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Topic: Passion First or Friendship First?
RustyKitty's photo
Wed 11/11/15 02:40 PM
personally, I can make friends with anyone.., but I can't make passion with just anyone.. so for me, it would be passion first, then friendship..

no photo
Wed 11/11/15 02:42 PM
Passion.

mikey5360's photo
Wed 11/11/15 02:46 PM
I think it can be either.....
I have had past relationships that have started both ways.....from friendship.....and from passion.....

The most successful started from friendship first..happy

shawndemwa's photo
Wed 11/11/15 02:57 PM
friendship

Phoenixbear78's photo
Wed 11/11/15 03:03 PM
It just really depends. Sometimes there is a connection that you just cant ignore, and then there are some that need to be developed.

ezra88's photo
Wed 11/11/15 03:17 PM
it is more sweeter if it starts from friendship...getting to know each other, likes and dislikes, bad and good attitude, foods and favorites and so on... on that process you will begin to realize that you are already hooked to each other...two things might happen, either you will fall in love or will fall out of love and remains friends... haiisst.. i can relate :-)

TxsGal3333's photo
Wed 11/11/15 03:20 PM
If the connection is not there, there will not be any passion.. I can be friends with anyone.. I have to have that connection.. that rises the passion~~

Justfun_1's photo
Wed 11/11/15 03:31 PM
If it starts with passion,the chances are that it will be hot,but short lived. But if the passion grows with friendship,everything should be better.And it might even last !:smile:

SitkaRains's photo
Wed 11/11/15 04:18 PM
I have to have the spark of friendship before the heat of passion will blaze. It is a whole package one goes with the other.
The relationships I have had that flared red hot passion faded almost as fast as it started for me.

Been2LongSince's photo
Wed 11/11/15 06:41 PM

I have to have the spark of friendship before the heat of passion will blaze. It is a whole package one goes with the other.
The relationships I have had that flared red hot passion faded almost as fast as it started for me.


Well said and same with me.

Friendship makes the relationship last longer. Passion alone will fade fast over a short time. Ideally, both friendship and passion can develop at the same time.

1Marie63's photo
Wed 11/11/15 06:43 PM
Friendship first that grows into more

IgorFrankensteen's photo
Wed 11/11/15 07:21 PM
Rather an oversimplification. People and relationships with them aren't like baking a cake. You can't follow a single process and repeat it reliably, because every person is who they are.

I just want to put in something based on things I see other people talk about a lot in the neighborhood of this subject:

* I don't think there's any magic spell involved. I see a lot of people say that they think that if they get to be a friend first, that that CAUSES them to end up being "friend-zoned." It's like a superstition or something.

* on the other side, it's common to conclude that if deep "passion" (often conflated with lust of one kind or another) doesn't occur in the first moments, that it never can, and so people give up on each other rapidly. I've been through enough that I can say that's not magically true either.

For sure, I'm like most of us. With a real Mate, I want both. But what order they arrive in, doesn't matter that much, except of course, that a wise person learns that passion can be blinding, and so must be "managed" appropriately.



Goofball73's photo
Wed 11/11/15 07:29 PM
Lust! love love laugh

Alodiaaa's photo
Wed 11/11/15 07:39 PM

Lust! love love laugh


laugh

germanchoclate1981's photo
Wed 11/11/15 08:34 PM
Edited by germanchoclate1981 on Wed 11/11/15 08:43 PM

Rather an oversimplification. People and relationships with them aren't like baking a cake. You can't follow a single process and repeat it reliably, because every person is who they are.

I just want to put in something based on things I see other people talk about a lot in the neighborhood of this subject:

* I don't think there's any magic spell involved. I see a lot of people say that they think that if they get to be a friend first, that that CAUSES them to end up being "friend-zoned." It's like a superstition or something.

* on the other side, it's common to conclude that if deep "passion" (often conflated with lust of one kind or another) doesn't occur in the first moments, that it never can, and so people give up on each other rapidly. I've been through enough that I can say that's not magically true either.

For sure, I'm like most of us. With a real Mate, I want both. But what order they arrive in, doesn't matter that much, except of course, that a wise person learns that passion can be blinding, and so must be "managed" appropriately.




The friend zone isn't a superstition. It's like the lost woods in the legend of Zelda, you can walk right in but you need a secret code to get out of it.

I believe relationships that start with lust don't often last as meaningful relationships but there's also a big problem with the F word, friends. It's turned into a bad word. --Just looking for friends and if it turns into more...--- IF. When? When does it turn into more? Not after sex, not after dinner and a movie, not after 'hanging out'.... So when? Or rather how much $? That's what this is turning into. For those of us who are old fashioned, 'FRIENDS' didn't have sex. They didn't kiss or mess around. They didn't have what would otherwise be considered a date unless they were dating. The concept of something that isn't or wouldn't work out isn't lost on me but how long do you keep someone as a 'friend'indifferent and how many 'friends'smooched (that wasn't intentional but it works) before you're just straight out using someone to ditch them because they're 'too serious' or 'no fun'? When they are not meeting your bottom line. 'Friends' are a form of income, they trade and sell just like goods and services.
They also had words for people whose naughty bits were everybodys business but technology allows people to bypass their reputation and hide who and what they really are.
Some people will laugh, but when you're 22 and you have 2 or more kids from different, ... donors, what good are you doing yourself or your kids? That's our future. That fact is undeniable.

notbeold's photo
Wed 11/11/15 08:57 PM
Even if you thought it was passion first, it would have to be friendship first, (attracted not neutral or repelling), admiring each other even for a few mutual moments before the passion took over.

I can't imagine being passionate (properly), to someone for negative unfriendly reasons; and passionate with a non-caring either way attitude is an impossibility by definition. smile2

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Annierooroo's photo
Thu 11/12/15 12:39 AM
Friendship because I want it go last

dionly's photo
Thu 11/12/15 03:17 AM
I think passion first because if u think of that person too much of a friend to u ur body emerge any feeling for that person.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Thu 11/12/15 03:31 AM
Neither ...
There's attraction first. Which is neither friendship nor passion.

If you then continue on with friendship only, the initial spark will die.

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