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| Topic: "My Day Sucks Today....What About You?" | |
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ya I know what ya mean
I was raised in a family where showing emotion was a sign of weakness especially in public keep dat sheet hidden hahaha..I have since learned that is not exactly healthy 
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ya I know what ya mean I was raised in a family where showing emotion was a sign of weakness especially in public keep dat sheet hidden hahaha..I have since learned that is not exactly healthy No, it's not. I've learned that too, although sometimes I forget to put into practice or apply the things I have learned.
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You basically described just about everyday of my life a decade ago. It got so bad I didn't know whether to scream, cry, blow something up or shoot meself in the noggin.
Seemed like I woke up on the shiat side of the bed everyday. I checked into sleep apnea, figured maybe I just wasn't getting enough rest. Not the problem. I checked into and adjusted my vitamin intake, helped a lil but not the problem either. This went on, getting progressively worse, till I lost everything. On the edge of suicidal depression I sought profession help. The meds they gave me corrected an imbalance in my brain that allowed me to slow my thinking. Talking with my councilor helped me identify my depression cycle. I got in tune with my head. Now, I can feel those moments coming on and take steps to head off those emotional hurricanes. I eat a balanced meal, meditate before bed and sleep soundly, waking feeling rested. I call it "The Funk" It is an emotional storm that twists different negative emotions into a tangled mess. It seems the harder I try to straighten them out, the worse it gets. If I allow the emotion to exist and figure out what that emotion is tied to I can do something about it. Then I move on to the next one. The Serenity Prayer helps a lot. So does existing in the moment. It also helps to let the emotion flow over you and evaporate. As for a hug - I would hold you and comfort you. I am truly alone, I haven't been touched with compassion in so long I barely remember how it feels. These are the things that work for me. You need to find what works for you. Eat well, sleep well, drink plenty of water and live in the moment. Tomorrow will be another day. |
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You basically described just about everyday of my life a decade ago. It got so bad I didn't know whether to scream, cry, blow something up or shoot meself in the noggin. Seemed like I woke up on the shiat side of the bed everyday. I checked into sleep apnea, figured maybe I just wasn't getting enough rest. Not the problem. I checked into and adjusted my vitamin intake, helped a lil but not the problem either. This went on, getting progressively worse, till I lost everything. On the edge of suicidal depression I sought profession help. The meds they gave me corrected an imbalance in my brain that allowed me to slow my thinking. Talking with my councilor helped me identify my depression cycle. I got in tune with my head. Now, I can feel those moments coming on and take steps to head off those emotional hurricanes. I eat a balanced meal, meditate before bed and sleep soundly, waking feeling rested. I call it "The Funk" It is an emotional storm that twists different negative emotions into a tangled mess. It seems the harder I try to straighten them out, the worse it gets. If I allow the emotion to exist and figure out what that emotion is tied to I can do something about it. Then I move on to the next one. The Serenity Prayer helps a lot. So does existing in the moment. It also helps to let the emotion flow over you and evaporate. As for a hug - I would hold you and comfort you. I am truly alone, I haven't been touched with compassion in so long I barely remember how it feels. These are the things that work for me. You need to find what works for you. Eat well, sleep well, drink plenty of water and live in the moment. Tomorrow will be another day. Thanks Tom, you may not remember how compassion feels, but I would say you are definitely showing it right now. I very much appreciate you for that. You're words have a lot of wisdom. And yes, tomorrow will be another day. Thanks again 
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Edited by
Tom4Uhere
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Fri 06/16/17 08:16 PM
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21 Keys to a Happy Life ~ Source Unknown
http://www.appleseeds.org/21%20Keys.htm Compliment three people everyday. Watch a sunrise. Be the first to say "Hello." Live beneath your means. Treat everyone as you want to be treated. Never give up on anybody; miracles happen. Forget the Jones’s. Remember someone’s name. Pray not for things, but for wisdom and courage. Be tough-minded, but tender hearted. Be kinder than you have to be. Don’t forget that a person’s greatest emotional need is to feel appreciated. Keep your promises. Learn to show cheerfulness even when you don’t feel it. Remember that overnight success usually takes 15 years. Leave everything better than you found it. Remember that winners do what losers don’t want to do. When you arrive at your job in the morning, let the first thing you say brighten everyone’s day. Don’t rain on other people’s parades. Don’t waste an opportunity to tell someone you love them. Keep some things to yourself and don’t promote havoc by backstabbing people you love. Edit to add the source index (lots of good stuff there) http://www.appleseeds.org/spec-idx.htm#Motivation |
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Everybody has their up and down days. But if you are experiencing wide mood swings with little or no apparent cause, seek professional help.
Rose crystals, hugs, knowing pats and hand holdings are nice gestures, but they are not going to help you overcome the root of the problem. |
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Edited by
Unknow
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Fri 06/16/17 09:43 PM
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Aww Pisces, you have had a bad day! !!
