I usually delete those messages from 18-19 y/os but my question is, can you set filters on here so that you don;t get msgs from that age group?


I leave it open. I had a good friend on here at one time who was 19. we were buds. He is about 24 or 25 by now I'd guess. He was a college student who liked to talk about stuff....there was no romance there. (CLEARLY)lol

Then I found from time to time a young person (often lonely away at college) just wanted to talk about ... whatever. Those young people I would chat to or message with. I'd like to think maybe I was a friend when they were feeling alone. Or, just a nice person they happened upon. But nothing sexual or romantic. If it ever went in that direction, I politely declined and blocked them. Kids are curious. They like to push the envelope sometimes. Sometimes they don;t think. Sometimes they are lonely. Ultimately they are people.

I'd usually end the conversation by telling them to go do their homework.

and some were friends at times when I needed one. I don;t see anything wrong there. One could do worse than exchange a pleasant hello... :)

It has been along time since hearing from any of them, and it's not what I am on here for either...not the kind of messages I would want to get regularly. But I do not block age groups because I have friends of all ages. I only block the pervs who say stuff like "hiiii" and "hey baby" lol, but they seem to be from all groups...lol

How did I miss that gem!?!

I think these 18-19 year olds are just bored & looking for something to occupy their time. They grew up in the age of the internet & Facebook, so they think they must have 100 friends or they think they are social outcasts. Unfortunately all these friends are online & they can't really find a person to get close to IRL, not to mention that growing up "digital" has given them the attention span of a gnat: nobody to chat w/on Facebook? - then find someone from an OLD site somewhere to text to/Skype with/sext on Tinder etc. They just HAVE to have something engaging them at all times.

I grew up a with a few really close friends that actually made plans w/me to spend time in person doing something (not just going to the mall). If not then maybe a 2 hour phone conversation but still a genuine connection with a select few that were all on the same page as I was. Today's younguns' see "friendship" in a different light, they "surf" for it no differently than they would surf shopping sites or Youtube. I wonder if they will think back on this behavior if/when they become parents?

ava let's add some more perspective lol
as you are about the same age as my sister was
when i gave her this-
Mirror mirror on the wall
I've become my mother after all






and yes i almost died that time too

Get off my lawn!

As I see it, if you are ranting because young adults actually use this website for socializing,
then you must have ran out of more important stuff to rant about.

clearly that aged group are simply here to have a good time and "MINGLE" with ppl...talk and make newfound friends whereas for the mature group, they are (from what ive read) are here to find something "serious" if not stable!

so its clear, yous are serious!!!

There is nothing wrong with young adults using a free website such as this one to socialize.

totally agree

but getting messages from 18 yr olds is crazy - when you have
clearly defined the age groups you want messages.

I am not convinced that young ppl want anything long term from any
dating site.

Are people that bothered about the word "kid" vs "adult"?

Huh. Ok... I really think that we could get over that part and answer the actual question posed... which somewhere through all the emotional responses, there is a semblance of an actual conversation...

I agree with your concern, but it is the business machine your actually arguing with. These dating sites were in development long before you were even thought of avamari2.

1) Adults ages 18, 19 & 20 are not harming anyone by being on this site.

2) The ultimate mission of this site is to make money for its owners. If adults ages 18, 19 & 20 help this site make money for its owners, then mission accomplished.

3) Adults ages 18, 19 & 20 are not necessarily students in traditional 4-year colleges. So, their opportunities to meet people are no different than the opportunities of older adults.

4) Why adults ages 18, 19 & 20 use this website is nobody's business but their own.

There are plenty of "why are you here" posts. I was posing a question simply because I do not understand the draw... I get the business aspect and why Mingle wants them (revenue... just like any business).

Also, I don't buy "they have the same opportunities." But that was one of the premises of my question- and I think there was good discussion. It's a belief/opinion and I asked to shed light on that. People did=win. I can say that I understand a little better, despite the ensuing drama...

calm.down.

After I got into this site my son asked if it was a "real" dating site...being that it's free...I've never been on one and so I didn't really have an answer outside of " I guess I'll find out..."... So he set up an account for a bit...his reasoning was similar to mine...curiosity...bored...whats out there outside the hometown...no reason really...made me laugh cause a few days later he showed up on my match list..lol...still gotta fix that age thing..he deactivated a week later..wasn't his cup of tea...I think a lot of kids do it for similar reasons...as far as boys hitting on older women...I'm sure most would answer "why not"...I think 18 to 23...they usually got one thing on the brain and getting it is more important then the who, what , where and how...lol..

Well yeah, if a dating site matched me with my mom it would be ackward. lol

lol..to say the least...he gets bothered if his friend say I'm pretty "for a ol' lady"...let alone a computer trying to set us up...lmao..!... He has a different last name, same town, and my not having an age limit...should've saw that coming..tk..

He gets bothered because he knows you are a beautiful woman, he just doesnt want to think of his mother in that way. lol

I highly understand you lack of understanding of to why young adults are here rather thn being out and about as anyone should be, I disagree on the same opportunities as well as. don't you think your over-thinking the whole idea? we are all here for our own reason? the fact that someone around that age group hitting you up is abit disturbing but best to just take it as a compliment and explain to the guy you ant interested, no harm done!

well I hope the fuse has given you a better idea and understanding.

the youth of each generation actually become wiser quicker and faster than each generation before...

so they are but looking for meaning to their life, just as one self is.

surely pity be in order, to those who a younger age group, be lessor in validity, when in pursuit of their own happiness.

Thank you for the advice mum