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Topic: Rejection?
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Mon 09/18/17 11:40 PM
with his luck both hands may fall asleep.

theres just no pleasing some people. ha

Toodygirl5's photo
Sat 01/27/18 04:25 PM
Platonic friend first! If I don't want a relationship, I say so and move on! Rejections are a part of life. Most people get rejected at one time or another.

AngelHappiness's photo
Sat 01/27/18 04:46 PM

Awww.. why no heart !!??PhD..
Glad you asked..lol.. because when one person rejects you so many times pushes you away keeps you at arm's distance..
Over and over again..well.. at some Point your heart just grows cold shrivels up and turns to dust..yup...


I am sure that you are nice.. :blush::blush::blush: you're just saying that because you get tired...

If someone rejected you, just walk away.. That means he/she doesn't deserve us. There are people out there that are deserving of our love/ friendship.. people who won't reject us.

Continue loving.. still be soft

Never let your heart be callous because of some bad thigs that happened in your past..

AngelHappiness's photo
Sat 01/27/18 04:56 PM
A- If he's a good person, I will give him a chance to be my friend.. I will invest more time to know him... if he wants to be more than a friend, I will tell him honestly but politely that I am not the girl for him (did that already.. the guy said that's the reasob why I don't have a bf.. i am always running away)

B- I will tell that person that the only thing that I can offer is friendship.. been there done that

C- if our personality will clash well I think there will be misunderstandings.. I will still talk to him but he'll only be a friend and not a partner

Frhe's photo
Sat 01/27/18 11:25 PM
Sorry but, if a girl likes me a lot and I saw signs of friendship I just walk away, I could never see her as a friend

If a female friend gave me some signs of more than friendship, I definitely keep close but not too close, I could never see her in other way

For me a friend is always a friend

AngelHappiness's photo
Sun 01/28/18 12:08 AM

Sorry but, if a girl likes me a lot and I saw signs of friendship I just walk away, I could never see her as a friend

If a female friend gave me some signs of more than friendship, I definitely keep close but not too close, I could never see her in other way

For me a friend is always a friend


Why walk away? Sometimes it's better to just have friends because you can be yourself and you can freely communicate without expecting any... it's still nice if you have friends amd nicer if that friend cares a lot to you :blush::blush::blush:...

Anyway you have your reason...

mysticalview21's photo
Sun 01/28/18 12:20 AM

It's such a taboo word that invokes a lot of hurt feelings for some and anger for others.

But what do you all do?

Example, person A is interested in you and introduces but you have ZERO interest in this person. Not even as a friend. They're that much of a put off. Do you straight out reject them or let them off easy?
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All depend on that person...
mostly let them off easy ...
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Example 2, person B is a wonderful friend but you have no interest in them for romantically or sexually. What do you do?
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stay friends... so long as they can accept that our relationship is platonic...
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Example 3, person C is a great friend and you are interested in them, but you know that your personalities will clash in a horrendous battle on numerous occasions. Do you try it out and hope it goes well
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Know ...I would not let that happen ... stay friends ...
or stay away...

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I am interested in how you all interact in this.

mysticalview21's photo
Sun 01/28/18 12:21 AM


It's such a taboo word that invokes a lot of hurt feelings for some and anger for others.

But what do you all do?

Example, person A is interested in you and introduces but you have ZERO interest in this person. Not even as a friend. They're that much of a put off. Do you straight out reject them or let them off easy?
______________________________________________*
All depend on that person...
mostly let them off easy ...
___________________________________________*



Example 2, person B is a wonderful friend but you have no interest in them for romantically or sexually. What do you do?
___________________________________________________________*
stay friends... so long as they can accept that our relationship is platonic...
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Example 3, person C is a great friend and you are interested in them, but you know that your personalities will clash in a horrendous battle on numerous occasions. Do you try it out and hope it goes well
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Know ...I would not let that happen ... stay friends ...
or stay away...

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Toodygirl5's photo
Sun 01/28/18 07:37 AM


For me a friend is always a friend



Some friends do walk away!

Frhe's photo
Sun 01/28/18 09:03 AM



For me a friend is always a friend



Some friends do walk away!

That’s exactly what I’m talking about

msharmony's photo
Sun 01/28/18 01:07 PM
Edited by msharmony on Sun 01/28/18 01:12 PM

It's such a taboo word that invokes a lot of hurt feelings for some and anger for others.

But what do you all do?

Example, person A is interested in you and introduces but you have ZERO interest in this person. Not even as a friend. They're that much of a put off. Do you straight out reject them or let them off easy?

Example 2, person B is a wonderful friend but you have no interest in them for romantically or sexually. What do you do?

Example 3, person C is a great friend and you are interested in them, but you know that your personalities will clash in a horrendous battle on numerous occasions. Do you try it out and hope it goes well?

I am interested in how you all interact in this.


Well. I try not to set out hard boundaries about individuals and this is why. I believe we are all constantly exposed to opportunities for growth and change. Someone that may not "seem" interesting to me today, well, one day in the future I may discover something new about them that does interest me.

So kind and compassionate honesty is a thing for me. In all examples, I would be honest and kind about what I was feeling at that moment.

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Sun 01/28/18 01:13 PM

It's such a taboo word that invokes a lot of hurt feelings for some and anger for others.

But what do you all do?

Example, person A is interested in you and introduces but you have ZERO interest in this person. Not even as a friend. They're that much of a put off. Do you straight out reject them or let them off easy?

