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On topics such as this, I am normally the first to comment. And the post somehow gets deleted. I would like to lead with a question involving my lucky number 69, but I end up with 666...sign of the devil...Most women, somehow, like the I am a devil reference....and so the conversation begins....women?? Having a wicked and witty way of opening a conversations is great! And it suits you. Did not see you as a man who'd say "Hi dear. Can we be friends?" Oh my ... getting naughty here! *somebody bring me a fan, temperature's suddenly gone up!* Oh hang on a sec ... I haven't got WB in my profile... I guess I'm safe. How boring! Ooops...sorry did not realize I was being naughty.....and a fan was suddenly required...what if I was close by.....lol...Boring would not make an appearence huh??? Highly unlikely! I like it when a man can keep up! Mentally of course. Keep up, mentally...huh....can do that and more....though mental pictures do tend to get more vivid as time goes by, making it harder...if you clue in.... |
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I still never get how men think... Do I care? That's pretty much what you're saying with your first line. No, this is what YOU are saying. Don't blend words together that I didn't say because it suits you. If you don't get something...wouldn't you want as much information as possible in order to figure something out? Correct, but it's not about something I don't get ... read please before you judge But you're saying you don't want information and don't care about the information you are actually presented. What do you think that means?Read before you judge and don't rip my words out of context. It's informing me, not conversing with me All conversations require some kind of informing process. "Look at that guy, can you believe that?" "Can you believe that?" sure, but if you inform about things about YOU that are totally irrelevant at that moment, don't expect to get interest. One is informing you of something you may not be aware of...and starting a conversation. The other is just a vague pointless question which allows you to have all sorts of conversations in your head like "wtf are they talking about, and why me?" What's that got to do with my question? Can you stay on topic? And maybe read what I was asking about instead of having a field day with your analysis that doesn't make sense. Or play some CoD if you're having a bad hair day. Might work better. Would you do that in real life too if you'd see a lady of interest? Real life is not the internet. You can't start conversations online the same way you do offline. Really? I don't see much difference in how you start a conversation to be honest. You aren't in a dynamic environment where you can rely on gestures and tone and body language.Which makes it even more important to not come up with some total BS opening line. You have to provide some kind of context. Not to mention, in real life you don't have to rely so much on conversation and words. People figure out very quickly if they want the most basic approach to lead to anything more than the other person just going away, and most of that decision is not based on what comes out of the mouth. So you saying in RL you can get away with crap opening lines like the ones I was getting at in my OP? I think not ... I would bet anything if in real life you said "hello" to someone and they could just kinda disappear and not respond at all in any way whatsoever leaving absolutely no clue, literally just transported away like in Star Trek as soon as you said a single word to them, people would start putting out as much information as possible before that happened. Online people have the option of just saying nothing. No wry looks, no sighs, no running away, no rolling of the eyes, no cold shoulder, no "I've got to go now." Just absolutely nothing with absolutely no meaning is not possible offline. Other than that, look at this thread. You "could" have simply typed: "how you approach women?" With nothing else. But you chose to "inform" the relevance and context of the question, you filled in what you felt was relevant information. Specialized to the situation. A forum which some people use for discussion of specific topics. Do yo really not know what the heck to say to a woman to start a conversation? Based on recent and numerous general forums it seems there's no way to actually start a conversation with a woman online unless you can read her mind through the internet. no, not if you are -judgemental -copy & paste a woman's words in a way that suits you and rip them out of context -don't read what a woman is saying -don't read what a woman is asking about -don't seem to get what a woman is asking about -come up with crap opening lines, and don't even acknowledge they're crap because of 'gender - loyalty' -jump to the defense of your fellow males at the expense of women ... ... gender bashing is so unattractive! Maybe spend as much time thinking as to why you need to do that as you've spent on typing this post? |
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On topics such as this, I am normally the first to comment. And the post somehow gets deleted. I would like to lead with a question involving my lucky number 69, but I end up with 666...sign of the devil...Most women, somehow, like the I am a devil reference....and so the conversation begins....women?? Having a wicked and witty way of opening a conversations is great! And it suits you. Did not see you as a man who'd say "Hi dear. Can we be friends?" Oh my ... getting naughty here! *somebody bring me a fan, temperature's suddenly gone up!* Oh hang on a sec ... I haven't got WB in my profile... I guess I'm safe. How boring! Ooops...sorry did not realize I was being naughty.....and a fan was suddenly required...what if I was close by.....lol...Boring would not make an appearence huh??? Highly unlikely! I like it when a man can keep up! Mentally of course. Keep up, mentally...huh....can do that and more....though mental pictures do tend to get more vivid as time goes by, making it harder...if you clue in.... Vivid mental pictures ... so you're a visual person ... Best leave the lights on then! |
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I get my eye on the girl I am looking at, hit the dance floor, and then break it down. Once she is mesmerized with how goofy I look on the floor, she almost always buys me a drink. After that....we go and chat while playing Mini Golf. Works every time.....66% of the time.  So you're into pity-dates? Works 66% of the time ... but it'll never get you at the altar again! Oh, you don't want that thou sayest? No need to start swearing, bloody 'ell!  Well she would be taking pity on me. 