I'm not really into the spiritual things so I'm not going to say stand on one leg facing East while eating a pancake humming gently! I'm sure most people are not not aware of just how many rude people are out there but also I'm sure that many people are not aware of when they are being rude! Now as for me, I'd just tell them and if they don't like it then they can swivel But you have to pander to these arrogant people due to work. Just give them the glazed over look and agree, walk away and think really? Americans are so rude, I'm not coming here again  That was a little joke! Just think to yourself that things are not the bad, Just look around at the things that are going on around us! And as for blondey lowering the tone maybe she is right, the people may be having more downs than ups 
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Hello Pisces
  I understand how you feel as I have been experiencing some low moments too with my work colleagues. Just concentrate on your work and show them your best performance and results. Some may envy you still and others will eventually respect you. Continue to just be you. It's okay to be emotional, every individual have different behaviors and different ways of dealing with situations. Crying is not a weakness but a sign of strength. You are brave enough to show people your weakness, you are not afraid or ashamed to admit to yourself that you have vulnerable moments. I read your comments all the time, you are a deep person and I truly admire your kindness, understanding, compassion and wisdom. Continue to openly express your feelings and thoughts here in forum or with whoever you feel comfortable sharing it. Yesterday I was looking for the thread where I could put an article about deep and shallow people....now I found a place to post it here , I hope this could help you understand yourself better as well as give others some thoughts to ponder on https://www.learning-mind.com/shallow-people/ I hope you'll read it and praise yourself for being deep. Give yourself a hug , don't let anyone ruin your day:) I love rose quartz, I used to believe that when you have it with you always , it calms your spirit and attracts love. Be happy you have a good spiritual friend there with you  be grateful for the people who surrounds you with love and who truly understand your deep nature.   
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Me again
Been sitting in the garden since 5.30 am, lovely day. Going to work soon, how about if you have a friend at work maybe just going for a drink or coffee somewhere. just a break from the norm. You have lots of friends on here but it's not the same as real life friends, no offence to the one's on here. People to easily have their lives taken over by virtual friends, all you hear is parents telling kids to make friends and go out. Nothing can replace physical communication and interaction. Just getting away from this and taking in the real world can make a difference. Hope you are better today
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Pisces even though you had a crappy day I'm glad your boss didn't send you home right away.
I have days like that too. The positive thing is you don't let it keep you down. I hope you're feeling better. Send you love and hugs.
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Thank you everyone for your support and kindness. I am on my way to work now but will take time tonight to respond to what you wrote.
Have a wonderful day
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i hope things got better dear
i can totally relate to you. when the same things happen i just wait it out and have a mindset of "all these shall pass". tomorrow always brings a new day take care dear
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I wish I was poetic...I could jot down some words and make things right again. Sometimes a good cry is needed to give us perspective. The rain does stop eventually and the sun will shine.
Without rain and sun the flowers don't bloom. |
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I wish I was poetic...I could jot down some words and make things right again. Sometimes a good cry is needed to give us perspective. The rain does stop eventually and the sun will shine. Without rain and sun the flowers don't bloom. You old softy snoman Nice one
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Edited by
TxsGal3333
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Sat 06/17/17 07:18 AM
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Many go through those same emotions just some you never know they keep it inside thinking it is the right thing to do.. If this is something that has just started lately. Look at eating habits sleeping habits as well go get a check up.. Women and our hormones lawd help us at times...
Not sure if this was brought up or even considered but Menopause if you have gone through it already, at times it still blows our hormones out of the water it seems.. If you have not yet then have that checked it does make the hormones go crazy and cause emotional ups and downs.... Some women have extreme mood swings where others only have mild ones... As many have said letting out your emotions is good for the soul. Ever realized after you have had a good cry how at times you feel as if a weight has lifted? It is due to you have finally realized no matter what you do or how hard you try solving all the problems will not always end the way we want them too... Just do the best you can...and let faith jump in.... Then some days it feels like everything is going wrong had one about a week ago what could go wrong went wrong.. Only thing was I sat back wrote it down and posted it on facebook for a good laugh for really in the end it was all comical... Stress alone can bring on days like that as well... at times just getting away from the situation even for a few minutes can help the soul and mind.... |
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Simply said, Yes. Even as a male, I've had those days of "the Funk" as Tom4U called it.
I feel for ya Pisces, and hope today has been a better day for you.
