What does this mean?

I see so many profiles with : "I don't like playing games. Looking for woman for marriage,,,etc,,,"

It always turns me away because I think of someone whose intention is primarily marriage, like looking through a mail order bride catalog but with more detail in it or something.


My priority is to communicate with other adults, and possibly make or meet some that I can call friend and that seems like a high enough bar in itself. I am not 'seeking' marriage but not opposed to it with the right person, but it starts at making friends.

Am I reading too much into it? When you guys (and I imagine gals, though I don't browse their profiles) post these things in your profiles,, do you basically mean that you are on a dating site only seeking to find a wife(or husband)?

For me when I see that from a woman, its a turn off.

Not that she is looking for a husband, that's fine.. for her. But I would feel pressured right off the bat because I don't know if the relationship would reach that point or not. It may, but I would feel kind of pressured. So I wouldn't respond to that, I would leave that to men who had the same type of goal.

I don't even want to [chat with someone
who says that on their profile..single or not.

Too scary.
Like walking into a grocery tore and expecting
the whole meal in the first aisle.
Shudder.

<<<chuckling>>>

People express themselves in so many weird mysterious ways.

When I see it I just think "Needy Baby, Greedy Baby" and move on.

Its like the ones that put that they are looking for love, soul mate or "The Last Love Of Their Life". hahaha

Ohh, me...Pick Me...ooh ooh!

Oh, well, I see that you like to laugh and you are not looking for an intimate encounter so we must be meant for each other.
(Then their picture is with a frown or a sad face wearing a bikini)

Maybe they are trying to show they aren't afraid of commitment. Or stating what they're hoping for as an end result.

I know for me I started with dating because I wanted to date men in my area. But eventually I would like to be in a relationship so I changed it to relationship to show that I am open to that. Today I changed it to friendship because that's what I want in the here and now.

As far as my reaction when I read that they are interested in marriage...I am hesitant to respond, mostly because I am not interested in that right now. If I do respond, I am honest about that and state that I only want to be friends...especially if they are long distant.

I've got a little bit of a different way of looking at this. I've seen a lot of dishonesty on both sides. Men and women who say they are looking for marriage or a long time commitment. When in reality, they are just saying that hoping it will attract someone. Some men will say that just because they think it might get them laid. Some women will say it when in reality that's far from what they really want.

I have caught some women myself saying they are wanting marriage or long term commitment. When in reality all they really want is 6 months to maybe a year of hot sex with a man. Until she gets tired of him and ready for him to leave. I've seen a lot out of men and women. But I will leave it there.

Turn off. Even though I am not opposed to it either. But someone who states that, bit too desperate. Or looking for a greencard maybe?

can I have u

Although not intended, it sounds contrived and inorganic to me. Instant turn-off.

Although not intended, it sounds contrived and inorganic to me. Instant turn-off.

I think you MIGHT be reading too much into it. Or the wrong thing.

Some mentions of this above, but to sum up:

* they could be sincerely looking for marriage, and say so as a courtesy to the many people who are not.

* they could be looking for "sugar daddies/mommies," and using a claim of sincerity as a disguise.

* they might be immature. Not quite all there, so to speak. Far enough along to have the feeling that they ought to say certain things, even to follow through on them, but without a true understanding of them. I've known plenty of people who married as a part of following a sort of Life Script, rather than because they even really noticed who the other person even WAS.

* they could have copied their profile indirectly from a lot of other profiles ( a LOT of people appear to do this), and put that in there, because a lot of the profiles they read first, had it in there.

* they could be hoping to fend off the many "players" and other less-than-desirables that infest every dating site, and not have enough experience and insight to realize that nothing makes the players and victimizers of the world salivate more, than a proclamation that the person is virulently opposed to players and victimizers. The easiest people to fool, are often the ones who do the most complaining about it.

I'm with you, on mostly being put off by it as well. I myself absolutely want a one and only for as long as I can manage mate. But someone who is intent on marriage enough to write it into the profile like that, makes me suspect that they decide things based on WHAT, rather than WHO. And I've had way too much of that already in my life.

I want someone who wants me, not just a place-holder for their fantasies.

Well all I can say to this topic is ..if you really want it you gotta put a ring on it
Lol

Hell yes, even when there isn't going to be a wedding, or I'm going to be seriously upset. Personal thing of mine maybe, but I still need that.

If MARRIAGE at first site is what you want IN A HURRY,
Then,....That's what IT WILL look like it. ..

SERIOUSLY NOW, why not be GOOD FRIENDS or
FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS FIRST ??...



Or this.

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I am working on buying my new jet and as soon as I do,
I will be there to see ya and be your best friend...
You just wait for me gorgeous, DON'T JUMP from
the saucepan onto a frypan ..Okay ??..I know the feelings.

Speaking of green card.........

Well let me know when that happens, I'll be waiting

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I see I wrote NEW JET...My bad, I MEANT NEW TRACTOR.

Anyway, forget my lies 4 now gorgeous.

Have I wrote on my profile that I AM SPONTANEOUS ??
Well, DON'T PANIC if I change my mind and decide to
come there much much sooner..By Pan Am of-course.
But who cares, I still own a bicycle

You are sweet...I feel like kissing you now.



CIAO BELLA