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Topic: Is it rude ?
NoMindGamesPlease Joined Fri 07/25/14 Posts: 461	Wed 10/15/14 05:29 PM
you know what.. when I first got on to m2.. I was so excited to get a message... yay I have mail..lol... .... but then I started to realize... . when you engage with somebody... you are opening a door for them to walk into whenever they want.. literally..... so you message me.. and then realize we're not a match... now you have to tell me that... somehow... without hurting my feelings.... or having me assume.. there is something wrong with me... Ok.. smart *****.. there is something wrong with me...lmao... so after a while... you come to the conclusion.. . it's best not to return all messages... .. and yes it is rude.... I mean I was raised to believe.. if somebody is speaking to you you should listen and reply... but online rules are a little different.. that is even viewing someone... can be an issue.. they view your profile.. you view their profile... realize they are not a match.... now they know you viewed them....sooooo....hmmm.... you can see where I'm going with this...lol.. . Got it! And BTW, I like that photo on your profile.

stan_147 Joined Thu 05/15/14 Posts: 3441	Wed 10/15/14 05:30 PM
You're disqualified, No1. You're Canadian, all you folks are polite.

no1phD Joined Tue 01/07/14 Posts: 27442	Wed 10/15/14 05:32 PM
.. thanks I like your profile pictures as well.. .. now. let me add something... a lot of the time it comes down to this... does the other person live near you... I mean not a lot of.. Point... starting a conversation.. . with somebody.. who you probably are never going to meet... unless you just want a. pen pal...are cyber sex.. ...lol.... for myself it has become exhausting..... the pen pal part.. not the cyber sex part..lmao .

Diwata06 Joined Wed 10/08/14 Posts: 223	Wed 10/15/14 05:33 PM
While not replying to a message is one form of an answer because it shows a lack of interest, is it also being rude ? No, it is not being rude. What is rude is insisting that people have a duty or an obligation to reply to messages sent by complete strangers. ...uhhh'yeh..really agree! drop him/her a message or two and u never get aNy repLy,,it simply mEans that he/she dont want to chat with'u..(silence way) and its not rudenEss.. just being true to his/herself! hEHe..

michelake Joined Thu 07/31/14 Posts: 358	Wed 10/15/14 05:34 PM Edited by michelake on Wed 10/15/14 05:39 PM
@ NoMindGamesPlease Would that have been me that you mistakenly send a message to ? I already thought it was a mistake. Because i saw your name on the forum where i was posting. Today i messed up too. By mistakenly clicking on a guy his name But i was just trying to read the forum text. I usually put this in my profile: "If i do not respond to your message, please do not feel offended by it. Because i do not like to send a message back and reject someone with it. I rather prefer to be silent then. What i define as beauty is different from person to person. Who am i to judge you ? I am only following my heart." This seems to help... I never get any bad replies back

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Wed 10/15/14 05:39 PM
While not replying to a message is one form of an answer because it shows a lack of interest, is it also being rude ? It depends on the message...If someone invests time and thought into sending me a nice message, I would consider it rude if I didn't reply...

no1phD Joined Tue 01/07/14 Posts: 27442	Wed 10/15/14 05:39 PM Edited by no1phD on Wed 10/15/14 05:40 PM
Saying that it is rude not to reply to unsolicited mail from a complete stranger is akin to saying that it is rude not answer your phone when a telemarketer calls. ..yes.. but you still answer the phone.... now you can choose to hang up on them... are politely listen to what they have to say.. and then say no thank you.. and hope they stop calling you... but online... you get a little information first... so not replying.. is the equivalent of hanging up... and I know it sucks.... but you can't take it personally... you just.. keep making calls... the right person will pick up and politely listen.. . and start a conversation with you... ..ok.

michelake Joined Thu 07/31/14 Posts: 358	Wed 10/15/14 05:44 PM
Links ? Nah.. don't worry.. my computer was already infected with spyware

NoMindGamesPlease Joined Fri 07/25/14 Posts: 461	Wed 10/15/14 05:45 PM
@ NoMindGamesPlease Would that have been me that you mistakenly send a message to ? I already thought it was a mistake. Because i saw your name on the forum where i was posting. Today i messed up too. By mistakenly clicking on a guy his name But i was just trying to read the forum text. I usually put this in my profile: "If i do not respond to your message, please do not feel offended by it. Because i do not like to send a message back and reject someone with it. I rather prefer to be silent then. What i define as beauty is different from person to person. Who am i to judge you ? I am only following my heart." This seems to help... I never get any bad replies back Thanks for being so kind. I hope you haven't opened those links...

