Topic: Feminism vs Sexism
mom333's photo
Mon 05/04/15 03:23 PM

the woman should show her husband respect and loyalty especially if he's breaking his back getting those bills paid. she should look after him and the children because he is looking after them. i mean who else is going to look after him if the wife doesn't. that's equal


Thank you for the kind words of support to my article. I think that in any relationship both the man and the woman need to respect and value each other. In fact there has been a recent study where as soon as one partner has contempt for the other... eventually the relationship ends in a divorce.

Unfortunately, I'm afraid in this world men have become seen as a burden and a hinderance for women. Anyone who looks at the feminist's posts will see that if they look honestly. Unfortunately, most men see this too, which is why MGTOW is gaining momentum. MGTOW is not about going back to the table to discuss things with feminists - it's about walking away and NEVER coming back to the table at all. It's about men living their lives for themselves like feminists have done.

Ultimately... if feminists want to run the civilization... they will. They'll just have to do it without men.

you would be surprised at how many women think the same as you.

yellowrose10's photo
Mon 05/04/15 03:26 PM

the woman should show her husband respect and loyalty especially if he's breaking his back getting those bills paid. she should look after him and the children because he is looking after them.


I agree until this statement


i mean who else is going to look after him if the wife doesn't. that's equal


Not sure if this is how you meant it (if not I apologize) but men are capable of taking care of themselves just as women are. That would be equal under feminism IMO

Heck I know men who cook better than me and love to cook. More power to them. In all of my relationships, the men did most of the cooking and I would do all the cleaning (love to clean)

mom333's photo
Mon 05/04/15 03:33 PM


the woman should show her husband respect and loyalty especially if he's breaking his back getting those bills paid. she should look after him and the children because he is looking after them.


I agree until this statement


i mean who else is going to look after him if the wife doesn't. that's equal


Not sure if this is how you meant it (if not I apologize) but men are capable of taking care of themselves just as women are. That would be equal under feminism IMO

Heck I know men who cook better than me and love to cook. More power to them. In all of my relationships, the men did most of the cooking and I would do all the cleaning (love to clean)

I would never want my partner or husband to come home from work then cook his own meal or clean anything. he would have to sit relax after a hard days work and break open a bottle of red with the dinner I cooked him and a hot bath I ran for him. I know it sounds old fashioned but its a sign of appreciation on my part. for what he does for me.

mightymoe's photo
Mon 05/04/15 03:34 PM


the woman should show her husband respect and loyalty especially if he's breaking his back getting those bills paid. she should look after him and the children because he is looking after them.


I agree until this statement


i mean who else is going to look after him if the wife doesn't. that's equal


Not sure if this is how you meant it (if not I apologize) but men are capable of taking care of themselves just as women are. That would be equal under feminism IMO

Heck I know men who cook better than me and love to cook. More power to them. In all of my relationships, the men did most of the cooking and I would do all the cleaning (love to clean)



i like to cook, but the cleaning part... ugh ... i always clean everything almost as soon as i'm done with it, so i can relax afterwards sooner

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Mon 05/04/15 03:34 PM


Men would do the financial providing you know why? Because women don't get paid for our work...and apparently no appreciation either.


This statement? I will counter it. When I was married I stayed at home and took care of the house and son. My husband always appreciated it. I chose to stay home. Yes he made the money but we had equal (but different) roles. Both were just as important. We had a joint bank account and discussed purchases outside of bills.

Later I went to work and made my own money

After the divorce I was able to take care of my household and earn a paycheck. He was able to take care of his household and earn money

This is an example of what I referred to. Being a stay at home mom deserves the husband's paycheck?

Btw I believe I have said the same thing before several times


That is not a counter argument. You did the housekeeping and childcare while he provided financially, this is exactly what I said.

yellowrose10's photo
Mon 05/04/15 03:38 PM
Edited by yellowrose10 on Mon 05/04/15 03:39 PM



the woman should show her husband respect and loyalty especially if he's breaking his back getting those bills paid. she should look after him and the children because he is looking after them.


