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My closest friend died yesterday of cancer. It was terrible how quickly the disease took him over. At the end, he was a wasted piece of human being who looked like he had been in a death camp. This is a guy I have ridden many miles with on our motorcycles. His last 24 hours all he could do was lie there and shake. A prisoner trapped in his own body. He could not speak. But I know he could hear me, because I played guitar for him for a while. I am a terrible guitar player, as he has told me many times. And I could tell he wanted to tell me again, because his shaking got quite agitated, until I stopped playing. It was our last laugh together, though I was the only one able to laugh.
A short time later, he was gone. Simply left between one breath and the next. His eyes were still open. I had to close them. I am glad his suffering was over. I know he hated to go that way. We both hoped for a quick death at high speed on some twisty road in the mountains, but it was not to be. I will miss him greatly. He deserved a better end, but I suppose we all must accept what we get in that respect. His memory will live with me as long as I survive. No, if you are wondering, we aren't gay. We had many things in common, and a wonderful friendship as well as a love of women. I at least can still continue to ride, in pursuit of women usually. Wish me luck. |
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Awww, my condolences.
Here in Oregon, a 'right-to-die' state, you can choose to end your life peacefully, out of pain, and under a doctor's care. I am grateful for this. You have done the best possible thing you could have done with your friend..you were there..during the most difficult part. Some of his trauma will have rolled onto you. Good for you..to have that strength. Hopefully, someone will be there for all of us. You are a good friend :-) |
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best wishes on there journey
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My sincerest condolences to you! It takes a very special person to be there for a friend in their darkest hour! That speaks volumes about your character! Life goes on for you! Best wishes!
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My closest friend died yesterday of cancer. It was terrible how quickly the disease took him over. At the end, he was a wasted piece of human being who looked like he had been in a death camp. This is a guy I have ridden many miles with on our motorcycles. His last 24 hours all he could do was lie there and shake. A prisoner trapped in his own body. He could not speak. But I know he could hear me, because I played guitar for him for a while. I am a terrible guitar player, as he has told me many times. And I could tell he wanted to tell me again, because his shaking got quite agitated, until I stopped playing. It was our last laugh together, though I was the only one able to laugh. A short time later, he was gone. Simply left between one breath and the next. His eyes were still open. I had to close them. I am glad his suffering was over. I know he hated to go that way. We both hoped for a quick death at high speed on some twisty road in the mountains, but it was not to be. I will miss him greatly. He deserved a better end, but I suppose we all must accept what we get in that respect. His memory will live with me as long as I survive. No, if you are wondering, we aren't gay. We had many things in common, and a wonderful friendship as well as a love of women. I at least can still continue to ride, in pursuit of women usually. Wish me luck. Kneepuck!!...Hello and welcome!...Your OP is genuine, heart wrenching, and it touches me in a very personal way...Please accept my sympathy...To share life with a friend is a beautiful thing, to share death with a friend an extraordinary gift!...Your presence was his greatest comfort  ....I wish you luck, love, and happiness...Take care of you!...
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My condolences Kneepuck. True friends are hard to come by. May he rest in peace and ride forever "somewhere over the rainbow." (Okay, I'll admit it, I've ripped off lines from songs before.)
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kneepuck posted >>> My closest friend died yesterday of cancer. It was terrible how quickly the disease took him over. At the end, he was a wasted piece of human being who looked like he had been in a death camp. This is a guy I have ridden many miles with on our motorcycles. His last 24 hours all he could do was lie there and shake. A prisoner trapped in his own body. He could not speak. But I know he could hear me, because I played guitar for him for a while. I am a terrible guitar player, as he has told me many times. And I could tell he wanted to tell me again, because his shaking got quite agitated, until I stopped playing. It was our last laugh together, though I was the only one able to laugh. A short time later, he was gone. Simply left between one breath and the next. His eyes were still open. I had to close them. I am glad his suffering was over. I know he hated to go that way. We both hoped for a quick death at high speed on some twisty road in the mountains, but it was not to be. I will miss him greatly. He deserved a better end, but I suppose we all must accept what we get in that respect. His memory will live with me as long as I survive. No, if you are wondering, we aren't gay. We had many things in common, and a wonderful friendship as well as a love of women. I at least can still continue to ride, in pursuit of women usually. Wish me luck. As a 'HOSPICE' helper; I've gotta tell you...it takes a very SPECIAL HUMAN to do what you did for that best buddy! I've known people that waste way and feel so isolated like they've got a contagious disease because they buddies/friends and even family just avoid spending any time with them! So they suffer a lonely  while they are dying!!! You are such a fine example of a true gifted spirit - to do that for him; even sending him off with a LOL moment about something he ridiculed you about --- lifting his spirit and lightening the mood surely helped make his last moments so much richer! TY for sharing this heart wrenching experience and the very best of luck in your love search!
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Wow!! So sorry to hear that broe,that obviously ain't a easy thing,but I pray that god will give you the strength and courage to deal with such a Lost!!
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So very for your loss. You were his angel!
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My heartfelt condolences to you on your loss. It takes a true friend of strength to be by his side thru the end. Any of us would be privileged to have a friend such as yourself.
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sorry for your loss
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At least your friend died of natural causes.
I am 24 years old. I had a rough past. When I was 15 years old, my friend of 10 years since toddlers shot himself in the heart for an open casket for his mom with a gun that I had stolen from an off duty cop through knowing his daughter a block away. Charges were never pressed due to the cop's negligence. It was over an ex girlfriend. When I was 18, my former dealer and close friend got stabbed to death with his girlfriend by his own uncle and nephew over 90,000 dollars. In 2013, my only remaining childhood friend after getting out of the drug game years ago, he hung himself in his bedroom and overdosed on meth, a friend of over 10 years. Did it around Christmas or Thanksgiving. Wish you the best. I bottled this stuff up for 3 years and was diagnosed with bipolar disorder as a result, the tears didn't come rolling until three years after my close friend's death at 15 years old. Rest assured, you are NOT alone. |
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I lost the love of my life almost 3 years ago. And then my beautiful 25 yr old daughter, in February... Both of cancer. I hate that word!!! It takes amazing people way too soon!
I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss! What a wonderful friend you were to him! My only advice is to keep your head up, and live life to the fullest, as your buddy would of wanted you to! If for no other reason, do it in honor of him. And hey... Keep playing that guitar like you're the best ever! Xo |
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Sweetie, I am so sorry for what you have endured. But may I please give you some motherly advice, with love of course! Never say to another that has lost someone that is so dear to them, at least you lost them of this or that. A loss is a loss no matter how it ended. I understand you are looking at the trauma of the situation. But trust me, losing someone you love so much, hurts just as bad, no matter the way it ended. Best to you sweetie! Continue to live life in their honor!
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I am sorry to hear of your loss. |
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Op my condolences... and so happy you where there... for each other at the end of his time on this earth ... he will always be with you and love you as u do him ... many blessings ... may he R.I.P ...
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You have my sympathies abd I am sorry for your loss but having you there with him in the end gave him comfort. Keep remembering all the good times and he'll never truly be gone.
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I was friends with a man in his late fifties
. He was a character. He would try to charm lots of women, whether he was in a relationship or single. He would dress up just to go to the pub, in a shirt and tie. I wish he was still alive. |
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