its not suppose to get u anything

but i find its easier to figure another out by being open. i mean the other will show their colors... it works with being extremely mean too, but that can backfire

Not always. But when I do nice things for others and end up getting hurt.

If you are being "nice" in anticipation of a payoff then you ain't nice, you're manipulative.

Being nice is it's own reward. You will have a lighter spirit and a smile on your face because of it.

no. im like the nicest sweetest guy on in the world and it aint gotten me ****.

I was brought up on its not what you say it's how you say it.
Two wrongs don't make a right.
As a kid I thought who cares they are going to hear what I have to say, no matter how i say it or whatever action I use.
Ad an adult I have more of an understanding what these things mean. Being nice has achieved a lot for me. In a few cases it hasn't but you just walk away with pride.

raised with a very strong sense of right and wrong
also raised in a time when little girls with curls wore dresses and tights and little buckle shoes..
raised with manners
raised to respect my elders
always try to be respectful and polite
but ..thank god
also raised by a strong single mother
who taught this shy little girl how to open her mouth
when necessary and say what has to be said

I try really hard to be a nice person, but my mouth usually doesn't cooperate.

sometimes when I open my mouth..my mother comes out


and I like it

actually I am pretty laid back, grounded person in real life
try to be a decent human being
try to be nice til someone crosses the line..then ummm not so much

Absolutely, I have always have said that when you do or say something nice and have to tell about it then it wasn't really nice it was for gain.

I agree. Some programs have thumbs up thumbs down which is helpful. If I like something I generally say so or just .

Wait!

Is this a trick question?

I think being nice does pay off. Actually in several ways.

Probably the most is when you look in the mirror, or see your kids mirror who you are, it is usually something you like.

Being able to like yourself brings a lot of peace. May not always bring wealth or fame or a easy life but I think it takes a lot of stress out of competing.

I also thinks it takes a lot of stress out of wondering how you will be seen; what your legacy will be. Or even how your life and soul will be judged.

Being nice generally puts people at ease and smoothe's the road you have to share in life. Not always; some will mistake nice for pushover, but then if you define nice as not being a doormat and use "no" when appropriate people tend to give back what you gave them; respect and "nice".

I think if you are consistently nice it is a reputation that preceeds you in many things and that helps when people who do not know you but have to make judgments that can really effect your life decide.

I personally think being nice is way less work than being nasty. If you are nice you don't have to remember what you did or said to anyone. You live with a lot less fear of retribution. And just being nice is a lot easier than trying to figure out how to get over on other's. People actually help you be nice. People will help you be nasty too but then they have leverage over you forever.

I think it is NICER if people write a personal note of agreement than lazily poking an icon.

Believe you me, no one would stop at a thumbs down icon if they disagreed with someone! You're going to hear about it!

If you focus on the pay off, eventually you might regress from being nice. If being nice is a habit you just might infuse being nice to your community, locality or work. (i hope that makes sense :D)

I have to discover nice guys are doormats. Seen some real jerks tread on women, they go right back to it.

Really...In my experience the "real nice guy" are not the doormats, they are genuinely nice, caring, strong the list is endless...

Being nice doesn't mean "doormat" for either sex..

Doormats comes in both sexes
Jerks also come in both sexes...

Neither are sexy or attractive. actually quite a turn off.

Be yourself and if that is nice then that's that

things go better when one is true to oneself

I tend to agree with this. unless it is a very specific remark and it is just a good thought to endorse.

The responses are really great quite often and I think is a lot of Mingle's longevity.

For a while being called a "Nice guy " took on a less desirable connotation but I think it has moved back away from the doormat definition.

I have never really bought into being a doormat was nice. Kind of comes off cowardly or submissive aggressive.

I don't say someone is a nice guy unless I think he really deserves it as the compliment I mean it to be.