E: have not found the person you are looking for yet
best wishes on your hunt

How about:
E) Too impatient.

Don't give up, your still young. I'd try to give you some advice but I am one of those poor saps that has never been good at getting a date.

Well firstly you have only been here 6 days...that's not long to find the love of your life...

Now secondly and most importantly....your profile...
It looks like a resume questionnaire...

You need a well written, humourous profile that contains a hook....
Something that entices the reader to want to write to you...

Secondly, you need a presence in the forums....
This will get lurkers and other forum writers reading your views on many subjects it also let's people see your personality...

This will enhance your image here...

None of the above.
Pics are great. Profile honest

Avoid bimbos

If it looks too good to be true, it probably isn't true.

Good luck & be patient.

Literal translation from Italian is :little child'.

But slang


bim·bo
ˈbimbō/
nouninformal

noun: bimbo; plural noun: bimbos; noun: bimbette; plural noun: bimbettes
an attractive but empty-headed young woman, especially one perceived as a willing sex object.

I tell all my male relatives the same thing. * I get like that... *

One didn't listen

That's nothing, I've been a member of over 15 dating sites over the last 22 years and I have never meet anyone from any of the sites. Looks, race and age have little to do with it, it's all about presentation and charisma.

Don't depend on this site ... go out and volunteer somewhere where there's a chance of meeting other people. Join a group/craft, take a class, learn to play guitar and join a band..do some networking...
good luck in your search.

I was not informed there would be a test on Mingle.

OK, I rarely claim to have any "wisdom" that anyone else should listen to, but I think that what I'm about to say is worth considering. (Fellow Minglers, feel free to shred this if appropriate, this is still in the "thinking out loud" stage...)

My own thoughts on this is that dating (in some respects) is a lot like job hunting. It's NOT especially pleasant, & it's tough to not feel like your very "worth as a human being" is being judged.

But also, if you do all of it (or even the majority of it) online, you're making it a LOT harder than it needs to be! Without question, the BEST way to find a job is to have someone who's already in the company recommend you. That way, you're more than just a random email that's appeared in HR's inbox, along with 150 others that day.

In the same manner, you've GOT to get out in real life & meet people. You've probably already seen references to spammers, scammers & the like during the short time you've been on here, & it's almost-certainly true that all of us "have our defenses on low alert" when we encounter someone new on here. Most people have no way of knowing if someone's from Nevada, New Jersey - or Nigeria. And it's unfortunately necessary for females to be especially on-guard.

Face-to-face is where you can really make an impression, & have your best chance to shine. Not blessed with "Hollywood-style" good looks?? Most aren't, but here's a news flash - they aren't necessary for a good/fulfilling life!! There are women who can look past that, spend a couple minutes reading this thread for proof.

Develop a personality that you're comfortable with.

Learn to banter, & to "talk $#it" with women, without trying to "score". Make a game out of it, have FUN with it.

Learn that if you "strike out" with someone, IT ISN'T IMPORTANT. There are LOTS of others out there, who cares if ONE doesn't like your personality??!? Remember that ALL COMBOS aren't good together (coffee & tuna, anyone??).

And here is probably THE MOST-IMPORTANT tip of all:

BUILD YOUR OWN LIFE while you're waiting to meet that special person!! Do NOT allow yourself to be sucked into the trap of "Oh, I need a woman/man to share their life with me so that I can feel complete as a person!" or "I need someone else to validate me so that I can feel happy!" HORSE$#IT. If you do that, you're doing nothing more than making yourself & your happiness a hostage to that other person's whims - and that's NO way to live!

Travel the world. Get a degree. Become a pilot. And (one thing that I'm doing) take a look at the local MeetUp groups. Whatever the items on your own bucket list are, work towards fulfilling them. If you do that, then not only will you be happier as a person (& thus, probably more attractive - bonus!), but you'll also be more interesting, & probably meet more people - which likely won't hurt.

Just DON'T sit at your computer day after day wondering WHY you can't make any progress finding someone. The I.T. industry has a sarcastic term that fits that situation, the term is:

PEBKAC - Problem Exists Between Keyboard And Chair...

Good luck!!

yes indeed T there is something to be said for old school way of doing things


on one hand online dating opens up the dating pool..into a gigantic potential ocean of fishies to choose from


except...because people are not now not just limited to the singles that live in their town or perhaps the next town over

but can ( in theory) date someone four hours away or in the next state, across the country or in Canada..this gives them this inflated sense of ego if ya will..

or perhaps impatience, shallowness...look at a profile on the surface level only

is he/she hot, good looking, would I 'do' her

then may scan the profile to see if they are available

then they might send a few brief back and forth messages to see
if she is willing to take it to texting, calling and meeting up


but very few..I do mean VERY FEW are here to strike up a long distance ongoing relationship with someone they may never meet

or with someone who comes across as needy, depressed, moody or boring


and I gotta agree if you come across in forums as lonely, depressed, or feeling sorry for yourself that is not exactly the image of the perfect person someone might want to have a relationship with


does it suck being alone? of course no one denies that but...there is a lot to be said for finding things to do with your time that are productive, fulfilling, and positive

Hmmm. Hadn't thought of it as "old school", but I can't argue the point too much either.



OK, that could be - but do you think that that has much of a practical effect??? (I honestly don't know - I mean, I could potentially look at the profile of a woman in England {for example} & see that I theoretically match what she's entered into her profile, but would knowing that boost my ego?? I don't think so, but I don't know.) I guess that different people will respond differently also, so that may be a question without a real answer...




Yep, certainly no shortage of those people on these sites...



Yep, that's what I was referring to in my "practical effect" question.




"...and I gotta agree if you come across in forums {or anywhere else!} as lonely, depressed, or feeling sorry for yourself that is not exactly the image of the perfect person someone might want to have a relationship with"

Fixed that for ya.




My own opinion is that doing that is a MUST - because you just CANNOT base your happiness on the presence/absence/actions of another person. That way lies madness (or at least unhappiness!)

Hey D, I've taken a look at your profile, & here's my own impression:

You're not ugly/unattractive (although that 1st photo - the "Urkel" photo - probably isn't leading off with your best foot, you might want to make that the 3rd or 4th one or so).

As far as the other attributes you list, YES, you're going to be "too young" for some, "too black" for others (and 'just right' for some), etc. etc.

It looks like you probably have a fun personality, although some of the things that you list (i.e. video games & anime) slightly suggest someone who's a little bit more solitary than social. (Not that I can criticize, being a bit of a D&D geek since the '80s...)

Honestly man, I don't think that you have much to be worried about. You come across as literate/intelligent, etc. Just hang in there, & keep after it. Good luck!

22 years and yes I know that even if I looked like one of the worlds top ten sexiest men alive it still wouldn't matter. I say this because I've known guys who look like hell and still manage to get hot women, and I'm telling you it's all about charisma.