what will you do if the family doesn't want you to marry your gf/bf?

I live in the Netherlands. Apart from very religious ppl, parents hardly ever have any say in whom their child marries. And that's how it should be.
Parents should mind their own business. They can speak up about their child's partner if they have very good reason to. But you don't have to agree with your child's choices in life. You just have to accept them.
An adult child often doesn't agree with yours either. And that's also okay. Adults should have the right and freedom to choose as they see fit.
Parents should learn to let go and trust they raised their child to make the right choices.

what would i do? not worry about it... you're not marrying them, you're marrying the person you love...

Well I would give them the respect they deserve and listen to their reasons then I would tell them. While I love and respect your opinions I am still going to do that but "marry" is a huge word in my book and not so sure I will ever do that one again.

Have a smaller wedding.

Charge them to see their grandkids... Lol

its really hard to see whats going in a relationship when your in it. its much

easier for some one out side the relationship to be more objective however it

has to pass through there filters first so its not 100%. we invest so much of

our selves in our children and want the best for them, the connection to be

totally candid with them has to be made while there very young....even then

they are looking for a emotional match,,its really important for parents to

have a healthy honest emotional connection with there kids before puberty so

hey will make better choices and we can rest easy and not worry about them...

Depends on how my potential fiancee feels about it and figure things out with her.

SOUNDS GOOD TO ME...''IF MAMA AIN'T HAPPY THEN NOBODY'S HAPPY'' SOME TIMES WE

FORGET THEY ARE THE PRIZE....

Ohh.. I always look up into my Lover's Eyes and ask her for permission right before I go down..ohhhh!@..oops...
That's not what this topic is about is it..?
I really need to read topics better..sorry..

Throw rocks at them.

I remember asking my then gf's father if I could marry her, it took me 3 days to find the right moment. He just said.. yeah, that's ok and went back to what he was doing...Phew!

A very good question. I am not sure what I would do to be honest.

I have never been in that situation.

Sorry no help from me

Lol... I always love your answers!

Marry her, then ask for their forgiveness..