I don't want to meet some random for a drunken encounter at the pub. But how else do you meet someone if you don't get out much?

You are basically on a dating site, with thousands of users...and we all are looking for the same dang thing...Don't wait to be picked....pick one yourself....sounds simple enough...NOT...just saying...

You could join a club or randomly start talking to someone.

You will never know unless you get out there and give it s try

Perfectly valid advice...also u could volunteer in the community and make new friends....

Or you can do what we all do...spend countless hours,days and weeks on here and not find anyone

Luckily you did not say "years"...but "here" has too many choices, and it gets harder to decide huh!!! Personally, I am tired of the old hunt and seek....just saying...

Do as many singles do join local groups for singles that do the things you like to do...

If you have friends go places with them...

Learn to get out even by yourself to go eat, movies, see the sites...

Learn to make eye contact smile and say hello to complete strangers, you might be surprised that one might be someone you have ran into on a regular bases and never realized it...

I have met a lot of interesting people for a meet and greet. I would not date because of a number of reasons
I have settled to meet new friends and if that dude comes along I hope my eyes are open. Until then you can never go without friends.

I hope you both do find someone.
This dating this is not as easy as it looks.

I used to meet people a church support meetings. My favorite was DRG. No not drugs, divorce recovery groups. Fun to talk to people. Just don't be a troll. Before forums, that was the place to go meet people who just wanted to talk.

Another is Habitat for Humanity. You learn home building, and you meet people who are handy.

Well good luck .

When I want to meet a woman, I use this.

You start getting out more.


Then don't go to the pub.


Are you "really" asking "I have absolutely no desire to try all that hard, or ever feel uncomfortable to even the smallest degree, I have no desire to change my life in any way whatsoever. I just want someone that will fulfill my life and make me feel like I accomplished the height of relationship perfection, and I want to go somewhere where that is kinda guaranteed, so that I can find it as soon as possible.
Where is that place?"

That place doesn't exist.

Although due to its naming and marketing a lot of people tend to believe online dating is the perfect relationship store they go shop through.

Hello Ann, I would definitely not advise you to meet someone at the pub, for most of them are party people or out going person and probably are just looking for a fling or fun. If you wanna meet a decent and reliable guy, you may meet people in the church, be active in your community , join some club or organizations or meet up your friends and maybe they have friends too that they could introduce to you. Though it's not a guarantee that you will meet someone when you go out much, it will only give you more opportunities ....the probability of meeting someone by chance is higher. Even if you don't go out much you will still have a chance to meet someone only at a smaller percent I met my first bf at home, he was a friend of my brother. I was a homebody before but if it's really meant to be that you are going to encounter someone , it will just happen. But there's nothing wrong with going out more to widen your acquaintances, and someone special might come along....just go out and enjoy your life and somebody will surely notice you in the long run. Goodluck!:) Happy Valentine's Day!:) oh, by the way I met a special guy too during Valentine's day before when my sister and friends went out to celebrate at a disco pub and we didn't have a table anymore. Fortunately, an acquaintance of my sister's friend had a table and was alone, he shared his table to us. The rest was history, I had a chance to find love from that moment

Lol..steinlager and steak would probably work better here. It's scary trying to meet someone at my age

Thanks for the advice mate

Still trying to get the hang of this online thing lol. It's kinda weird

That's sad news for me lol

Lol that's crack up

Personally I'd make a list of things that I'd want partner to do outside the house with me. If that means you'd like a partner to go to that mew romantic comedy with you. Or a partner to go swing dancing with, or even a partner who you could discuss the new novel you're reading....make a list of activities that you'd like for your future partner to participate in with you.....make sure these are things you enjoy as well!

After you have your list do a little research see if there are any groups that participate in these activities in/around your location. Then try joining them.

The benefit to this is that if you meet a guy at one of these. ..you already have something in common, it gives you a reason to talk to him etc. ..on the other hand if you don't meet a guy you will soon realize that sometimes single isn't all that bad. ...and you'll start having fun. Once that happens more guys will be drawn to you...guaranteed

There are los of places to meet others. Church, AA meeting, pumpkin patch....during the right time of season......

keep offering steak and lager, eventually someone will resist :)

good luck