I agree until this statement


i mean who else is going to look after him if the wife doesn't. that's equal


Not sure if this is how you meant it (if not I apologize) but men are capable of taking care of themselves just as women are. That would be equal under feminism IMO

Heck I know men who cook better than me and love to cook. More power to them. In all of my relationships, the men did most of the cooking and I would do all the cleaning (love to clean)

I would never want my partner or husband to come home from work then cook his own meal or clean anything. he would have to sit relax after a hard days work and break open a bottle of red with the dinner I cooked him and a hot bath I ran for him. I know it sounds old fashioned but its a sign of appreciation on my part. for what he does for me.


I respect that 100% and I would love the same, but with the economy sometimes both have to work. If both work, both should help at home.

But that doesn't mean a man can't cook, clean, etc. My son was raised to be independent because he might have to do it all or at least help in a relationship.

You asked who else is going to look after a man. A man can do that just fine. Mom, girlfriend, wife, etc won't aleays be there

Maybe your post was just worded differently than what you meant

yellowrose10's photo
Mon 05/04/15 03:41 PM
Edited by yellowrose10 on Mon 05/04/15 03:43 PM



Men would do the financial providing you know why? Because women don't get paid for our work...and apparently no appreciation either.


This statement? I will counter it. When I was married I stayed at home and took care of the house and son. My husband always appreciated it. I chose to stay home. Yes he made the money but we had equal (but different) roles. Both were just as important. We had a joint bank account and discussed purchases outside of bills.

Later I went to work and made my own money

After the divorce I was able to take care of my household and earn a paycheck. He was able to take care of his household and earn money

This is an example of what I referred to. Being a stay at home mom deserves the husband's paycheck?

Btw I believe I have said the same thing before several times


That is not a counter argument. You did the housekeeping and childcare while he provided financially, this is exactly what I said.


I ALSO said later I went to work THEN got divorced later. I did both while married.

It was my choice to stay at home. I could have gotten a job for my own money at anytime. And he was always appreciative

If a woman is staying at home, a man HAS to work to provide. It's an equal job

mightymoe's photo
Mon 05/04/15 03:43 PM

the woman should show her husband respect and loyalty especially if he's breaking his back getting those bills paid. she should look after him and the children because he is looking after them. i mean who else is going to look after him if the wife doesn't. that's equal


Thank you for the kind words of support to my article. I think that in any relationship both the man and the woman need to respect and value each other. In fact there has been a recent study where as soon as one partner has contempt for the other... eventually the relationship ends in a divorce.

Unfortunately, I'm afraid in this world men have become seen as a burden and a hinderance for women. Anyone who looks at the feminist's posts will see that if they look honestly. Unfortunately, most men see this too, which is why MGTOW is gaining momentum. MGTOW is not about going back to the table to discuss things with feminists - it's about walking away and NEVER coming back to the table at all. It's about men living their lives for themselves like feminists have done.

Ultimately... if feminists want to run the civilization... they will. They'll just have to do it without men.



i just ignore the feminists... whatever they are not happy about, has nothing to do with me... so they can be unhappy alone

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Mon 05/04/15 03:44 PM


the woman should show her husband respect and loyalty especially if he's breaking his back getting those bills paid. she should look after him and the children because he is looking after them. i mean who else is going to look after him if the wife doesn't. that's equal


Thank you for the kind words of support to my article. I think that in any relationship both the man and the woman need to respect and value each other. In fact there has been a recent study where as soon as one partner has contempt for the other... eventually the relationship ends in a divorce.

Unfortunately, I'm afraid in this world men have become seen as a burden and a hinderance for women. Anyone who looks at the feminist's posts will see that if they look honestly. Unfortunately, most men see this too, which is why MGTOW is gaining momentum. MGTOW is not about going back to the table to discuss things with feminists - it's about walking away and NEVER coming back to the table at all. It's about men living their lives for themselves like feminists have done.

Ultimately... if feminists want to run the civilization... they will. They'll just have to do it without men.

you would be surprised at how many women think the same as you.



AHA! Thank YOU for your comment!

I believe what you say, but I don't think women realize what is at stake.

Whether women want to realize it or not - all of western civilization, all of the cities which men have built... they have done this because they honoured, respected, loved and wanted to protect their women. They died in the millions defending them.

