before one can let him/herself fall in love , there are are some things we need need.. for me I need my partner to be patient and understanding with me as I work through my fears.so what is the important things before u fall in love

a female : )

Dude.....not to be mean here....:but if you have fears then you need to not date. If you cannot go into dating setting aside your fears then just stay at home, play with your sock puppet and eat Bon bon's.

For me it would have to be sex first so that i can get to know her better

I'd make sure I was well, before dating again

Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate is the path to the dark side young Jedi.

Before falling in love, you need to check your heart first, is it really what you want and are you ready to commit yourself . There is no guarantee that if you fall in love it's gonna be always heaven, pain or getting hurt is a part of loving and if you have fears, it would take someone with more patience, understanding and most of all sincere & unwavering or enduring love that would make you feel secure that he or she'll be there for you always. A steadfast love endures forever and heals a broken or fearful heart.