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For a humorous take on Murphy's Laws Have a look at this site
http://www.murphys-laws.com/murphy/murphy-laws.html again because M2 doesn't like some URL hyperlinks http://www.murphys-laws.com/murphy/murphy-laws.html Just copy and paste. Some outtakes from the site: If anything can go wrong, it will Corollary: It can Corollary: It should MacGillicuddy's Corollary: At the most inopportune time Extension: it will be all your fault, and everyone will know it. Edward A. Murphy, Jr. was one of the engineers on the rocket-sled experiments that were done by the U.S. Air Force in 1949 to test human acceleration tolerances (USAF project MX981). One experiment involved a set of 16 accelerometers mounted to different parts of the subject's body. There were two ways each sensor could be glued to its mount, and somebody methodically installed all 16 the wrong way around. Murphy then made the original form of his pronouncement, which the test subject (Major John Paul Stapp) quoted at a news conference a few days later. Within months `Murphy's Law' had spread to various technical cultures connected to aerospace engineering. Before too many years had gone by variants had passed into the popular imagination, changing as they went. Most of these are variants on "Anything that can go wrong, will"; this is sometimes referred to as Finagle's Law. The nature of the Universe is Chaos. We expect Symmetry and Order. Murphy's Laws point out people's tendency to act thru ignorance, inability or malice that inadvertently change the outcome of a planned event. These laws point out occurrences to give focus. For every example of a Murphy's Law, there are thousands of instances where it did not apply. People just tend to "Focus' on the bad things. If there is a possibility of several things going wrong, the one that will cause the most damage will be the FIRST to go wrong. If you perceive that there are four possible ways in which something can go wrong, and circumvent these, then a fifth way, unprepared for, will promptly develop Corollary: It will be impossible to fix the fifth fault, without breaking the fix on one or more of the others Murphy's Law of Thermodynamics Things get worse under pressure. The Murphy Philosophy Smile . . . tomorrow will be worse. Quantization Revision of Murphy's Laws Everything goes wrong all at once. Murphy's Constant Matter will be damaged in direct proportion to its value Addition to Murphy's Laws In nature, nothing is ever right. Therefore, if everything is going right ... something is wrong. You cannot successfully determine beforehand which side of the bread to butter. He who angers you controls you, there-fore you have no control over your anger. No matter how hard you try, you cannot push a string. Great ideas are never remembered and dumb statements are never forgotten. Being dead right, won't make you any less dead. Whatever you want, you can't have, what you can have, you don't want. Whatever you want to do, is Not possible, what ever is possible for you to do, you don't want to do it. All good things come to those who wait... but , don't wait too long or they will pass you by... like 2 ships that pass in the night... never again to return that same exact site. Long's Law Those who know the least will always know it the loudest. McFalls' Maxim No degree of acceptance can ever change the facts. Translation: You may come to terms with being screwed, but nevertheless you're still screwed. The Law of Stupid Tricks Just because you CAN do something doesn't mean you SHOULD. The Wingwalker's Rule: Don't let go of something until you have a hold of something else. The optimist proclaims that we live in the best of all possible worlds, the pessimist fears this is true. Common Sense Is Not So Common key to happiness is to be O.K. with not being O.K. Law of cooperatives In any particular situation, if three things can go wrong, they usually do in sequence, each facilitating the occurrence of the next If you like these quips there are many more available at the source link. For the longest time I existed in a world of Murphy's Laws. I Looked for the negative, Expected the negative and Found the negative. When I changed my perspective to positive thinking I noticed that there really isn't that much that goes wrong. I now Look for the positive, Expect the positive and See the positive. I now exist in a positive world of contentment. Sometimes things will go wrong but I embrace them and work thru the difficulty if I can. If there is nothing I can do about it, I accept it and move on to something more positive. When we have that bad day or bad week we are concentrating on all the bad things that happen. To break the pattern, we must refocus our attention to things that are positive or fulfilling to us. Its difficult at first but as we continue, those bad days dissolve before us. |
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Many go through those same emotions just some you never know they keep it inside thinking it is the right thing to do.. If this is something that has just started lately. Look at eating habits sleeping habits as well go get a check up.. Women and our hormones lawd help us at times... Not sure if this was brought up or even considered but Menopause if you have gone through it already, at times it still blows our hormones out of the water it seems.. If you have not yet then have that checked it does make the hormones go crazy and cause emotional ups and downs.... Some women have extreme mood swings where others only have mild ones... As many have said letting out your emotions is good for the soul. Ever realized after you have had a good cry how at times you feel as if a weight has lifted? It is due to you have finally realized no matter what you do or how hard you try solving all the problems will not always end the way we want them too... Just do the best you can...and let faith jump in.... Then some days it feels like everything is going wrong had one about a week ago what could go wrong went wrong.. Only thing was I sat back wrote it down and posted it on facebook for a good laugh for really in the end it was all comical... Stress alone can bring on days like that as well... at times just getting away from the situation even for a few minutes can help the soul and mind.... call up mama or a good friend? or you have a group of them? maybe sister in law? someone you can truly be yourself with and not have to pretend what do you like to do that helps put your spirit at ease and your mind back on track again? listen to music? go for a ride with wind in your hair? go for a walk or a run? yoga? meditation? be nice to you |
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Dear PM,
Be kind to yourself You are amazing, gentle, sweet and generous. Remember, God loves you and i do too. Hugs and Happy thoughts your way
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I hope today is a good day for you, pisces.
 ... virtual hugs from cyber friends if they come from the heart can still lift the spirit and make a friend feel better... it's the thought that counts. (((((((pisces)))))))
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