all that I'm really getting from your post anyway is that you don't care much for animals and it's true that many pet owners love their pets like other people love their children. I've dated single mothers and I think that most men understand where they stand there. If quality time together away from kids and pets isn't good enough for you and you must have a man all to yourself that's your choice but it does seem a bit selfish to me and it does seem like a prejudice that excludes a lot of men that might want to date you.

I come from a nation of animal lovers and many single people do have a pet for companionship. If you have a dog it's like part of your family and it's as simple as that. It's a responsibility that you take on and how someone looks after their pets is a character trait that does tell you something about what sort of person they are. The last woman that I met through this dating site asked me if I wanted to meet up and go for a walk because she knew that I have a dog. She did make a judgment about my character when she met me and saw my dog. She saw that I have a happy dog and to her that was a sign that I'm a good guy. Unfortunately, there are a lot of people that do have dogs that don't treat them so well and I wouldn't trust someone that mistreats or neglects animals.