But just take a look at the title of this forum post. Are you a Sexist or a Feminist? It's as if just by being a man and standing up for masculinity, I become a sexist. I am attacked. But a feminist can stand up for women and she must be celebrated. Can you say inequality?

But hopefully, most women who are reading these posts will understand - feminism has been ENGRAINED in our culture now. Currently, there are more women in university than men, men are being pushed out of jobs to make room for women, and if men behave like anything other than "good little boys" they are treated as scum.

So... it's over. Men are being pushed aside, and the result is that movements like MGTOW are only going to grow. And since men are no longer willing to sit at the table to argue with the feminists, it's going to be up to all of the women left to decide what kind of civilization they want.

Choose wisely girls... you don't get a second chance.

yellowrose10's photo
Mon 05/04/15 03:48 PM
There are women who make more than the man and the man decides to be the homemaker.

Women can work if they want to. Men can be homemakers if they want to. Both can work if they want to

I see nothing wrong with that either. If feminists want equality,then it needs to be equal for both genders...just saying

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Mon 05/04/15 03:49 PM




Ultimately... if feminists want to run the civilization... they will. They'll just have to do it without men.



i just ignore the feminists... whatever they are not happy about, has nothing to do with me... so they can be unhappy alone


:-) Dang... you figured me out.

It's true, I ignore them mostly as well... but I'm nervous about the whole MGTOW movement. It's enticing to just walk away from your 'manly' responsibilities and live life like a feminist.

I think I've swallowed the purple pill.

Cheers!

yellowrose10's photo
Mon 05/04/15 03:51 PM


:-) Dang... you figured me out.

It's true, I ignore them mostly as well... but I'm nervous about the whole MGTOW movement. It's enticing to just walk away from your 'manly' responsibilities and live life like a feminist.

I think I've swallowed the purple pill.

Cheers!



Isn't that viagra? No...that's the bill pill. Never mind...carry on

laugh

mom333's photo
Mon 05/04/15 03:52 PM




the woman should show her husband respect and loyalty especially if he's breaking his back getting those bills paid. she should look after him and the children because he is looking after them.


I agree until this statement


i mean who else is going to look after him if the wife doesn't. that's equal


Not sure if this is how you meant it (if not I apologize) but men are capable of taking care of themselves just as women are. That would be equal under feminism IMO

Heck I know men who cook better than me and love to cook. More power to them. In all of my relationships, the men did most of the cooking and I would do all the cleaning (love to clean)

I would never want my partner or husband to come home from work then cook his own meal or clean anything. he would have to sit relax after a hard days work and break open a bottle of red with the dinner I cooked him and a hot bath I ran for him. I know it sounds old fashioned but its a sign of appreciation on my part. for what he does for me.


I respect that 100% and I would love the same, but with the economy sometimes both have to work. If both work, both should help at home.

But that doesn't mean a man can't cook, clean, etc. My son was raised to be independent because he might have to do it all or at least help in a relationship.

You asked who else is going to look after a man. A man can do that just fine. Mom, girlfriend, wife, etc won't aleays be there

Maybe your post was just worded differently than what you meant
in my house all my kids have to learn how to use the washer and cook and do all of that because when they move out I need them to be able to look after themselves, they all know how to change a nappy and how to feed a baby, but my son also knows if he has a family he must provide for them. he has been grown up with the old fashioned values that I think keeps a relationship strong. I mean he might do something different that's up to him, and that goes for my younger son too. my daughter I've grown her up telling her she must do what she wants in life before settling down with someone. the reason I do this is because she has also been grown up with old fashioned views and she will have to put her family first. that's if she wants too all could change when she grows up. I will also tell her to pick wisely.

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Mon 05/04/15 03:52 PM
Edited by 2OLD2MESSAROUND on Mon 05/04/15 04:01 PM
panamajoe33 stated >>>
Yes... men and women always worked hard. But it is mostly because of modern amenities (ie machines) that life has gotten easier for both sexes. But I'm not sure I understand what you mean when you say I should "realize that equality is men doing most of the financial providing". Are you saying that men should just shut up and be walking wallets? To just provide money to women for their hard work in the home?