Example 2, person B is a wonderful friend but you have no interest in them for romantically or sexually. What do you do?

Example 3, person C is a great friend and you are interested in them, but you know that your personalities will clash in a horrendous battle on numerous occasions. Do you try it out and hope it goes well?

I am interested in how you all interact in this.


well you keep on searching for Mr. Perfect.. since everyone else won't make your cut.

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Sun 01/28/18 01:49 PM
In all three scenarios, it still comes down to one thing to me.If you don't want me, I don't want you. Rejection is a part of life. I've been rejected so many times I think I've grown cold to it. I don't let it bother me. As far as friends go, I have one. I've known him going on 20 years.

As far as women and the dating thing is concerned, For me, women come and go. To me, there are as many of them as there are drops of water in a month-long rain shower. And, like a lot of other men, I would like to find that "one". But, on the other hand, I'm OK with "me". In other words, I would like to find that "one". But I'm OK if I don't.

I think that for me, that's the reason rejection doesn't bother me that badly. Me personally, (1)I would rather be told flat out that someone isn't interested. Because, if you let it drag on too long someone will wind up feeling led on. No sense in that.

(2)Again, be straight out with them. Let that person know that's how you feel and it's not going to change.

(3)There isn't a person in this world that's perfect. You are going to clash at times. If a person is a good friend to you, and the interest goes both ways, you learn to accept each other's differences. That's what real love is made of. Accept the "bad" of each other. Once you accept it, then you have nothing to argue about. You can move forward and get on with loving each other. The trick is, knowing what you're willing to accept right from the start.


ehtas's photo
Sun 01/28/18 02:32 PM
we should follow our hearts and try not to hurt tjier feeling

Bericyn's photo
Mon 01/29/18 02:14 AM

It's such a taboo word that invokes a lot of hurt feelings for some and anger for others.

But what do you all do?

Example, person A is interested in you and introduces but you have ZERO interest in this person. Not even as a friend. They're that much of a put off. Do you straight out reject them or let them off easy?

Example 2, person B is a wonderful friend but you have no interest in them for romantically or sexually. What do you do?

Example 3, person C is a great friend and you are interested in them, but you know that your personalities will clash in a horrendous battle on numerous occasions. Do you try it out and hope it goes well?

I am interested in how you all interact in this.


Example one: I simply do not reply that way the other person can give himself the benefit of the doubt(less hurtful than outright rejection)

Example two: I continue to be friends and make them know they have been friendzoned.How to friend zone? topic for another day

Example three:thinking

Frhe's photo
Mon 01/29/18 02:37 AM
Life is for living not dwelling on why someone does not reciprocate your attraction

Fully agree, the first thing is to live happy in how you are, not for the acceptance or other

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Mon 01/29/18 06:41 PM
Edited by Ness_a on Mon 01/29/18 06:42 PM

It's such a taboo word that invokes a lot of hurt feelings for some and anger for others.

But what do you all do?

Example, person A is interested in you and introduces but you have ZERO interest in this person. Not even as a friend. They're that much of a put off. Do you straight out reject them or let them off easy?

Example 2, person B is a wonderful friend but you have no interest in them for romantically or sexually. What do you do?

Example 3, person C is a great friend and you are interested in them, but you know that your personalities will clash in a horrendous battle on numerous occasions. Do you try it out and hope it goes well?

I am interested in how you all interact in this.


I may not fully understand these scenarios. So correct me if I'm not on board here.

What I'm seeing is three men I'm currently friends with; one who's highly irritating, one who I'm not physically attracted to, and one who is attractive, but irritates me.

I already know these guys. I don't want to date any of them, but they are three of the best friends I have. Though all of us have to ignore "Guy A" frequently. You're right...he can be very off-putting. :rolling_eyes:


Goofball73's photo
Mon 01/29/18 07:26 PM

It's such a taboo word that invokes a lot of hurt feelings for some and anger for others.

But what do you all do?

Example, person A is interested in you and introduces but you have ZERO interest in this person. Not even as a friend. They're that much of a put off. Do you straight out reject them or let them off easy?

Example 2, person B is a wonderful friend but you have no interest in them for romantically or sexually. What do you do?

Example 3, person C is a great friend and you are interested in them, but you know that your personalities will clash in a horrendous battle on numerous occasions. Do you try it out and hope it goes well?

I am interested in how you all interact in this.


1. Today, this is easy to handle (via rejection) in that texting is the norm. As such, if you have zero interest, you simply do not respond. Emails fall into this as well. However, back in the days, you simply had to man up....or send a note that said "No". Yeah, it was harsh but telling someone no usually is.

2. Ahhhh....the friend zone....because this is exactly what this is. This person is the friend (of the opposite sex) who is awesome....but either their looks hold you back or you simply see them as a sister/brother type. You do love this person...just not in the romantic way. You may have tried it once in the past with this person, but it just didn't click. You have to risk telling them that it wasn't the same for you and hope that they can be happy in the friend zone. If not, you more than likely won't see that person ever again.

3. I had this happened to me...at one point I dated three girls back to back to back....and all three fell into this catagory. In all three cases the sex was great but at times the disagreements would be brutal. I simply had to break it off, and none of these break offs was pretty....meaning they hated me for a bit. I still talk to two of them on occasion and the other is married now and feels I am a big jerk (all because I was honest...she couldn't handle me breaking it off with her).

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