Topic: What Do Men Really Look For?
Dodo_David's photo
Fri 01/31/14 06:42 PM
...find out what YOU want and then search for a guy who wants the SAME.


Yeah, but how many rich guys want gold-diggers for girlfriends?

In another thread, the author of this thread's OP says, "I'm a 23 year old goth from Oregon, looking for a handsome and wealthy man to spoil and pamper me, along with spend time with, of course."

isaac_dede's photo
Fri 01/31/14 08:02 PM
Edited by isaac_dede on Fri 01/31/14 08:03 PM

...find out what YOU want and then search for a guy who wants the SAME.


Yeah, but how many rich guys want gold-diggers for girlfriends?

In another thread, the author of this thread's OP says, "I'm a 23 year old goth from Oregon, looking for a handsome and wealthy man to spoil and pamper me, along with spend time with, of course."

oh now I know her target audience I can give a list

1. .03% body fat
2. 32D boobs that don't require a bra(fake in other words)
3. an a$@ like Vida Guerra
4. lips like Angelina Jolee
5. the sex skills of a Thai prostitute
6. personality not preferred

panchovanilla's photo
Fri 01/31/14 08:29 PM
A faint glimmer
The slightest hint
The tiniest hope


Of sanity:banana:

cococabeza's photo
Fri 01/31/14 08:38 PM
Well said, Isaac.

cococabeza's photo
Fri 01/31/14 08:41 PM
Willing2: That's what we need men for!! Lol!

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Fri 01/31/14 08:42 PM

A faint glimmer
The slightest hint
The tiniest hope


Of sanity:banana:


right back atcha

and add the faintest glimmer of not ending up with a broken arm or a black eye

no photo
Fri 01/31/14 08:51 PM
from the men I have as friends what I think they look for is understanding, loyalty, and femininity turned towards them...like only for "him" (part of the loyalty thing I guess) but loyalty is huge with men

tshepiso148's photo
Fri 01/31/14 09:41 PM
well as man we differ by many thing and there are still honest guys like me who are respectful, loving, caring who is just looking for some1 like me we could excel in loving n caring each otherlove

Biscuit42's photo
Tue 02/04/14 07:24 AM

'm just curious about what most men look for when it comes to women. Do they actually look for a connection with someone? Do they just want to be used and abused? Give me your feedback, guys! XD


Personally for me I look for the following in a woman in the order I've listed.
Intelligence.
Maturity.
Responsibility.
Honesty.
Loyalty.
Self confidence and esteem
A certain degree of pride in how well she takes care of herself and those close to her.
Education.
Promptness.

I could go on all day but I'll stop here.

Biscuit42's photo
Tue 02/04/14 07:24 AM

'm just curious about what most men look for when it comes to women. Do they actually look for a connection with someone? Do they just want to be used and abused? Give me your feedback, guys! XD


Personally for me I look for the following in a woman in the order I've listed.
Intelligence.
Maturity.
Responsibility.
Honesty.
Loyalty.
Self confidence and esteem
A certain degree of pride in how well she takes care of herself and those close to her.
Education.
Promptness.

I could go on all day but I'll stop here.

no photo
Tue 02/04/14 08:01 AM
Fulfillment of desire, whatever the desires might be.

I mean, honestly. Haha.

willing2's photo
Tue 02/04/14 08:14 AM

Willing2: That's what we need men for!! Lol!

Honey, if you want that remote, you'll have to pry it out of my cold, dead hands.


2469nascar's photo
Tue 02/04/14 08:34 AM


We want them to help us find the TV remote control.


I found it dear. U left it in the fridge again. laugh
now theres a good women! thank you sweety. now can i get a beer?

PacificStar48's photo
Tue 02/04/14 11:16 AM
I have ask this question a lot of times of various men over the years. Both in settings where we were working toward coping with various family crisis', work crisis, friends, my very large family, and personal relationships. The answers do vary to a few degrees one side of the list below to the other but in the ballpark. Generally in order of importance but not always.

--Being female. They get how to get what they want and that they need and then some from men in their lives but women do things differently and female responses feel good weather it is sexually or other stuff. How men define "being female" is pretty much influenced by the world they live in but EACH MAN IS AN INDIVIDUAL and has their own definition.

