Is there an answer of why good people hurt most?

cause good people norm have very big hearts and give it there all, to fall the hardest

Nope. Vulnerable people hurt the most.

Because they have a good heart
because they are helpful and caring
because they were raised perhaps by loving and kind parents
and when they step out in world
being a naturally good and giving person they may become involved with.someone who.recognizes
these good qualities and takes advantage of them,uses them and does not treat them right

The fact of the question.yes there is a answer. Good people hurt because they care.the bad one don't care to think.

Is it a competition?

How do you know it's the "most?"

Did you find a bunch of bad people that turned good, and good people that turned bad, and people that turned bad and good and bad and good randomly, and interview them to determine the "most?"

Good people get hurt.
Bad people get hurt.
People get hurt.
That's life.

If you want to blame anything blame your brain and central nervous system.



Other than that, in my experience, a lot of people that identify as "good" really aren't. They aren't bad, they're just normal people.
But they are scared and somewhat weak, which motivated them to adopt the good behavior.

They tell themselves their motives for doing good things are altruistic or good when it's really just a means to avoid something, like conflict, or facing reality.

They can be seen to get hurt "the most" because that's what they are most fearful of, that's why they were choosing "good" behavior, to avoid that pain, as a kind of bargaining.

If you aren't a good person (just a normal one), that has chosen good behavior as a means to avoid being hurt or as an entitlement to protection, then the hurt could be seen as being more intense when it happens.

Your protections failed, you have no power to protect yourself, you are unsure of who you are or what you can do in order to fix the hurt, avoid it in the future, or protect yourself again.
Along with the hurt it can bring a sense of despair.
It also brings into doubt the entire image of being a "good" person.

So you aren't just feeling the hurt, but all sorts of identity crises and mental turmoil.

I get hurt a lot I just broke up with someone and heart broken...so I have to be careful who I let into my life

In the social point of view it's a human nature.

I like Tmommy's reply.

And datwasntme' s reply too!

I know a "jerk", who keeps complaining about what his ex did to him. So it doesn't only happen to "good" people. I wouldn't recognize a good person from a bad person, because when you first meet people, they're nice to you. What about the people who are good AND bad? They have bad things happen too. Next time, don't let your guard down so easily. I feel like I've been betrayed by a certain friend, because he told me that he'd look after me. We haven't spoken for six months. Fat lot of good that was. More fool him, for thinking I bought into everything he told me. He's the type that thinks the world revolves around him. His two daughters and his mum, are the only friends he's got left. I doubt he's going to apologize for being
ignorant.

I'm not so sure that they do :-)...Often people who are in pain (hurting) hurt others...Kind of like a reflex action or a twisted self defense mechanism...Be angry or cry?...They choose anger...Also depression causes anger and aggression...See what I'm getting at...I don't necessarily think it's "mostly" the good peeps getting hurt...I think it's more about how people express hurt...The more tender hearted person might be better able to express their feelings than the one dealing with emotional and psychological problems...The nicer person may have a stronger support group...Sometimes, when people lash out at me for no apparent reason, I can't help but wonder if THEY are hurting for some reason that has NOTHING to do with me....

I certainly agree with your bottom two lines.

Some won't agree but I feel for drug users in a way.

I wonder if something somewhere in their lives has not been right and so they turn to drugs to hide the pain.
Not in all cases but in quite a few I would imagine.

I used to be one of the good people at one time

Have you ever spoken to substance.abuser or alcoholic?
Most carry around a great deal of pain
Of course we have all been hurt and faced conflict once upon a time
and yes some have harder time getting over it and moving on
may get.depressed

Yes I have, I know more about drug abuse than I care to mention.
Heroin was rife when I was growing up.

Outstanding and I concur but with this addendum:

We can't force 'LOVE' and shared equal response to our affections - wants - desires...it either is reciprocated or it isn't!

Would we want 'FAKE/FALSE' love instead of the truth! Well meaning humans are going to cause some emotional pain to someone else at any given point in this 'Search For Love & Marriage' --- does that make them BAD HUMANS?

Not necessarily IMHO

Would agree "good people" tend to be more altruistic in their.personality
somewhere along line they liked the pat on head and gold star and being.told how polite and helpful and good they are
I am not condeming this as bad
this evokes feeling of satisfaction
to see how happy you make others feel makes you feel.good

Yes, me too...

Once upon time we were all on equal playing field when we were young and nieve and full enthusiasm and hope were we not?

then whamo.something came along that knocked wind out of our sails or yanked rug out from under us

people respond to hurt in many ways