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Topic: honest truth about divorce.
skylady2020 Joined Sat 02/15/14 Posts: 57	Sat 03/08/14 03:17 PM
I'm sick and tied of listening to martial problems in the U S A .Is time to embrance the truth marriage is a commitment and a responsibility one must endure to make it work and last long or forever. There are no such things as a perfect match most successful marriages today is due to patience, endurance and determination.One should think twice before getting married if you are not ready to bear the consequences of marriage don't marry at all.but if you must marry get ready to get married and remain married. No more flimsy excuses. What do you think be frank.

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48914	Sat 03/08/14 03:27 PM
When one marriage partner has sex outside of that marriage, then there is just cause for the other partner to end the marriage. When one marriage partner physically abuses the other partner, then there is just cause for the latter to get away from the former.

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45331	Sat 03/08/14 03:27 PM
I think we all go into it thinking it will last forever, no matter what. But sometimes you have to leave it, to save your life.

oscarb48 Joined Sat 03/08/14 Posts: 1	Sat 03/08/14 03:28 PM
relax my dear yu gonna get the right one for yu.

no1phD Joined Tue 01/07/14 Posts: 27442	Sat 03/08/14 03:29 PM
... oh I've been waiting for this one.. oh goodie.. let me get the popcorn . and my lawn chair.. ok nice and comfy .push ..play

tanyaann Joined Mon 12/03/07 Posts: 32220	Sat 03/08/14 03:55 PM
When one marriage partner has sex outside of that marriage, then there is just cause for the other partner to end the marriage. When one marriage partner physically abuses the other partner, then there is just cause for the latter to get away from the former. May I add... When one marriage partner emotional/financially/sexually/etc abuses the other partner, then there is just cause for the other partner to end the marriage.

dino2play Joined Fri 02/28/14 Posts: 5	Sat 03/08/14 04:12 PM
Ok here it go's. I've been married for 33yr last jan. There have been about three maybe four times that if one of us had gone to the lawyer the other would have signed the papers. We just didn't get to the lawyer and thing's worked them self out. I haven't ever hit her nor she me, so I can't say anything about that. Except that if any of my were in an abusive relationship I wouldwant them to leave. And if my sons were hitting their wife l would kick the **** out of them,but they knowtthat. As far as sex out side of marriage.. my wife cheated twice with her ex. Both times within a month. That was 20 or more years ago. At the time I told her that she owes me 2 cheats but I haven't used them yet. That's a long way of saying that I've had agood life

dino2play Joined Fri 02/28/14 Posts: 5	Sat 03/08/14 04:19 PM
Darn sausage fingers I've had a good life with a wonderful woman that if I had divorced for cheating I wouldn't of had.

mustlikemylab Joined Sun 02/23/14 Posts: 21	Sat 03/08/14 04:19 PM
And sometimes you just grow apart over a long period of time. I was talking to one of my son's friends the other day & ask him how his folk's were doing? His response was; "still unhappily living together. They're both miserable." What does that tell you kids when you stay together for 30 more just because your parents did it? At least one of the parties should be having fun?

skylady2020 Joined Sat 02/15/14 Posts: 57	Sat 03/08/14 04:20 PM
Ok here it go's. I've been married for 33yr last jan. There have been about three maybe four times that if one of us had gone to the lawyer the other would have signed the papers. We just didn't get to the lawyer and thing's worked them self out. I haven't ever hit her nor she me, so I can't say anything about that. Except that if any of my were in an abusive relationship I wouldwant them to leave. And if my sons were hitting their wife l would kick the **** out of them,but they knowtthat. As far as sex out side of marriage.. my wife cheated twice with her ex. Both times within a month. That was 20 or more years ago. At the time I told her that she owes me 2 cheats but I haven't used them yet. That's a long way of saying that I've had agood life

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Sat 03/08/14 04:23 PM
I think marriage takes two. I don't know if its better to remain alone in a marriage or alone through divorce. but both are just as alone not every marriage involves a commitment and not every commitment involves a marriage,, its a complex issue,,,

skylady2020 Joined Sat 02/15/14 Posts: 57	Sat 03/08/14 04:23 PM
Dino you are right marriage can last forever we learn how to endure and forgive .

skylady2020 Joined Sat 02/15/14 Posts: 57	Sat 03/08/14 04:29 PM
Cheating part of life all over the world .do you think is only in the U S that men or women cheat?. Sometimes we forgive a cheat if he or she is willing to repent.some times we should neglect some weak points if that person involved posses other quality character no perfect wife or husband.

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48914	Sat 03/08/14 04:34 PM
Dino you are right marriage can last forever we learn how to endure and forgive . Nothing requires a person to remain with a cheating spouse.

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Sat 03/08/14 05:36 PM
Cheating part of life all over the world .do you think is only in the U S that men or women cheat?. Sometimes we forgive a cheat if he or she is willing to repent.some times we should neglect some weak points if that person involved posses other quality character no perfect wife or husband. IF they are willing to 'repent' too often, when they have no reason to,,no consequence to be concerned with they don't,,,,

BrandNewJourney Joined Tue 02/25/14 Posts: 6055	Sat 03/08/14 05:45 PM
When one marriage partner has sex outside of that marriage, then there is just cause for the other partner to end the marriage. Completely agree!! My husband threw 22 years out the window because he could not keep it in his pants and in our relationship. Never mind the lack of effort on his part to make it work. It takes 2 to make it work and when one betrays the other in any way, it's a no brainer for me anyway.

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48914	Sat 03/08/14 07:33 PM
For those of you who accept the teachings of the New Testament, in the 5th & 19th chapters of the book of Matthew, Jesus specifically says that it is acceptable to get a divorce if one's spouse has been committing sexual sin, and adultery is in that category. The claim that a person should never divorce a cheating spouse is a claim that the New Testament doesn't support.

lonelyman3036 Joined Mon 08/05/13 Posts: 1590	Sat 03/08/14 07:39 PM
When one marriage partner has sex outside of that marriage, then there is just cause for the other partner to end the marriage. Completely agree!! My husband threw 22 years out the window because he could not keep it in his pants and in our relationship. Never mind the lack of effort on his part to make it work. It takes 2 to make it work and when one betrays the other in any way, it's a no brainer for me anyway. I was married 23 years and my ex ran off with a younger man after the kids went out on their own.

BrandNewJourney Joined Tue 02/25/14 Posts: 6055	Sat 03/08/14 07:45 PM
For those of you who accept the teachings of the New Testament, in the 5th & 19th chapters of the book of Matthew, Jesus specifically says that it is acceptable to get a divorce if one's spouse has been committing sexual sin, and adultery is in that category. The claim that a person should never divorce a cheating spouse is a claim that the New Testament doesn't support. Agreed!!

BrandNewJourney Joined Tue 02/25/14 Posts: 6055	Sat 03/08/14 07:49 PM
When one marriage partner has sex outside of that marriage, then there is just cause for the other partner to end the marriage. Completely agree!! My husband threw 22 years out the window because he could not keep it in his pants and in our relationship. Never mind the lack of effort on his part to make it work. It takes 2 to make it work and when one betrays the other in any way, it's a no brainer for me anyway. I was married 23 years and my ex ran off with a younger man after the kids went out on their own. Sorry to hear that. Unfortunately there are a lot of men and women out there that do this. You can either be bitter about it or learn from it. I have personally chosen to learn from it and am now on my next Journey which will be much better because my eyes are wide open these days.