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What mistakes did you make on a date?
Share so that others can avoid them. I'll start off: I went out on a date with someone I met through a singles ad (do they still have them?). Anyway we met at a restaurant that I've never been to before. I picked it because it was close and I didn't have a car at the time. I had failed to check it out before hand. The food was good. But in each corner of the seating area, there was a TV. While she was talking, I would get distracted by something on the screen over her left shoulder. Do I really have to say how wrong that was? Obviously, it was a last, first date. I've learned my lesson. If there is a TV on the wall, I'll either have it behind me, to one side of me or sit as far away from it as I can. Anyone else want to share? |
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What mistakes did you make on a date? Feels like all of them. Share so that others can avoid them. That could very well hamper people from actually learning from them, taking the lesson to heart. Not to mention, there's no guarantee that a mistake you make isn't what actually endears you to someone. Do I really have to say how wrong that was? Obviously, it was a last, first date. But just as easily she could have noticed you looking, and said "hell yeah! They're my team. Screw this uncomfortable dinner crap. Let's grab some wings, get drunk, and get loud. If your boys beat mine I'll go out with you again." While she was talking, I would get distracted by something on the screen over her left shoulder. If there is a TV on the wall, I'll either have it behind me, to one side of me or sit as far away from it as I can. You could also make the argument that you're trying to avoid being yourself. |
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Edited by
Twintidbits24
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Wed 04/20/16 12:56 AM
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What mistakes did you make on a date? Share so that others can avoid them. I'll start off: I went out on a date with someone I met through a singles ad (do they still have them?). Anyway we met at a restaurant that I've never been to before. I picked it because it was close and I didn't have a car at the time. I had failed to check it out before hand. The food was good. But in each corner of the seating area, there was a TV. While she was talking, I would get distracted by something on the screen over her left shoulder. Do I really have to say how wrong that was? Obviously, it was a last, first date. I've learned my lesson. If there is a TV on the wall, I'll either have it behind me, to one side of me or sit as far away from it as I can. Anyone else want to share? I'm just wondering...Is that the only restaurant there is in that place?? If you've seen that the environment was not cool, you could have politely asked her to transfer to a better place where you think you can just focus on each other and have a meaningful conversation...and also for the other party, she could have given you another chance if she feels something for you but if she didn't gave you that chance then it means she does not really like you at all... 
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I HAVE MADE THEM ALL... THE BIGGEST PROBLEM I HAVE IS NOT BEING ABLE TO READ
MINDS.....ALL THE STUFF IN OTHER PERSONS MIND THEY MADE IT UP... ITS THERE SELF MADE REALITY...........KNOWING THE GENERAL BEHAVIOR AND THINKING OF THE OTHER IS A BIG START...NO GUARANTEES THOUGH..... |
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Too bad about being distracted by a TV.
My mistake? Talking too much about myself and not so much about my date.! I learned that one the hard way. |
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My eyes wander if there is a pretty girl near, or walking by... I don't mean anything by it, I just enjoy looking at beautiful women.
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WEll this is really going to put me in a bad light..Years ago
When I wasn't looking for anything but Casual dating the kind where you do the meet and greet and if you enjoyed the company you might date farther.. Well this one guy I was "really really interested in.. And I did work a bit harder to get the meet and greet with him. Things where going well til he started asking things about his profile and I called him the wrong username and went on and on how I like the username and what he had in the profile.. WRONG guy...  I had the names and people mixed up to make it worse... I live in a small area and they knew one another. so lost out all the way around. That kind of took care of me doing a lot of meet and greets for years.. One at a time... |
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Well, the worst date I ever had started with the worst mistake I made......I agreed to said date.
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Edited by
Rock
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Wed 04/20/16 07:17 PM
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I've considered my picker broken
for the last couple of years. |
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OOOOOaaaawwwwch!!!! I didn't do THAT on a date, but I did it with friends.
I'm terrible with names in general. Mainly in so-called real life, I mentally record everyone with face images, rather than audible labels, so I always recognize people, but can occasionally stumble over names, even of my relatives. Just a quirk of my neurons, I guess. But one time, I was at a gathering and trying hard to be the good host, introducing everyone all around, and for almost the entire day, I was introducing one of my coworkers as "Jim" to everyone. Finally, after it was waaaay too late, another friend took me aside, and reminded me that the guy's name was actually Tom. Not as bad, I know, but similar. And I've been the one BEING misremembered too. That's embarrassing too, since when it has happened, I had to eventually admit that NONE of the praise I had been receiving was deserved. At least you didn't go into a diatribe about how horrible the guy (who you were actually talking TO, thinking he was someone else) was. I've managed to embarrass myself repeatedly over the years in various ways. Nothing dramatic, but seemingly never ending. Most recently, I went on a Meet and Greet, and didn't realize until I got home (things didn't go well) that I had managed to grab the suit jacket from my closet with the back seam of one of the sleeves split open. I must have looked like a lunatic or a nutcase. |
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I go on first dates and don't talk enough. I try to think of good questions to ask. I'm usually too nervous. A date I went on in my early 20's said to me that he didn't think I liked him because I didn't talk much. Oh well.
