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Topic: Distance Relationships ?
toutoubarca's photo
Wed 04/05/17 10:18 AM
what's your opinion about Distance Relationships Can be Access Or nope ?

yellowrose10's photo
Wed 04/05/17 10:28 AM
For some....yes
For me....no

Gypsyatheart17's photo
Wed 04/05/17 11:04 AM
I agree with yellowrose that it can work for some but it's definitely not for me. Guess I won't say never but....

I have attempted it twice and they were epic failures. One had lied to me about pertinent matters and he was local and though I wasn't in my home area at the time I was able to verify info easily enough. The other was straightforward with me in the end though we had communicated for some time and were making plans to meet. That is when he relayed to me that he was involved with someone else. Glad I found out BEFORE meeting him some 4 hours away.

Of course trust is the key issue and that can be difficult enough with relationships that are NOT online. We just have to listen to our intuition, our gut feelings and mostly will know when something isn't right hopefully. :wink:

dreamerana's photo
Wed 04/05/17 12:37 PM
At some point a decision will need to be made as to who relocates.
LDR didn't work for me. There are others who started off LDR and are soon to get married. Or are married

THOMOUS's photo
Wed 04/05/17 04:33 PM
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msharmony's photo
Wed 04/05/17 04:35 PM
It can be a challenge, but every relationship can be.

IF both parties are clear on what to expect and IF both parties needs are being met,,, it should not be an issue.

It is important to communicate both what you expect and what can be expected of you so no one is wasting their time.

It is also important to research and plan if there is an intention to change the geography of the relationship. If you have the resources to do so, it should not be a problem. If not, it can bring things to a halt.

PacificStar48's photo
Wed 04/05/17 05:23 PM
If you can't find someone more or less local then you either don't want someone or you probably don't deserve someone in many instances. NOT all

LDR's start out with a lot of strikes against them so even fairly good relationship s collapse under the pressure.

At my age I would rather play the safe hand or live solo

SitkaRains's photo
Wed 04/05/17 06:09 PM

At some point a decision will need to be made as to who relocates.
LDR didn't work for me. There are others who started off LDR and are soon to get married. Or are married

Yes there are some getting married soonbigsmile
LDR'S are tough at times and without a deep connection, and finances,it won't last.

To often what I have seen is ppl. that get into them are caught up in the fantasy of each other than what really is...

So when the moonbeams go away there is nothing to hold it.

PacificStar48's photo
Wed 04/05/17 06:16 PM

At some point a decision will need to be made as to who relocates.
LDR didn't work for me. There are others who started off LDR and are soon to get married. Or are married


I have seen more than a couple of REALLY UGLY divorces when a LDR jumps to marriage before any local time.

SitkaRains's photo
Wed 04/05/17 06:53 PM


At some point a decision will need to be made as to who relocates.
LDR didn't work for me. There are others who started off LDR and are soon to get married. Or are married


I have seen more than a couple of REALLY UGLY divorces when a LDR jumps to marriage before any local time.

Absolutely breath to breath face time is a must in ANY relationship and more than a weekend or week.
Couples have to find out of they can disagree how do they handle it.

Mitcheko86's photo
Wed 04/05/17 07:08 PM
LDR is almost impossible.. But if you both lik each other, communication is constant, it will work. it almost worked for me, till i found out that he's a catfish.. wahaha!! :joy::joy::joy:

BamaGal276's photo
Thu 04/06/17 05:11 PM
For me no

no photo
Thu 04/06/17 05:35 PM
In all my years in forums (10+ well 20+ if you count AOL chat from the mid 90's), I can count on two hands the long distance relationships that have worked out long term. That's less than ten out of many thousands of posters.

Can they work? Yes. Can you hit the lottery? Yes. Can you get struck by lightning? Yes... The odds are certainly not great, but you can tilt them more your way if you approach it the way sitka suggested.

dreamerana's photo
Thu 04/06/17 10:30 PM


At some point a decision will need to be made as to who relocates.
LDR didn't work for me. There are others who started off LDR and are soon to get married. Or are married

Yes there are some getting married soonbigsmile
LDR'S are tough at times and without a deep connection, and finances,it won't last.

To often what I have seen is ppl. that get into them are caught up in the fantasy of each other than what really is...

So when the moonbeams go away there is nothing to hold it.


You're exactly who i meant when i said some are due to get married soon. drinker flowerforyou

Getting caught up in the fantasy happens in many relationships. Not just LDR.
a relationship is what both make of it.

Relationships whether long distance or not take effort on both parts.

Making it succeed takes patience and always finding common ground.
Like the song about meeting in the middle

singlemom1231's photo
Thu 04/06/17 11:07 PM
well, for me Long distance relationship is a challenge between two partners on how they can handle their status. You just need to trust and respect each one another.

Duttoneer's photo
Fri 04/07/17 02:10 AM

A long distance relationship within your own country is not easy, and outside your own country it is very difficult in my opinion. You need to be prepared to relocate before considering anything else. You can learn a lot about each before you even decide whether or not to meet up, which is good, but until you meet up you don't know if it will go any further. It can be very expensive in time and money spent travelling to see each other, much better to find someone close to your home town if possible, but long distance relationships do work out for some.

Welcome to Mingle2 and good luck in your search.

Hounterr's photo
Fri 04/07/17 02:12 AM
Its really painfull

kees202's photo
Fri 04/07/17 06:06 AM
For me i would say even some close distance relationships collapses, all you need and pray for is the right person and distance won't be a barrier

kees202's photo
Fri 04/07/17 06:08 AM


A long distance relationship within your own country is not easy, and outside your own country it is very difficult in my opinion. You need to be prepared to relocate before considering anything else. You can learn a lot about each before you even decide whether or not to meet up, which is good, but until you meet up you don't know if it will go any further. It can be very expensive in time and money spent travelling to see each other, much better to find someone close to your home town if possible, but long distance relationships do work out for some.

Welcome to Mingle2 and good luck in your search.

Nicely said

kees202's photo
Fri 04/07/17 06:10 AM

In all my years in forums (10+ well 20+ if you count AOL chat from the mid 90's), I can count on two hands the long distance relationships that have worked out long term. That's less than ten out of many thousands of posters.

Can they work? Yes. Can you hit the lottery? Yes. Can you get struck by lightning? Yes... The odds are certainly not great, but you can tilt them more your way if you approach it the way sitka suggested.

Rightly said

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