if you only have one chance to impress a girl by taking her out on a date, where would you take her? how would you do it? when would be the right time?

My Dungeon...
Burlap sack...
During the night...

the goal is to impress and not scare her out of her wits

Where ever she wanted, how ever she asked, whenever she asked.

hey Stu what if she wants to be surprised and impressed

I have many tools that can leave a lasting impression...

Considering that I am not going to try to impress a date, the where is not important. If I need to impress her, she is not the one.

Now, if she is impressed with me being me, that is something that interests me. Only then can we actually have a "Date".

To me, the "date" is not how much money you spend or the clothes you wear. Its not about the finest wine or the most succulent meats. Its not about the places you go or the other people you see.

Its about getting to know the other as they actually are in life. Its about enjoying each others company no matter where you are.

that is if she doesn’t try to escape first

but Tom what if you’re really attracted to her you have to get her attention somehow and impress her by any means necessary right?

I disagree with one post at least.

I think it is about nice food and wine.

Who on earth would want a first date in Burger King.

Nature shows us the man has to impress, the peacock with his long tail and vivid colours. The deer or buck with his impressive antlers.

Like it or lump it, making an effort beats the, if she don't like the way I am stuff her, outlook anyday.
A couch potato will attract another couch potato.

I was wondering the same thing ss. I get what Tom's saying and agree that it's not about how much money you spend, the clothes, or fancy wining and dining stuff....But I believe it's most woman's hearts desire to have a guy try and impress her in some way.

Me personally, I would love a man to take that extra little step to wow me on a date. It doesn't have to be anything huge or even big. Something as simple as preparing a picnic lunch with some of the goodies he knows I like...or picking some wild flowers to give me. Pretty much anything that shows me he's taken the time go beyond just showing up.


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couldn’t have said it any better

dinner and a movie or bowling or a sporting event. I wouldn't be focused on impressing her I would nust be myself. When I see people trying to impress others it seems fake.

Wild Strawberries? Cornish clotted cream.
Cornwall is about 400 odd miles from me, but I'd drive there just get some cream for you The best in the world or so Cornish people say anyway. It is beautiful mind you.

Wow...that would totally impress me

Everyone loves a wheelie I'm going to ask her to meet me at the motocross track, at a time when there's 10 minutes to the end of a competition in which I'm one of the contestants. Well obviously I already asked the competitors, who are all my friends BTW, to let me win. After winning I'm gonna slowly approach her on my bike in my helmet and everything. Then I'll shout: "Hey, ur date just beat all the guys to meet you."

Attention does not require impressiveness.
Your OP parameters were for during a date.

Date implies first contact has already been achieved.
It implies that she has already become interested in me because she agreed to go on a date with me.


NO - I've lived that life, it doesn't work.
Anything that is done beyond normal is a lie, a facade, a fabrication, an act.
If I take great care to impress a woman just so she will like me I am forced to adopt those behaviors to keep her interest.
Its better to just be 'good ole me' and then I am not required to be someone I am not.

Once we have been together for awhile (and know each other's normal lives) there can be times when a 'special occasion' calls for extravagance. She knows that I made special provisions just for us to have an exceptional date because it has greater significance. That 'Bump' in normalcy shows her that I am aware of things that are special to her.

I see the first date as a test. Not quite sure if I like her as much as I think and not quite sure she likes me as much as I think.
Its for establishing true identity with her to see if we have commonalities. Commonalities of natural behaviors because I am not looking for just someone to date or a name in a book. I want a woman that I can hang out and be myself with.
We go to raves together because we like raves.
We go to museums together because we like museums.
We have picnics together because we like to have picnics.
We do the things we do (have dates) because we like the people we are together.

Tom, is wise.

I know how to impress.
I know how to wine and dine someone.
I can get dressed to the nines.
Some occasions even call for it.
Normal dating does not.

Many see dating as a device to self-gratification.
I see dating as a way to understand the woman better and to allow her to understand me.
It is an act of entertainment and unification.

I have confidence and decisiveness no matter where I am.
I use my intelligence and have control over my emotions.
I have focus and allow others to be themselves.
These are my 'normalcy'.

I'd rather be with a woman that is impressed with my normalcy than any woman that is impressed by my clothes or eating habits. [edited]Or venue choices.

BTW, I don't really do fast food but can if she wants to.