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OOOOOaaaawwwwch!!!! I didn't do THAT on a date, but I did it with friends. I'm terrible with names in general. Mainly in so-called real life, I mentally record everyone with face images, rather than audible labels, so I always recognize people, but can occasionally stumble over names, even of my relatives. Just a quirk of my neurons, I guess. But one time, I was at a gathering and trying hard to be the good host, introducing everyone all around, and for almost the entire day, I was introducing one of my coworkers as "Jim" to everyone. Finally, after it was waaaay too late, another friend took me aside, and reminded me that the guy's name was actually Tom. Not as bad, I know, but similar. And I've been the one BEING misremembered too. That's embarrassing too, since when it has happened, I had to eventually admit that NONE of the praise I had been receiving was deserved. At least you didn't go into a diatribe about how horrible the guy (who you were actually talking TO, thinking he was someone else) was. I've managed to embarrass myself repeatedly over the years in various ways. Nothing dramatic, but seemingly never ending. Most recently, I went on a Meet and Greet, and didn't realize until I got home (things didn't go well) that I had managed to grab the suit jacket from my closet with the back seam of one of the sleeves split open. I must have looked like a lunatic or a nutcase. 
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it's normal to be shy on your first date
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it's normal to be shy on your first date I've never had a shy day in my life :-) So, I have been on dates where you could not work a word in edgewise, they talked 100 miles an hour (with gusts up to 150.) I would open my mouth to reply to something but before I could speak they were off again. I have also dated the speechless. Where they just sit and stare at you, you have no idea what they are thinking, geez man, look away. Can't say I made any mistakes as I didn't do seconds. |
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WEll this is really going to put me in a bad light..Years ago When I wasn't looking for anything but Casual dating the kind where you do the meet and greet and if you enjoyed the company you might date farther.. Well this one guy I was "really really interested in.. And I did work a bit harder to get the meet and greet with him. Things where going well til he started asking things about his profile and I called him the wrong username and went on and on how I like the username and what he had in the profile.. WRONG guy... I had the names and people mixed up to make it worse... I live in a small area and they knew one another. so lost out all the way around. That kind of took care of me doing a lot of meet and greets for years.. One at a time... Sorry Rains I shouldn't laugh but this made me. I wish I'd have been a fly on the wall 
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Edited by
Mary_Malone
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Thu 04/21/16 11:24 AM
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I don't anymore, but for years, I suffered from Irritable Bowel Syndrome, and when a woman is on her period, it makes the symptoms even worse. I didn't tell him about my IBS. I could feel my stomach turning. He let me use his toilet. I remember putting a small bottle of Pepsi in my bag, so I drank some, while sat on the toilet to "help it along".
. It almost turned out like the bathroom scene in 'Along Came Polly'. Thankgod it didn't. Except, when my boyfriend at the time asked "Why is there a bottle of Pepsi in my bathroom? And have you been bleeding?". Oh bother. Even though I flushed his toilet, there must have been a bit of blood on the toilet bowl. You can't win.
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WEll this is really going to put me in a bad light..Years ago When I wasn't looking for anything but Casual dating the kind where you do the meet and greet and if you enjoyed the company you might date farther.. Well this one guy I was "really really interested in.. And I did work a bit harder to get the meet and greet with him. Things where going well til he started asking things about his profile and I called him the wrong username and went on and on how I like the username and what he had in the profile.. WRONG guy... I had the names and people mixed up to make it worse... I live in a small area and they knew one another. so lost out all the way around. That kind of took care of me doing a lot of meet and greets for years.. One at a time... Sorry Rains I shouldn't laugh but this made me. I wish I'd have been a fly on the wall I laugh about it all the time. That was back in I think 08 or early 09 I can't remember what I do remember is feeling like an idiot and I learned a valuable lesson from it Giggle snicker... 
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WEll this is really going to put me in a bad light..Years ago When I wasn't looking for anything but Casual dating the kind where you do the meet and greet and if you enjoyed the company you might date farther.. Well this one guy I was "really really interested in.. And I did work a bit harder to get the meet and greet with him. Things where going well til he started asking things about his profile and I called him the wrong username and went on and on how I like the username and what he had in the profile.. WRONG guy... I had the names and people mixed up to make it worse... I live in a small area and they knew one another. so lost out all the way around. That kind of took care of me doing a lot of meet and greets for years.. One at a time... Sorry Rains I shouldn't laugh but this made me. I wish I'd have been a fly on the wall I laugh about it all the time. That was back in I think 08 or early 09 I can't remember what I do remember is feeling like an idiot and I learned a valuable lesson from it Giggle snicker... Early 08. I remember hearing about it. 
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