__Sex will drive them very much like and addiction to get them in the door for a relationship. Depending on their situation and how much their over all other needs are being met the craving can me mild or intense but as long as they are breathing it is there. Especially if the visual or smell of a woman is around. Sometimes the craving for the evening, sometimes for tolerating a room-mate, pregnancy, or children in the home which most men know can be a lot of "work", but for some it is more intense as work becomes less satisfying and age starts feeling like mortality. Probably a good explanation for why men seem to seek relationships intensely when they first get in their 20's and many of their high school relationships, college or military service, when careers tank, or at retirement, or the loss of a close family member fall out.

My experience is when men make up their minds to get married they do it with someone that loosely fits their parametours with in 6 months to a year; if they can. It may or may not be formally and most guys really are not into the show but they don't go into it with a temporary mind set. My experience is men are much more emotionally loyal to a woman they choose until they experience what they see as betrayal and the effects are lasting. Even if they develop a relationship later they are testing it, and distrust it, even justify cheating on it.

--The "other stuff" is what keeps them in the relationship. The other stuff gets a little more difficult to define.

Usually it is someone actually liking them. And them liking the person they pick. Thus the whole thing about marrying your best friend. Virtually all humans have a need for acceptance. Men find someone that takes them as is, at least for the initial phase of a relationship they will pick that woman almost every time.

If a woman also fits into the general criteria of the people who matter to the man the chances of being selected go up even more. Peer pressure and approval builds anyone's self esteem but for men who almost always are trying to move up the pecking order of life having a partner that does enhance their status is a plus.

Having children is on more men's list than most women think. The desire for children what they represent in society and personally varies by age but "baby craving" is not unique to women. Probably why men sometimes pick women that are not age appropriate. Men generally have and idea when they see themselves being fathers and while women often control when in younger relationships by veining using birth control more usually it is grossly inadequate understanding of birth control limits and conception details that men end "pregnant". Can't tell you the number of guys over 40+ years who report "we only did it once". Or how many guys who know a baby is not theirs but are into being Baby Daddy and or feel guilty for having sex with a woman and "do the right thing". Maybe because they don't think they can make others believe their claims of innocence.

Some men see the reality that two working adults have a better chance at conquering the world and pursue the traditional partner. Few actually believe that Mom's will return to the work force but don't realize the complications that parenting will effect on both careers and usually adopt for the better earner working more.

Sadly when men get older they often seek women knowing wives are their best chance most affordable option at having a nanny for kids they have or a caregiver. Sometimes they end up with custody but financially wiped out and or have serious health issues and parents are burned out.



no photo
Tue 02/04/14 11:18 AM

"using" each other is part of every relationship... when it's being abused, thats when the problems start...

but as far as women go, i like the ones that are smiling, not in a bad mood... nonbitchy, sweet, smart and sincere...

but they are always taken...

Mightymoe, you're a cool dude, you'll meet someone no problem

izzyphoto1977's photo
Tue 02/04/14 11:38 AM


"using" each other is part of every relationship... when it's being abused, thats when the problems start...

but as far as women go, i like the ones that are smiling, not in a bad mood... nonbitchy, sweet, smart and sincere...

but they are always taken...


ahem *clears throat multiple times loudly*huh


I think you need to have your throat looked at sweety. You might have a cold or something. lol

no photo
Tue 02/04/14 12:38 PM
'm just curious about what most men look for when it comes to women. Do they actually look for a connection with someone? Do they just want to be used and abused? Give me your feedback, guys! XD


Of course men are looking for a "connection".

But it's one that usually involves nakedness, and women like to play games with those.. shades

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Tue 02/04/14 04:27 PM
Edited by petallock on Tue 02/04/14 04:27 PM
Simple, I think men/women look for what they are missing.

nikolainiko's photo
Tue 02/04/14 04:49 PM
money

dave1200s's photo
Sun 02/09/14 05:39 PM
Men want a woman that is crazy about them. one who wants to be with him only, and not run around with other guys. (that goes for the guy too, gotta be faithful)
we want a woman that makes us forget things at work because we are thinking of her all day. a woman that is confident and enjoys looking good, but not totally hung up on appearances. we want someone who is comfortable just being who she is, and she respects herself and those that she cares about and deserve her respect.
it's not as much to ask as it seems. I know they are out there somewhere. winking