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On topics such as this, I am normally the first to comment. And the post somehow gets deleted. I would like to lead with a question involving my lucky number 69, but I end up with 666...sign of the devil...Most women, somehow, like the I am a devil reference....and so the conversation begins....women?? Having a wicked and witty way of opening a conversations is great! And it suits you. Did not see you as a man who'd say "Hi dear. Can we be friends?" Oh my ... getting naughty here! *somebody bring me a fan, temperature's suddenly gone up!* Oh hang on a sec ... I haven't got WB in my profile... I guess I'm safe. How boring! Ooops...sorry did not realize I was being naughty.....and a fan was suddenly required...what if I was close by.....lol...Boring would not make an appearence huh??? Highly unlikely! I like it when a man can keep up! Mentally of course. Keep up, mentally...huh....can do that and more....though mental pictures do tend to get more vivid as time goes by, making it harder...if you clue in.... Vivid mental pictures ... so you're a visual person ... Best leave the lights on then! Thanks...the lights never go off....nuff said.. |
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I chose to read this post because #1 it is current and #2 it is something I think about every time I look at a profile or message.
The following is my opinion, there are no rights or wrongs just what you personally think. First I would say a profile first line and a message first line are totally different. And life online and real world are different. Online there are SO many people, I want to know what is important immediately. In a PROFILE, I don't think you can give TMI. I mean obviously don't give financial information unless you are asking to be ripped off, but interests, hobbies and yes, your work are very important. They let the reader know if you have something they value, are interested in, to connect to. They are conversation openers. In a MESSAGE, I want to see something, anything that proves you read MY profile and found something that was of interest to you. The "hi beautiful" "let's have a drink/chat" look like and usually are bulk emails from spammers. What I have learned so far from this post/ thread is that people are definitely different and have different expectations from a dating site. Some apparently only come for the forums as they have no profile filled out and their mail feature set to prevent anyone from contacting them. Others are very comfortable carrying on flirtations in public on one hand while bashing someone on the other... And most simply read what others have written and refrain from commenting for an even broader number of reasons I am sure (but for me the main one was I do not desire to be scathingly bashed- even by people I do not know and who do not know me). I have concluded (and I may be accused of being wrong) that you CAN learn about a person's character by just staying silent and reading, but I personally prefer private honest conversations with some with mutual interests or beliefs when I am trying to make friends. Online friends can be of either gender so discrimination in mail settings can be a hindrance. But in a "dating situation" I would definitely stick to opposites attract gender wise. |
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My opening line that always works..
Excuse Me Miss! But does this cloth smell like chloroform to you... Yup.. works every time..lol |
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I don't have one yet ....i guess that why I do' t get respond...but what the hack...is worth to try...
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All I ever get is 20 or 30 year old widows who want to start a family so I open with "do you have any nude pics to share"
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Works everytime they never write back.
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I still never get how men think it's interesting to start a FIRST conversation (online) by telling her their entire resume. Unless it includes their police record, I'm not interested.   "Always The best looking woman in a police line-up..." or, I'm kind of gal that your Mom never warned you about; she didn't possess That Kind Of Imagination 
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