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Well, I like single Mom's...they perhaps could make good moms!!! and they are fun to date and mate with!!!single moms make better prospects for dating and relationships!!!" once bitten twice shy"

Nice

Single moms have the strongest hearts, the most courage and are the most dedicated person to their kids life. and to be quite honest its probably why the father left because moms carry on and try to better themselves for their kids while the fathers want to stay put and not grow with the moms...

True !!

Opinions Vary.....

are you a single mom OP?
do you come from a home where you are being raised by a single mom?

You clearly never watch TV or movies. But seriously, that is an amazingly naive and wrong assumption. My mother's abysmal performance as a single parent is the reason I will never be able to have a relationship with a single mother, and I know several of them today from work and school who are miserable and doing a terrible job with their kids, which makes it unlikely I'll ever see anything profound enough to change my mind. But I know this negative view is also not true of every single mother, either, so I'm not being naive that far in the other direction. What I can say about it is, though, that I'm not wild about the idea of having to compete with her child(ren) for her attention and affection, and if one of the kids ever said to me something like, "You're not my father!", that would seriously just crush my soul. The fact that I'd be in a position of trying to provide for them that father figure role that nobody ever did for me growing up, and them throwing it back in my face, seriously, that would kill me. So the whole thing just feels like a hornet's nest I'd never be comfortable in. Thanks a lot, Mom.

I know how difficult it is, having to listen to her cry herself to sleep every night because we were facing homelessness and all her health problems were out of control, and no knight in shining armor ever showed up to rescue her or us. And now after seeing our family be torn apart, I just can't see why anyone ever would want to.

if you already have a pre-conceived notion in your head
of what defines a stay at home mother..that they are evil, horrible, lazy, incompetent and chasing after a man to take over as daddy to their children..

then when you look around you will find examples to strengthen this belief



if on the other hand you think single mothers are strong, capable, hard working women who bring home bacon, fry it up in pan an do this without the help of a man

you will look around and find women that fit this definition also

So your mum cried herself to sleep with financial worry on top of health problems and you still tear her to pieces.

Depends on the individual. Some are women who have to deal with reality of life that may be choices that were not their own.

Those that try to be responsible and pull their kids up from what is usually mutual poverty and a harsh life I have great respect and empathy for. You can pretty well tell from their pictures and their posts the real deal.

No one get a crystal ball to predict the future and the dogs of the world tend to like to prey on the weak and heavy burdened. How those who clearly are players seem to get attention is sickening.

Sad when their own children turn on them but see that too. Some point you have to quit using your raising and for your failings and own your own reality. If you carry a chip on your shoulder for your parents, or make one the scapegoat then, you totally missed what being and adult is about.

But yes I have seen some pretty sorry excuses for Single mother's and it makes me wonder how some kids survive. Given this is an international site and the dregs of the world are looking for targets I don't know if even telling people you are a single parent is a smart move up front.

What knocks me out is the ones that still think you can do it all as a single parent. You can't. A lot will fall though the cracks and usually it is kids who one way or another pay for the adults choices. Maybe it is carrying a chip on their shoulder, low self esteem, or having to be surrogate partners but almost always it means life time poverty or at least self neglect for the parent who does try to parent alone.

Society seems to only pay lip service to their needs too.

If you think "that" is "nice" you need to have your head examined. When someone says you are easy target you are up for more misery.

This post is where I hope they follow people into future job interviews. This is exactly who we DO NOT need teaching our kids. Too many are standing in front of the classroom and using it for a bully pulpit to bash parents. Sounds like brainwashing will be repeated. Sad; very sad. Maybe when health issues and real life give a reality orientation more grace will appear but I am not holding my breath. Seems like the apple is not falling fall from the tree.

Glad I am not the only one who saw the "pity me" for what it is. Maybe hearing it will soften the cruelty of it all and motivate better attitude. Maybe even gratitude. Fortunate for getting chances his Mother may never be able to enjoy. Maybe when he is saddled with a couple kids, a teacher layoff, and his partner walks out on his judgmental garbage; Mom's hardships will make more sense.

I can say I would prefer more distinction in the question.

I mean "single moms" is a huge spectrum of people.
Might as well ask "what can you say about welfare recipients?" or "what can you say about people that don't live in your state?"

I can focus on the far right of the bell curve and laud them, I can focus on the far left and condemn them, or I can focus on the middle and just be kinda "meh, whatever."

I also think it's also relevant to determine what you think the purpose of a mother is.

I mean if we disagree on what defines a "good" mom, or the ultimate purpose of a "mother," then any discussion beyond that is pointless.
If you think the purpose of a mom is to provide a template for social living, to find happiness in being a productive and positive member of society, and I believe a mother's duty is to keep the child alive and teach the kid how to keep itself alive, then at some point we're going to end up talking about the exact same thing but disagreeing and not understanding why.


Are you asking would I date a single mom?

If I am a single guy, sitting on the internet, looking at pictures of 10,000 single mothers and 10,000 single women with no kids, I'm sorting through and contacting the profiles of all the women without kids first.

If I am a single guy, sitting on the internet, looking at pictures of 10,0000 single women with no kids, 10,000 single mothers, but then I see this chick in person at the grocery store, and she's hot, and nice, and I want to date her, but she has a kid, I'm going to date her.

If I'm a single guy, and I'm shown two women at a speed dating event, and they are both attractive, both nice, and I want to date both, the major distinction is one has kids and the other doesn't, then I'm dating the woman without kids.

I would say that most single moms live in poverty and that they do the best that they can with the little means available to them..
Kudo's to all of them

I do wonder why more single moms don't really help each other. Does seem like we are in the majority or near it now days. Maybe that is a false perception?

the best part is that THEY ARE SINGLE.

I think of single moms, the same way I think of single fathers: there is no such thing when you let go of all the bias and negativity. There are only single parents. and THIS is what I think of single parents:


The MAJORITY of us are hard working, self-sacrificing, individuals who do our best to try and ensure our children grow up to have more and better options. there are a few of us single parents however, that abuse the system, look for ways to get more "assistance", bash the other parent, etc.

Thank you

I had been a single mother in my 30s. Not an easy life, I admit. Homeless, financially broke and with 3 schooling kids. BUT I DID IT My kids all grown up and working now.I have a little old flat of my own. Looking back, I wonder how I survive....But I know , I fight to make a better life for my kids n myself.