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| Topic: If you found 'The One' what do you want and fear the most? | |
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I'd like to start with a little about me in case anyone does read this they'll have a little understanding as to why I'm posting this.
I'm a very private person. Shy with men and I'm too embarrassed to admit how long it's been since my last relationship. Yes, I got my heart broken and decided love wasn't worth the heartache. Of course I was mistaken and the broken heart mended a long time ago. Now I'm ready to get back out there and hopefully find 'The One'. At least I think I am. My question is if you found that one special person and both of you feel the same, what do you hope that person will be like? And, what's your biggest fear? Personally I hope he's very confident and at least somewhat persistent because I worry I'll grow a yellow streak down my back and head for the hills! I can't help but believe if he's confident and persistent enough that he'll not give up on me easily. And, I love a confident man! I find that to be extremely attractive. I hope I'm not stepping on any toes by joining in this forum while still a newby here. I've participated in business forums but this is the first of a personal nature. I'd really like to know how others that are searching for someone too think and feel. |
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I hope the one i wind up with is Kind. That is my number one I think. As for fear...I am reckless and dont invest in fear unfortunately. At least not about finding a partner. I swoon and gush uncontrollably. You know what? It's kind of sad that kindness isn't a given and if you do find your one I hope they are. As for the no fear? I'm a little envious! |
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Edited by
Seakolony
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Sat 08/06/16 09:03 PM
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Gentle loving caring smart understands my weaknesses and my strengths enjoys and respects nature.
I fear addictions esp alcohol and drugs because it has ruined my relationships. I fear having my life savings stolen again once I have it rebuilt again. |
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I have to be honest, til recently I didn't even know I had a type..
But here it is.. Kind, smart, integrity, funny ethical... Warm, leads by example... Makes me feel like a huge part of his world revolves around me. Those are just a few.. Fear I dont' have any, I look at each step in the journey of life as an adventure and it is up to me to enjoy it. Even the aches and pains along the way. Welcome to the forums |
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I have mentioned this on my thread before.
and I'll say it once more  acceptance and genuine love from 'the one' I love with no boundaries and probably the only fear that I may have is by not growing old together 
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Welcome to the forums!
Hope ... that he complements me. Cos that's a deal breaker. I don't fill in details of that. Fear ... still got some old fears. Trust is a big one. Esp need to know he won't dump me when we hit a bump in the road. That's the biggest one for me I think. So in that sense I need to know, feels, sense in my core that he really wants me, wants to be with me. Within reason. Because I have my part & responsibility in this too. Like not claiming him, smothering him, latching on to him out of fear. My head and ratio know this, can do this, can handle it. Yet my heart (and ego?) are still at odds with it. I'll get there. But it'll take some work and time. And the right man. |
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My question is if you found that one special person and both of you feel the same, what do you hope that person will be like? And, what's your biggest fear? Hope he's loving, patient, honest, faithful, trustworthy, and dedicated. My biggest fear.. losing him |
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If she is the one for me, I would expect her to treat me like a king, rather than a slave.Because I certainly will treat her like a queen.
But to get to that stage, I would wanna be friends with her before anything else, A relationship built on a solid base of friendship is what attracts me. I have no fear except fear itself, but with love and understanding, I hope having found her, she will be my forever gal... welcome to the forums...never mind those toes....and treat these forums like a business venture.....finding love and romance is a serious business....with a few laughs thrown in.....just saying... |
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I'd like to start with a little about me in case anyone does read this they'll have a little understanding as to why I'm posting this. I'm a very private person. Shy with men and I'm too embarrassed to admit how long it's been since my last relationship. Yes, I got my heart broken and decided love wasn't worth the heartache. Of course I was mistaken and the broken heart mended a long time ago. Now I'm ready to get back out there and hopefully find 'The One'. At least I think I am. My question is if you found that one special person and both of you feel the same, what do you hope that person will be like? And, what's your biggest fear? Personally I hope he's very confident and at least somewhat persistent because I worry I'll grow a yellow streak down my back and head for the hills! I can't help but believe if he's confident and persistent enough that he'll not give up on me easily. And, I love a confident man! I find that to be extremely attractive. I hope I'm not stepping on any toes by joining in this forum while still a newby here. I've participated in business forums but this is the first of a personal nature. I'd really like to know how others that are searching for someone too think and feel. I believe in being open and up front.. the ONE for ME is able to talk about and express his feelings and is not afraid to say what he wants.. because that is what I do... This guy may be shy and reserved...but by conversation, including asking questions..hopefully the borders/walls slowly come down where openness and honesty prevail and ya get to know each other on a deeper level.. becoming friends and lover and sharing experiences. |
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Your pretty
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I really don't try to find something in a man, for what is important is i love him for what he is. As long as I know that he is serious and could make me feel secure in his love, someone whose very open as I am, who will not be afraid to share his innermost thoughts, his fears and dreams with me. Someone i could rely on and will never leave me when we are in a rocky boat, one who will understand and accept me as I am and not be afraid to handle my sensitivity and fear of losing him for I feel deeper when I'm in love and I get overwhelmed by my strong and deep emotions.
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welcome to the forums...never mind those toes....and treat these forums like a business venture.....finding love and romance is a serious business....with a few laughs thrown in.....just saying... I certainly agree on this, but sad for some when they just take it for granted and think it is just an easy peasy thing and worse it is just for fun's sake...Well it is a serious business and one should carefully choose your prospects just like when you're seeking for employment and when you're in, do your best to show what you can do for the person and try to know more about him or her as quickly as you can so you both wouldn't waste too much time investing on each other and one day come to realize you're both not on the same platform.... |
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I have yet to find "the one"! I don't think she exists on this or any world! Show me the one who is to be mine and then I'll change my mind.
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I have some very high and thick walls built around me. My biggest fear is I will never find the door and let someone in.
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I understand what you mean. I have been hurt several times and finally seems my heart has chosen to guard itself. Each time the new man does something the ex did then which I didn't pay attention to then the heart is so quick to point it out. And once they get close, I withdraw without noticing... Its so hard for me to accept that not everyone would be a complete jerk just because several had been so to me.
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I have some very high and thick walls built around me. My biggest fear is I will never find the door and let someone in. This is a very good description of a common problem. |
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I think I have found 'the one' but my greatest fears are my own insecurities. He's never given me reason to doubt him yet I do. One day I'll suspect he's seeing someone else and the next day, I know it's not true. I don't know how to get over this. I've been hurt before by cheating and can't seem to shake the feeling that it will happen again.
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If I found the ONE, then I would have nothing to fear
I want it to last forever 
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I think I have found 'the one' but my greatest fears are my own insecurities. He's never given me reason to doubt him yet I do. One day I'll suspect he's seeing someone else and the next day, I know it's not true. I don't know how to get over this. I've been hurt before by cheating and can't seem to shake the feeling that it will happen again. |
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Edited by
BreakingGood
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Mon 08/15/16 05:17 PM
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while still a newby here I've always hated that label. I'm sure you have had more experiences then many on this site. You are participating in the forums and are a welcomed addition. Just because others were here before you does NOT make them more valuable. I fear that I might actually find the "one." I'm so happily single that it would really screw me up to change my life a round to become part of a couple again. I want the "one" to be more persistent then I am IF she really is the "one".
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