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Topic: what does it mean when a guy say i need a break from the re
kaymoza's photo
Thu 09/11/14 11:22 PM
what does it mean? Does it mean breaking up with u but no guts to tell u or i just need time on my own? How do i react as a girlfriend: say okay or ask for an explaination

MariahsFantasy's photo
Thu 09/11/14 11:26 PM
Run.

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Thu 09/11/14 11:30 PM
Probably got someone else darlin,better of without him.

mikey5360's photo
Thu 09/11/14 11:31 PM
Time to make the break permanent I'm afraid

m3k4y's photo
Fri 09/12/14 12:13 AM
It means he doesn't want a pretty girl near him..hehe..smile and let him go..but make sure to act like a balloon..that once he let u go, he can never have u back..:wink: flowerforyou

FunnyJ's photo
Fri 09/12/14 12:44 AM
I'm sorry but that means he wants to break up but doesn't want to say that. Do you have his brother or best friends number? If you want him back just have a polite conversation with one of them or just go out and meet another guy that makes you happier, one that won't play games like "breaks".

Rock's photo
Fri 09/12/14 03:37 AM

what does it mean? Does it mean breaking up with u but no guts to tell u or i just need time on my own? How do i react as a girlfriend: say okay or ask for an explaination


It could mean that he's unsure, but needs a break to figure out
what he wants.

Even if he isn't sure at the moment, a "break" from a relationship,
usually spells the end.

kaymoza's photo
Fri 09/12/14 03:42 AM
Wow. Thanks guys i just have to change my holiday plans and go alone

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Fri 09/12/14 05:20 AM
I indeed have understood that means it's over. You're not the one for him.
Hug for you
flowerforyou


Argo's photo
Fri 09/12/14 05:49 AM

what does it mean? Does it mean breaking up with u but no guts to tell u or i just need time on my own? How do i react as a girlfriend: say okay or ask for an explaination

if you love him, say okay, and give him the time and space he needs to make up his mind...if he returns to you, it will be of his own free will....i'm sure you wouldn't want it any other way....good luck to you, kay....

metalwing's photo
Fri 09/12/14 06:35 AM
Don't ask for an explanation. It doesn't matter. Just go.

valtheponytail35's photo
Fri 09/12/14 10:32 AM
Did he tell you why does he need a break? Or did something happened just before him telling you? Did you had a fight or smth?

soufiehere's photo
Fri 09/12/14 10:40 AM

what does it mean? Does it mean breaking up with u but no guts to tell u or i just need time on my own? How do i react as a girlfriend: say okay or ask for an explaination

There is a saying..
'What is good for the goose, is good for the gander..'

Ergo, if he had said that to me, I would immediately respond:
"Oh, thank goodness, I feel the same, let's take a break for
some 'me' time.' and go about my business.

Sometimes people get taken for granted.
Don't let that happen to you.

Hun, ALWAYS give them what they want :-)

Justfun_1's photo
Fri 09/12/14 10:46 AM
It usually means he doesn't have the balls to tell you it's over,put him out of his misery and say goodbye :smile:

vanaheim's photo
Fri 09/12/14 10:55 AM
Blondey for the win.

See, if he's a math professor with his tenure up for review he might need to put his personal life on hold for a few weeks to concentrate on that. He might actually like a clingy girlfriend, but sometimes life gets in the way of what we like.

If he's a guy standing in a bar he might just want to sleep with someone else for a bit. The break is simply to justify not feeling guilty about his train wreck lifestyle.

So the same statement means entirely different things between different people at different times, it's a mistake to go around assuming everybody is one kind of person in the same kind of situation. Hence, an explanation is a perfectly reasonable request for clarification.

It doesn't bode well that he didn't offer an explanation in the first place, but you might be super clingy and not big on chit chat so there could be a reason for that too.

kaymoza's photo
Fri 09/12/14 11:53 AM
he had a problem and i asked a friend for an advice and when i told him he hated the fact that my friend knew abt his problem.since then he just get angry when i bring up the subject and next thing i know he needed a break.

mrld_ii's photo
Fri 09/12/14 01:26 PM

he had a problem and i asked a friend for an advice and when i told him he hated the fact that my friend knew abt his problem.since then he just get angry when i bring up the subject and next thing i know he needed a break.


Before this post, my thoughts were that either he's being genuine and (for whatever reason) wants a time-out to sort out what he wants

OR

he already has met someone he's interested in being free to pursue.


WITH your latest post, I suspect he's hurt and feels betrayed by and distrustful of you (perhaps even rightfully so) and now is questioning if you are the type of person he wants to continue being intimate with.

Regardless of any thing it is, personally, whenever a man has said to me (words to the effect of) "I'm not sure I want to be with you, anymore",

I remove all doubt for him, because I'M sure I don't want to be with someone who's not sure he whether he wants to be with me or not.


Best of luck to you...I hope, regardless of any other outcome, he finds the way to forgive.


drinks



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Fri 09/12/14 01:30 PM

he had a problem and i asked a friend for an advice and when i told him he hated the fact that my friend knew abt his problem.since then he just get angry when i bring up the subject and next thing i know he needed a break.



Did you ask him if you could share HIS problems with someone else? I know I would be seriously annoyed if someone I'd confided in shared MY personal issues to a to a third party without checking with me first.

kaymoza's photo
Sat 09/13/14 12:36 PM
Men just need to grow up! Pride wil bring a person down and being humble wil do the opposite. For six months i have been listening to his issue and finally i went to a person i trust and who has been through this and can help him and now im a bad person. I like takin action and this issue was not gonna go away by itself. Sometimes african men like being difficult for nothin.

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Sat 09/13/14 12:55 PM
Regardless of the "issue". It seems that he has held whatever power this issue has over you. You were tired of "the issue".

He no longer has power over you with this issue, since it's now that not only you knows about said issue.

Be glad the issue is no more. embarassed

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