NoMindGamesPlease Joined Fri 07/25/14 Posts: 461	Wed 10/15/14 05:47 PM
Links ? Nah.. don't worry.. my computer was already infected with spyware

Justfun_1 Joined Tue 07/23/13 Posts: 698	Wed 10/15/14 05:48 PM
While not replying to a message is one form of an answer because it shows a lack of interest, is it also being rude ? It depends on the message...If someone invests time and thought into sending me a nice message, I would consider it rude if I didn't reply... I agree Leigh,a good and well thought out message deserves the courtesy of a reply...

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48926	Wed 10/15/14 05:54 PM
I agree Leigh,a good and well thought out message deserves the courtesy of a reply... I disagree. No message "deserves" a reply. A message can earn a reply.

no1phD Joined Tue 01/07/14 Posts: 27442	Wed 10/15/14 05:56 PM Edited by no1phD on Wed 10/15/14 05:58 PM
Lmao...ooook... now that we're on the topic of being rude...lol.. I hope people... well all of you..lol.. don't think I'm being rude.... if I don't reply to... something you have posted.. in response to something I have posted.... because honestly..lol.. Have the time.. I don't take myself very seriously..... I mean we all understand.... that I am a bit of a flake right...lmao... I'm OK... if you don't reply to the things I say... that obviously don't need a reply to.... just wanted to put that out there..... and for Stan. .... thanks man.... but I don't know if being Canadian really has anything to do with it...weeell.. ok yes it does.lol.. .. and I can't find that show.... I must not get that channel.... it is on TV right.?.. .

NoMindGamesPlease Joined Fri 07/25/14 Posts: 461	Wed 10/15/14 05:56 PM
I agree Leigh,a good and well thought out message deserves the courtesy of a reply... I disagree. No message "deserves" a reply. A message can earn a reply. How about air-miles?

m3k4y Joined Tue 07/08/14 Posts: 13122	Wed 10/15/14 05:57 PM
If its from someone you know and if the message merits a reply then its polite to reply..but if the message is unsolicited or unwanted then it would be silly to reply..

NoMindGamesPlease Joined Fri 07/25/14 Posts: 461	Wed 10/15/14 05:58 PM
I agree Leigh,a good and well thought out message deserves the courtesy of a reply... I disagree. No message "deserves" a reply. A message can earn a reply. How about air miles? P.S. I like to travel!

NoMindGamesPlease Joined Fri 07/25/14 Posts: 461	Wed 10/15/14 06:00 PM
If its from someone you know and if the message merits a reply then its polite to reply..but if the message is unsolicited or unwanted then it would be silly to reply.. I agree!

adventureman64 Joined Thu 09/11/14 Posts: 37	Wed 10/15/14 06:52 PM
Sounds like everyone is in agreement. I've always felt that ignoring someone who is speaking to you is rude. I guess I haven't dealt with the cyber world long enough yet to learn how it is in this dimension. Thank you for your feedback.

mrld_ii Joined Thu 05/15/14 Posts: 1410	Wed 10/15/14 06:56 PM
...I've always felt that ignoring someone who is speaking to you is rude... That's why it's a good idea to read profiles, first. Many of us say, "Just here for the forums". Ignoring what WE'VE said and sending a private message to our inboxes, anyway, IS rude. I, for one, have a tendency to treat people as I've been treated; if they're going to ignore me when demanding my attention, I'll simply return the favor.

Rock Joined Thu 10/09/08 Posts: 21251	Wed 10/15/14 07:02 PM
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