Black vrs White dating, ralationship and marriage. Share your experience and also room for seekers.

my experience is that human is human, and you have to get to know the person

dating a white male was no different than dating a black male except for the usual individual differences,,,,,

,,,,,,,THAT,,,,,^^^^^^^^^^^,,,,,,
not sure why ppl even talk about it any moor,its 2014,hello,its not that big of a deal,black brown white red,were all human,its about the person,not the color of there skin,

lol klc

good example of how personal experiences shape individual perception

I tend to believe that when it comes to 'mixed' children, if they are raised and exposed more to one side of the family than the other that is the culture/race that will feel most comfortable to them and the one they will seek out

almost always when I have known people with a white and a black parent who was raised by the white family,, they will associate more with white people than black

and the same has held true of those who were raised by the black family,,,

of course, asthetics mattters too,, because society doesnt tend to know or care who raised you and will respond to what your asthetics cause them to think you are,,,,I imagine Obama was at some point drawn to the black community because society probably saw and responded to him much more often like they did other 'black' men than other 'white' men,,,


whereas someone like Rashida Jones, was probably socially seen and responded to as a white woman than a black one


,,,,but its all goes back to ones personal experiences at home and in society,,,

we could have a whole other discussion about being 'mixed' klc,,lol

funny how people often talk about how beautiful mixed people are,, because they are looking at people from their perspective and less likely to see the 'unattractive' people as mixed and more often to assume they are one race or another,,,

perception,,it truly does define reality for most

The same is right for dating between people from different countries. I know many friends married ladies from other countries.

For me I think it would have been nice if everybody thus black date or marry a white so we wouldn't have any racism problems. But the question is "ADAM & EVE", were they the same?, and if NOT then who was black and who was white?

There is a difference between a person's culture and a person's external "racial" features.

The "Culture-Shock" on many occasions is probably bigger than any "Ethnic-Shock" would be!

Racism will continue as long as there are Humans who label themselves as being members of an alleged "race".

Race and Religion either makes u a terrorist or weak! love on the other hand makes us strong...cheers to love

Maybe you do not know, years ago there was prejudice in the American Black race. Light colored blacks and dark colored blacks had very much tension between them. (some still do) If you were light then you must have had white blood in you. The dark blacks considered themselves African American. There was a lot of tension between the two. I was married to a black man in the 1970s and 1980s. That is how I know about this. I have 2 biracial children. Even though my husband was almost half American Indian, he was labeled as black. I never quite understood this. In 1979 I had a daughter and the hospital told me to put her race as black because her father was black. We were friends with another couple who the mother was black and the father was white. They had their baby at the same hospital and she was told to put their childs race as black because the mother was black. We lived in Washing State at the time. Biracial marriage was not accepted very well back then. When my children went to school the only option I had for race was white, black or hispanic. The school made me label my kids as black. Both of my children had blonde hair and fair skin. My kids were so confused because of the racial slurs in school. Times have changed now but there are still some people that don't like to see biracial couples. We had it rough at times but we got through it. Now my kids are proud to be black. They date all races.

Now I just say I have a rainbow family....

all good, too bad its so hard to celebrate difference instead of see it as the enemy that causes bigotry

bigotry will always exist, whatever the class or group it is aimed at,,,,,

My ex was filipino, the main thing I would notice was whole squids in the refrigerator and how when her women folk got together it sounded like a henhouse on fire

I have also dated a lot of african american women and the most common negative comment was: "but I am the only black person here"
To which I would point out the other black people in the room- usually two tables away. Mostly I foundn the issues were individual ones which you would have in any relationship

that isn't considered as "multi cultural marriage" , there is no "monochrome culture" anymore , so each culture has both light and dark skinned humans ....
your topic is about race , not culture ....