I mean - today even minning mostly requires a person to just load rocks and drive them to the elevator to be processed - all by machine. It might be dirty working a couple of kilometers underground, but a woman can handle that easily these days. So don't worry, soon women should all apply to mining jobs (and similar types of jobs) and be able to to do all the work themselves and not need men to provide the "finances". Again it might be a dirty job, but I'm sure it's alot better than being forced to stay at home and raise a family, wash dishes, cook meals, clean, etc. I mean, from what others are writing, the life women had before feminism was hell by comparison.

My appologies if I made it seem like ALL women at the "Slut walk" here in Toronto sided with the woman who shouted this during the walk. In general, most ignored her... but in all honesty, I didn't see any woman stand up for men and castigate her either. So I just don't know.


Interesting how you went from this post to the diatribe about 'PATRIARCIAL' society/birth control pills/'slut rants' at a Canadian march to comparing what Canada is trying to do with their hiring practices to American employer standards!

And all you were able to grasp {doubtful that you read my entire post} about what it was like growing up in the late 60's if you only garnered that we 'were tired of 'raising children/cooking meals/washing dishes/cleaning'...yes indeed the entire jest of what types of jobs and the work force placement skills we were offered 'ZOOMED' right over your head! What a shame!

Your grasp of the reality of what it was like growing up 'FEMALE' in AMERICA is lost on you and I won't waste anymore time trying to explain the facts when you've closed that mind.

Life in America for women working beside and with their husbands meant being all that they could be; sharing the load and god forbid that something happened to that bread winner and the wife was expected to fill in because there wasn't any OPTION for equal pay for her to do that! GOT IT? That's where the crux of the problem for equality becomes a vital issue when the #1 bread earner is now no longer able to do that job then the #2 person yoked to that marriage makes it her choice to FILL IN! Where were those jobs going to be - where was that equal pay going to come from?
Even during the war effort when the women became the 'Rosie Riveters' stepped up and became welders/pipe fitters/test pilots/machinist/painters/carpenters etc., etc., etc., they weren't getting the same wages as the men had been when they left for the war! And when the men came home the women got bumped off of those jobs; some did and some didn't - depended on the jobs but they still weren't making what the men had!
Never mind - you won't be reading this and without a interrupter it won't matter --- you'll twist it into something that I didn't say!

EQUALITY = equal in a marriage - equal in a job description = in a job pay scale! Seems pretty simplistic and yet we keep having to explain it over & over & over again to many that just can't get it! But will refer to one angry women in a march in Canada as a 'SLUT' --- now that speaks volumes! WHOOOEYYYY BABY!!! :thumbsup:

yellowrose10's photo
Mon 05/04/15 03:53 PM





the woman should show her husband respect and loyalty especially if he's breaking his back getting those bills paid. she should look after him and the children because he is looking after them.


I agree until this statement


i mean who else is going to look after him if the wife doesn't. that's equal


Not sure if this is how you meant it (if not I apologize) but men are capable of taking care of themselves just as women are. That would be equal under feminism IMO

Heck I know men who cook better than me and love to cook. More power to them. In all of my relationships, the men did most of the cooking and I would do all the cleaning (love to clean)

I would never want my partner or husband to come home from work then cook his own meal or clean anything. he would have to sit relax after a hard days work and break open a bottle of red with the dinner I cooked him and a hot bath I ran for him. I know it sounds old fashioned but its a sign of appreciation on my part. for what he does for me.


I respect that 100% and I would love the same, but with the economy sometimes both have to work. If both work, both should help at home.

But that doesn't mean a man can't cook, clean, etc. My son was raised to be independent because he might have to do it all or at least help in a relationship.

You asked who else is going to look after a man. A man can do that just fine. Mom, girlfriend, wife, etc won't aleays be there

Maybe your post was just worded differently than what you meant
in my house all my kids have to learn how to use the washer and cook and do all of that because when they move out I need them to be able to look after themselves, they all know how to change a nappy and how to feed a baby, but my son also knows if he has a family he must provide for them. he has been grown up with the old fashioned values that I think keeps a relationship strong. I mean he might do something different that's up to him, and that goes for my younger son too. my daughter I've grown her up telling her she must do what she wants in life before settling down with someone. the reason I do this is because she has also been grown up with old fashioned views and she will have to put her family first. that's if she wants too all could change when she grows up. I will also tell her to pick wisely.


