But in the SINGLE WORLD, at what point do you find flirting overbearing , excessive, or sleazy/slutty?

Does the person's attractiveness affect how receptive you are to their flirting

In my experience, flirting is never a good thing, it only means that someone wants something from me like money, labor, or answers to the homework that's due in an hour. If there was any other flirting that has been directed at me in the past I was ether not aware of it or to stupid to figure it out.

When it doesn't lead to anything but I feel it should, and most especially if it is meant to lead somewhere I don't want to go.

Other than that, it's a point completely subjective to me.


Yes.
But so does whole life situation.
Regardless of their level of attraction I will react differently between:
- someone I work with.
- some random stranger on the internet.
- a first date.
- a 10th, 20th, whatever date.
- the first time we have sex.


Where and when matter just as much as who, how, and why, when the "what" is "flirting."

Flirting can be so much fun, whether by words or gestures.

But in the SINGLE WORLD, at what point do you find flirting overbearing , excessive, or sleazy/slutty?

Does the person's attractiveness affect how receptive you are to their flirting or is it the delivery of the flirt that counts more than the person's looks?

I guess I didn't really answer your question, Peggy...

So I think we all want whomever is flirting with us to be someone we are attracted to. Generally, no one likes getting affection/attention from someone we're not interested in because we don't want to hurt the other person. (There are, of course, those that will take it and run with it and don't care if the other person gets hurt in the process.) But I think on the whole, most people want it from someone they find attractive as well.

As for me, I don't care what kind of flirting I receive - mild, obvious, sleazy/slutty, whatever - it's supposed to be in good fun. And it tells me what type of the person they are by how they flirt. And I like learning about others. And delivery can overcome any instant physical attraction or lack thereof.

As for me flirting... historically, women run when they find out I'm interested in them. So my style of flirting has been reduced to something that is awkward and not even noticeable at times which leaves me coming across as charming, considerate, and polite (which usually friend-zones me). lol

The last time I flirted with someone, I think I did it, without even realizing. I wanted to say something, anything, to break an awkward silence, because I was the new girl living in the group home, so I was looking for something witty to say. My mouth suddenly ran away with me. I ended up shouting to a housemate on the other table, "I HOPE YOU STILL LOVE ME, STEPHEN!". Everyone burst out laughing. Thankgod. When I look back, it WAS flirtatious, but not in a devious sense. I started a joke, and now I'm going to have to live with it. . Even though I never meant to flirt, Stephen then got up from his seat, putting his arms right around me, and said "Of course I love YOU. I always will", while wearing a massive grin on his face. I can't have done bad, for my first day of living there. Ha ha.

Flirting can be so much fun, whether by words or gestures.

But in the SINGLE WORLD, at what point do you find flirting overbearing , excessive, or sleazy/slutty?

Does the person's attractiveness affect how receptive you are to their flirting or is it the delivery of the flirt that counts more than the person's looks?

Actually I am not good at flirting and I am not good at seeing when someone is flirting with me.

So a guy could be flirting like crazy with me and I most likely would miss it.

Does someone attractiveness mean much..
I am not sure because one of the greatest things I find "attractive is that he is comfortable in his own skin"

I do not flirt much these days, and I am thinking it has more to do with the fact that flirting can lead to trouble. I keep things friendly but if I feel that she may be thinking there is more to it then I back off.

Hi Peggy
In my last short relationship, on the first date he wanted call me his "baby girl". I found that odd on first date, too possessive, I didnt care for it really, if he was trying to flirt by complimenting me over and over, it got old already!enough is enough! excessive! I like chivalrous flirting, looking into each others eyes, smiling, maybe grabbing their hand across the dinner table.
And yes their attractiveness and charm does affect how receptive I am to their effort, even more so with a good delivery of it.

Friendly and approachable can often be misinterpreted as flirting .. As can paying compliments . When does communication especially online cross the line into flirting .. If I said to a man ..

You are a gorgeous .. . Am I flirting or paying him a compliment .


If I said to the same man .. Mmmmm you are gorgeous .. am I flirting or still just paying him a compliment .

Perception is a large part of flirting and as Tom said context and attraction are important considerations .

Well there are different levels of flirting Blue

I'm sure you have seen flirtatious banter going on in the forum from both males and females when there is nothing to be gained beyond the gratification of the moment.

So I think your answer to my question is that flirting becomes sleazy when the person is only doing it to get a service in return, which I fully agree with.

hi peggy .. i was referring more to online in the forums where it can be difficult to convey body language and sometimes tone is misunderstood .

in person .. Flirting is generally easier to read .. . Although there are probably exceptions .. Laughing .