Topic: Why is Money such an issue in all relationships?
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Sat 11/16/13 12:12 AM
I hate money. It seperate's people.

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Sat 11/16/13 10:08 AM


My solution to that is, his money is his money and my money is my money and voila, problem solved.:banana:


I have money? Not unless Congress raises my monthly SSDI payment. :tongue:


I was referring to any guy I'd be in a relationship with, me and you aren't in a relationship, obviously, so I don't care about your money, or lack thereof.

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Sat 11/16/13 02:29 PM
Edited by Howaboutthiseh on Sat 11/16/13 02:36 PM
love Hello, just an observation. Reading your posts I thought money really is an issue in that your partner or prospective will as a rule come from similar social and economic backgrounds. The wealthy, I presume don't worry about money as they haven't had to. Us others have the concern of keeping our prospective partner in the manner to which she has become accustomed, it's an intimidating thought when approaching another member. Still where there is love there is a way hey hey? Harry

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Sat 11/16/13 02:38 PM

I hate money. It seperate's people.


Really? Okay send all your money to me.


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Sat 11/16/13 02:40 PM

Why is money such an issue in relationships......the love of money is the root of all evil!!! so where does this come into play with love? If you truly love someone shouldn't you love their heart and not their pocket book?



Sure I love a lot of poor people. I just can't afford to support them.

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Sat 11/16/13 02:41 PM
I hate money. It seperate's people.
not if one is willing to forgive the poor devil for being loaded. Any wealthy outcasts are welcome to befriend me, I'm versatile can mingle as well as I do here.

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Sat 11/16/13 03:46 PM
Money is not was separates people. ...but it can play a part.

Marriage's break up over power struggles. It's not about anything else. Money, and other things are just excuses to get into a power struggle.


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Sat 11/16/13 08:05 PM
I take it you have none? laugh

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Sat 11/16/13 08:35 PM

I take it you have none? laugh


Sounds about right, people with money don't usually have an issue with it...

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Sat 11/16/13 11:24 PM
Hang on a sec. What's money got to do with relationships? It's only an issue if you MAKE it an issue. If someone is too damn lazy to get up off their behind and find work, then they have no place to complain about people who work hard for their money. Being ill is different. Thanks to stupid criminal fraudster's, genuinly ill people are being blamed for making excuse's to not work. It's hilarious when people complain about people who work hard to put food on the table. Why should the state pay for lazy people? Either people can get up off their chair and work. Or starve. Would they deny a child food, all because you didn't want to find a job? Sorry, that's life.

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Sun 11/17/13 09:55 AM

Hang on a sec. What's money got to do with relationships? It's only an issue if you MAKE it an issue. If someone is too damn lazy to get up off their behind and find work, then they have no place to complain about people who work hard for their money. Being ill is different. Thanks to stupid criminal fraudster's, genuinly ill people are being blamed for making excuse's to not work. It's hilarious when people complain about people who work hard to put food on the table. Why should the state pay for lazy people? Either people can get up off their chair and work. Or starve. Would they deny a child food, all because you didn't want to find a job? Sorry, that's life.



What's money got to do with relationships? Seriously?

Are you going to tell me that you would just as soon date a homeless man with no money (you would have to pay the way) as a wealthy clean shaved man who offers to fly you to France for dinner in his private jet?

If you say yes, I call B.S.

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Sun 11/17/13 10:01 AM
That is not to say that a poor man can't smooze a woman away from a rich man with enough character and charm, especially if the rich guy is a jerk.

But if they are both great guys.... the choice is easy.

Take the guy with the money honey.

Just a suggestion.

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If he is a self made rich guy, he knows how to make money.
If he is a self made homeless guy, by choice, you may end up having dinner out of a dumpster.

Its not just about "money" it about provisions.

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Sun 11/17/13 10:08 AM
Really money is important in today marriage.

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Sun 11/17/13 10:11 AM
Real wealth is important. I'm not so sure that paper and digital money are all that "real." LOL

One day we may have to use silver and gold or just trade things.


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Sun 11/17/13 10:17 AM


Because women always want shoes or purses. I mean...they have to have a closet full. And dudes need beer and big screen TV's. It's maddening. grumble laugh


I don't want shoes. I admit I do want purses. But I buy my own.laugh

And in regard to why money is "always an issue in relationships" it's only an issue when one or both people don't have any, or when one person tries to control the spending of another. My solution to that is, his money is his money and my money is my money and voila, problem solved.:banana:


I agree, it's a nice idea if money can be kept somewhat separate to minimize the chance of it becoming an issue, & it helps if both partners have the same philosophies and spending habits.

Otherwise it really should not be an overwhelming issue in a close relationship. It should not be a factor at all just getting to know someone. That type of personal subject only becomes up for conversation when a couple grows closer and may be sharing some spending/bills.

At the same time, we all have preferences about whether we are willing and/or able to provide support, or partial support for a partner. So under those circumstances it might be something someone evaluates fairly early on. I would not care how much my partner makes, but I am also cannot support him, so anybody I get involved with would have to be self supporting at the very least. I think that's fair and it would be silly to get involved with someone who cannot do that.

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Sun 11/17/13 10:24 AM
The bottom line is if you are wanting to spend your life with someone, you need a way to provide food, shelter, etc.


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Sun 11/17/13 10:31 AM
In developed countries where every 2nd woman is educated,can sustain herself & has opportunity to earn,money isn't a biig issue frequently.In poor nations,with extended families,interdependence of basic amenities & the ever present struggle to afford basics,money is the main factor in most relationships.Thankfully,all players understand the reality.Why would I date a broke man anyway?Where is the security in that for me? It's a man's place to be/act as provider.Does not matter so much how much he has,but that he does work at getting some.Money matters.

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Sun 11/17/13 11:36 AM

The bottom line is if you are wanting to spend your life with someone, you need a way to provide food, shelter, etc.




well one has to do that whether or not they have a partner...

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Sun 11/17/13 11:40 AM
Money or relationships don't really mean much to each other if you have either.

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Mon 11/18/13 09:10 AM

Money or relationships don't really mean much to each other if you have either.



Could you provide some examples or statistics?

Most relationships are based on an exchange of some kind. Business, love, marriage, etc.

Marriage itself in the beginning was all about property and mergers. Families in business together would arrange marriages in order to cement business relationships.