That's fine and I respect that. But my point is a man CAN take care of themselves (different than how you posted it)

Glad we cleared that up

mightymoe's photo
Mon 05/04/15 03:57 PM

panamajoe33 stated >>>
Yes... men and women always worked hard. But it is mostly because of modern amenities (ie machines) that life has gotten easier for both sexes. But I'm not sure I understand what you mean when you say I should "realize that equality is men doing most of the financial providing". Are you saying that men should just shut up and be walking wallets? To just provide money to women for their hard work in the home?

I mean - today even minning mostly requires a person to just load rocks and drive them to the elevator to be processed - all by machine. It might be dirty working a couple of kilometers underground, but a woman can handle that easily these days. So don't worry, soon women should all apply to mining jobs (and similar types of jobs) and be able to to do all the work themselves and not need men to provide the "finances". Again it might be a dirty job, but I'm sure it's alot better than being forced to stay at home and raise a family, wash dishes, cook meals, clean, etc. I mean, from what others are writing, the life women had before feminism was hell by comparison.


Interesting how you went from this post to the diatribe about 'PATRIARCIAL' society/birth control pills/'slut rants' at a Canadian march to comparing what Canada is trying to do with their hiring practices to American employer standards!

And all you were able to grasp {doubtful that you read my entire post} about what it was like growing up in the late 60's if you only garnered that we 'were tired of 'raising children/cooking meals/washing dishes/cleaning'...yes indeed the entire jest of what types of jobs and the work force placement skills we were offered 'ZOOMED' right over your head! What a shame!

Your grasp of the reality of what it was like growing up 'FEMALE' in AMERICA is lost on you and I won't waste anymore time trying to explain the facts when you've closed that mind.

Life in America for women working beside and with their husbands meant being all that they could be; sharing the load and god forbid that something happened to that bread winner and the wife was expected to fill in because there wasn't any OPTION for equal pay for her to do that! GOT IT? That's where the crux of the problem for equality becomes a vital issue when the #1 bread earner is now no longer able to do that job then the #2 person yoked to that marriage makes it her choice to FILL IN! Where were those jobs going to be - where was that equal pay going to come from?
Even during the war effort when the women became the 'Rosie Riveters' stepped up and became welders/pipe fitters/test pilots/machinist/painters/carpenters etc., etc., etc., they weren't getting the same wages as the men had been when they left for the war! And when the men came home the women got bumped off of those jobs; some did and some didn't - depended on the jobs but they still weren't making what the men had!
Never mind - you won't be reading this and without a interrupter it won't matter --- you'll twist it into something that I didn't say!

EQUALITY = equal in a marriage - equal in a job description = in a job pay scale! Seems pretty simplistic and yet we keep having to explain it over & over & over again to many that just can't get it! But will refer to one angry women in a march in Canada as a 'SLUT' --- now that speaks volumes! WHOOOEYYYY BABY!!! :thumbsup:


how do we know shes not a slut?

mom333's photo
Mon 05/04/15 04:03 PM
on the other side of the coin if something were to happen to the main breadwinner then the other would have to be strong to deal with that too.

yellowrose10's photo
Mon 05/04/15 04:07 PM

on the other side of the coin if something were to happen to the main breadwinner then the other would have to be strong to deal with that too.


Exactly. My dad died when I was 7 and sis was 9. My mom had to go back to work to support 2 young daughters. We weren't rich or spoiled but we had what we needed and always got xmas presents etc.

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Mon 05/04/15 04:08 PM


on the other side of the coin if something were to happen to the main breadwinner then the other would have to be strong to deal with that too.


Exactly. My dad died when I was 7 and sis was 9. My mom had to go back to work to support 2 young daughters. We weren't rich or spoiled but we had what we needed and always got xmas presents etc.
that is a strong woman right there. flowerforyou

yellowrose10's photo
Mon 05/04/15 04:10 PM
Yes ma'am. Good woman too. I am 43 and have a mouth on me. She will still lecture me. laugh